Galaxy Gazer
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- Dec 27, 2015
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Filtered opinion: literally any man, because being a decent person has nothing to do with testosterone.
Unfiltered opinion: a man who exudes confidence and is generally perceived by his social circle as a figure of strength, dominance, honor, and intellectual authority. An example of a "real man" in my opinion is that guy who can tell you about any topic because of his life experience and not what he read on the internet. He has built computers, fixed cars, been engaged, been cheated on, talked a friend out of self-harm, gotten in fights, and probably been arrested. As a result, he is the go-to person for literally everything from bar recommendations to confrontation backup to legal advice.
Is it attainable? I actually know a guy like this, so yes, but I think it's more of a personality trait that a person either has or doesn't have, than a standard that every guy should try to achieve. Speaking in terms of MBTI, I think it's a Te thing.
Obviously, men who aren't like this are still real men. I would just call this select group "alpha males" or something similar. They're what society tells us is desirable.
I think men put so much effort into being one of these "real men" that they forget to be themselves. Of course, a lot of women do the exact same thing (the equivalent probably being the "hot girl" who is the envy of everyone). I don't think it makes it harder for a man to be a man. The key is to surround yourself with people who aren't shallow, but no one wants to do that because non-shallow people are typically "flawed" as well.
Unfiltered opinion: a man who exudes confidence and is generally perceived by his social circle as a figure of strength, dominance, honor, and intellectual authority. An example of a "real man" in my opinion is that guy who can tell you about any topic because of his life experience and not what he read on the internet. He has built computers, fixed cars, been engaged, been cheated on, talked a friend out of self-harm, gotten in fights, and probably been arrested. As a result, he is the go-to person for literally everything from bar recommendations to confrontation backup to legal advice.
Is it attainable? I actually know a guy like this, so yes, but I think it's more of a personality trait that a person either has or doesn't have, than a standard that every guy should try to achieve. Speaking in terms of MBTI, I think it's a Te thing.
Obviously, men who aren't like this are still real men. I would just call this select group "alpha males" or something similar. They're what society tells us is desirable.
I think men put so much effort into being one of these "real men" that they forget to be themselves. Of course, a lot of women do the exact same thing (the equivalent probably being the "hot girl" who is the envy of everyone). I don't think it makes it harder for a man to be a man. The key is to surround yourself with people who aren't shallow, but no one wants to do that because non-shallow people are typically "flawed" as well.