How does it feel like to be a female ESTJ? Have you met any female ISTJs and what similarities/differences are there?
My cousin (a sophomore? in high school) is an ISTJ and a girl. I'm a WHOLE LOT sillier than her. I think she brings out the Ne in me - I'll be making silly jokes, and she'll just raise an eyebrow at me, or shake her head. Also, her sense of humor is darker - like a less weird version of NT humor, I think. Her beliefs are also, I think, deeper held than mine are, which has less to do with the beliefs and more to do with her personality; i.e. it seems like many of her beliefs are so deeply held that she can't express them to the extent that she feels them, and therefore if you disagree with her, you CANNOT REASON WITH HER. I have yet to convince her of anything, ever. Whereas, I'd like to think that, no matter how deeply I believe something, given the right amount of evidence to the contrary, from credible sources, I'd change my mind.
Many people on here are guessing that I'm either ESTJ or ISTJ and I'm curious as to how different they might be, especially since I seem to be more expressive than most ISTJs (like my dad, who is really stoic and I have never seen him cry before) but still relate more to introverts on most of the other stuff.
And... it's rare to find female xSTJs online or offline, or at seems like it for me, so I can't really find any HUGE similarities between anyone and I... Also, I don't seem to fit into society as well as they portray SJs to be, kinda like an oddball so I was wondering how much gender role is affecting that or if it affects that at all.
Thanks!
It's probably gender. I've noticed that xSTJ descriptions online are very... manly. There are GREAT BIG HUGE PARAGRAPHS of ESTJ descriptions that I don't even remotely relate to. For example, from personalitypage.com, I relate to this very, VERY well:
their expressions can be taken at face-value, because the ESTJ is extremely straight-forward and honest.
But I don't relate to this:
They have such a clear vision of the way that things should be, that they naturally step into leadership roles. They are self-confident and aggressive.
^This, I think, comes from being female, because I don't naturally step into leadership roles because I'm afraid of failure and/or embarrassing myself, which, I've read somewhere (in a "Men are from mars, women are from venus"-type thing) is more feminine than masculine.
But I'm still definitely an ESTJ. I'm just less aggressive, and (depending on who you talk to) a warmer and friendlier person than one would expect an ESTJ to be. Gender affects it, as does how I was raised. If I were you, I'd try to break it down function-wise, or into the most universal of type descriptions.