My copied-and-pasted answer from earlier is below:
Miscommunication is definitely a problem between ESTJs and INFPs, since INFPs are one of the most dreamy types, and ESTJs are probably the most grounded in reality, in my experience. They just live in completely different worlds.
I'm not sure how I would make relations with ESTJs easier. I get the feeling that ESTJs aren't as aware of what makes INFPs so different, so they don't realize that they actually need to WORK at the friendship, not go blindly into it. So usually with bad ESTJ-INFP relationships, the ESTJ would be at fault for being so inherently relationship-stupid.
Now, I think I'm kind of an exception here (not to the relationship-stupid thing - that describes me pretty well too), because for some reason almost all of my friends are N, so I'm used to being on a different wavelength from them. Also, most of my N friends are introverted, so with them I make sure that I give them some space. INFJs especially - if they've got something going on and won't talk to me about it, I've learned to walk away. But I'm guessing that most ESTJs haven't had the experience that I've had with dreamy INxx's, so they wouldn't necessarily know what's expected. Also they wouldn't know that it's OKAY to have no effing clue how their minds work! You can still be friendly if they make zero sense to you. (My relationship with an ENTP friend is a good example of this - I've known her for years, and I still don't understand her AT ALL.)
Besides that, I guess - well, I was reading an article a while back about how whever there are problems in a relationship with one person getting angry about small things that the other person does, then the solution is not to stop the small things from happening; the solution is to get over it. That's the way they are. I know that many INFPs hate ESTJs just for being so status quo, and for "trying to force their beliefs on other people". I know that based on my limited experience with INFPs, I don't like how incredibly inaccurate they can be, and how they can seem so intellectual and hyperarticulate and still frickin' pronounce "nuclear" like "nook-yoo-lurr"!!! But if ESTJs and INFPs can just learn to ACCEPT the annoying qualities of the other, then I have no doubt that relationships between them would go smoother. (That's WAY harder than it sounds, since they're both stubborn types based on my experience, but I'm speaking hypothetically.)