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is it OK to be angry at God?

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Isn't that very similar to the assumption you just described as dangerous? The only difference being you assumed he (she, it, what..who) was grieving with you, as opposed to ineffable ignorance.

I differentiate the two based on what I have learned from study and my own experience. Theologians with far more knowledge than I have tackled these issues, and some I have found to have sufficient evidence and answers for why they believe what they do that has inspired me. I sadly do not have the best memory for such things but I know for example that Jesus mourned the death of Lazarus when he saw his friends crying. Passages like that move me and show a picture of God that I can get behind. I see no such passage of where God pets a fluffy white cat on his lap while saying "Excellent" as he watches twelve monitors showing death and decay. ;)

(I also tend to think that the viewpoint of God purposefully going after them with bad things, or even that of where God ignores them and their plight as being rather self-centered.)

In either case someone is assuming something about god without the possibility of being infallible.

Over the abyss that looks back I leap.
 

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God is not responsible for all the bad things in the world or in our lives, though he is responsible for some (he does want us to learn and grow). No matter the cause of the trials in our lives, his love is there for us, to comfort us, to help us see as he sees.

Ultimately, we just need to align our will to his and endure whatever comes our way, though we definitely can get upset about the path.....

In regards to the bold, I have witnessed something like this in my own life. I sort of nuance it differently though in that I don't think God was responsible for the initial Bad Thing that occurred but that his vision for my life was better fulfilled by not preventing it from occurring.

It is such a bittersweet and entangled and difficult situation to see from so many sides at once, like being aware of all sides of a dodecahedron. It is something that makes me feel like I am seeing the face of God in what occurred and feels very strange. #makesnosense :)
 

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In regards to the bold, I have witnessed something like this in my own life. I sort of nuance it differently though in that I don't think God was responsible for the initial Bad Thing that occurred but that his vision for my life was better fulfilled by not preventing it from occurring.

It is such a bittersweet and entangled and difficult situation to see from so many sides at once, like being aware of all sides of a dodecahedron. It is something that makes me feel like I am seeing the face of God in what occurred and feels very strange. #makesnosense :)

One of my current struggles, one that my therapist insightfully pointed out last week, is that the clearest direction I have received from God in my life, those moments when I felt extremely inspired to take a certain path, have all led to great challenges. As such, I am worried about what He has in store for me next. Do I really want the answers and guidance I ask for everyday, given where things have gone so far.

I would have avoided all these challenges if I had not received his input. I would have never married my wife, adopted my sons, changed careers, declined jobs, without God guiding my path, yet every one of those things has led mostly to pain and anguish. If I had made the choices on my own, I would be beating myself up for screwing up so royally. I just decided to go along with his guidance...

I might be a better person today for all that, but I can fully blame (or thank) God for the challenges, given I went along with divine guidance in each occasion. Again, I guess I could have rejected what I felt (and still feel) was inspiration from God, but not me. I went along. Maybe one day I will be happy for these challenges, but for now, I am sad and angry, even as I submit to His will.

God did not cause my adopted sons to have severe behavioral issues, their birth moms did by using drugs while pregnant. God didn't cause the trauma that occurred in my wife's life that has so deeply damaged our marriage and my life. But He is the reason I have to deal with them. Maybe they needed me in their lives, which is fine, but my life would be far better today if none were in my life..... which is a horrible but true thing to say..... of course, maybe that was the only way for me to grow as well.....
 

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I differentiate the two based on what I have learned from study and my own experience. Theologians with far more knowledge than I have tackled these issues, and some I have found to have sufficient evidence and answers for why they believe what they do that has inspired me. I sadly do not have the best memory for such things but I know for example that Jesus mourned the death of Lazarus when he saw his friends crying. Passages like that move me and show a picture of God that I can get behind. I see no such passage of where God pets a fluffy white cat on his lap while saying "Excellent" as he watches twelve monitors showing death and decay. ;)

(I also tend to think that the viewpoint of God purposefully going after them with bad things, or even that of where God ignores them and their plight as being rather self-centered.)


Over the abyss that looks back I leap.

 

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One of my current struggles, one that my therapist insightfully pointed out last week, is that the clearest direction I have received from God in my life, those moments when I felt extremely inspired to take a certain path, have all led to great challenges. As such, I am worried about what He has in store for me next. Do I really want the answers and guidance I ask for everyday, given where things have gone so far.

I would have avoided all these challenges if I had not received his input. I would have never married my wife, adopted my sons, changed careers, declined jobs, without God guiding my path, yet every one of those things has led mostly to pain and anguish. If I had made the choices on my own, I would be beating myself up for screwing up so royally. I just decided to go along with his guidance...

I might be a better person today for all that, but I can fully blame (or thank) God for the challenges, given I went along with divine guidance in each occasion. Again, I guess I could have rejected what I felt (and still feel) was inspiration from God, but not me. I went along. Maybe one day I will be happy for these challenges, but for now, I am sad and angry, even as I submit to His will.

God did not cause my adopted sons to have severe behavioral issues, their birth moms did by using drugs while pregnant. God didn't cause the trauma that occurred in my wife's life that has so deeply damaged our marriage and my life. But He is the reason I have to deal with them. Maybe they needed me in their lives, which is fine, but my life would be far better today if none were in my life..... which is a horrible but true thing to say..... of course, maybe that was the only way for me to grow as well.....

This sounds like doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I realize you said only believers should reply but....damn. It sounds like you have two choices. Continue to make choices that cause you suffering or listen to your own heart and mind. Why do you put no faith in yourself and your abilities? If you must, think of it like this - god gave you strength and ability to believe in yourself and make your own choices. Use those things.
 

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This sounds like doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I realize you said only believers should reply but....damn. It sounds like you have two choices. Continue to make choices that cause you suffering or listen to your own heart and mind. Why do you put no faith in yourself and your abilities? If you must, think of it like this - god gave you strength and ability to believe in yourself and make your own choices. Use those things.

Yes. I can and do make my own choices. I listen to my heart regularly, if not constantly.

But as a believer, I strongly believe that part of life is learning to align my life with God's will. Just because we don't see the short term benefits of a thing doesn't mean we don't gain from the experience. If this life is about becoming the best person I can be, I trust his guidance, even if his path isn't easy.

I know I have grown tremendously as a person by choosing to follow what I know to be right, even if the challenges are severe. It is a no pain, no gain situation. I am a much better person today than I was 20 years ago.

I decided to stay with my wife in May even as I strongly felt God telling me I had done enough, and I could go. I made the choice.

It is hard to explain to a nonbeliever how I can both exercise my own agency to act for myself and yet follow God's guidance.

Looking back, I would have ditched my wife six months before we got married but for a very clear bit of inspiration. If I hadn't married her, I likely would have subconsciously looked for another messed up person to marry, especially after having been through such a intense relationship with her. She is the person I needed to heal from childhood... I am too damn arrogant to have ever admitted I needed help without having a major crisis like I have experienced.

God doesn't control my life. He does try to help me reach my full potential. And he isn't always gentle. But that is OK.

As my therapist said, what if there are no more major challenges after this.... what if the rest of my life is an easy breeze in comparison. Wouldn't that make all the struggles sweeter? Wouldn't I be able to appreciate the good so much more?

My faith has grown, through all this, as well.

If my goal was to maximize pleasure in my life, then I would consider myself a failure. If my goal was to maximize power, likewise.

However, if my goal is to become the very best person I could ever be, I am well down that road. I have grown in ways I could never have thought possible.

So, I am am grateful for the challenges I have, but I can be angry that they are just that, challenges.

I know I can do almost anything on my own, but I am strengthened through this process, as God helps my weaknesses become stronger and expands my understanding.
 

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Yes. I can and do make my own choices. I listen to my heart regularly, if not constantly.

But as a believer, I strongly believe that part of life is learning to align my life with God's will. Just because we don't see the short term benefits of a thing doesn't mean we don't gain from the experience. If this life is about becoming the best person I can be, I trust his guidance, even if his path isn't easy.

I know I have grown tremendously as a person by choosing to follow what I know to be right, even if the challenges are severe. It is a no pain, no gain situation. I am a much better person today than I was 20 years ago.

I decided to stay with my wife in May even as I strongly felt God telling me I had done enough, and I could go. I made the choice.

It is hard to explain to a nonbeliever how I can both exercise my own agency to act for myself and yet follow God's guidance.

Looking back, I would have ditched my wife six months before we got married but for a very clear bit of inspiration. If I hadn't married her, I likely would have subconsciously looked for another messed up person to marry, especially after having been through such a intense relationship with her. She is the person I needed to heal from childhood... I am too damn arrogant to have ever admitted I needed help without having a major crisis like I have experienced.

God doesn't control my life. He does try to help me reach my full potential. And he isn't always gentle. But that is OK.

As my therapist said, what if there are no more major challenges after this.... what if the rest of my life is an easy breeze in comparison. Wouldn't that make all the struggles sweeter? Wouldn't I be able to appreciate the good so much more?

My faith has grown, through all this, as well.

If my goal was to maximize pleasure in my life, then I would consider myself a failure. If my goal was to maximize power, likewise.

However, if my goal is to become the very best person I could ever be, I am well down that road. I have grown in ways I could never have thought possible.

So, I am am grateful for the challenges I have, but I can be angry that they are just that, challenges.

I know I can do almost anything on my own, but I am strengthened through this process, as God helps my weaknesses become stronger and expands my understanding.

What I was addressing specifically was this.

I would have avoided all these challenges if I had not received his input. I would have never married my wife, adopted my sons, changed careers, declined jobs, without God guiding my path, yet every one of those things has led mostly to pain and anguish.

So I guess I don't understand how you can write that, then backtrack to saying basically the opposite.
 

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What I was addressing specifically was this.



So I guess I don't understand how you can write that, then backtrack to saying basically the opposite.

Easy. No pain, no gain. Just because we have struggles in life doesn't mean that is bad for us long term. Think of us as being like gold nuggets taken out of the river. We need to refined into pure gold. The fire is necessary for the process.

I can hate the fire, but appreciate the result. But being in the middle of the fire sucks.

Now, is it better to grow without the fire? Yes. But we are stubborn folks. We get stuck in our ways. Our minds get blinded.

I have encountered an idea in many sources, religious and non religious, that life gives us the necessary challenges to adapt and improve. And we keep encountering the same problems until we master them.

I needed my challenges. I don't have to like or enjoy them. Hopefully one day they will be gone. And I will look back, hopefully, with graditude.
 

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First, according to the Bible (and I will assume that as a "Christian" you agree with what the Bible says), God does not cause evil things to happen.

Deut 32:4 - The Rock, perfect is his activity, For all his ways are justice. A God of faithfulness who is never unjust; Righteous and upright is he.
Ps 5:4 - For you are not a God who takes pleasure in wickedness. ...
Job 34:10,12 - So listen to me, you men of understanding: It is unthinkable for the true God to act wickedly, For the Almighty to do wrong! ... For a certainty, God does not act wickedly; The Almighty does not pervert justice.
James 1:13 - Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted by evil, and he himself tempts no one.

God may allow evil things to happen to us, but he does not make them happen.

Yes. I can and do make my own choices. I listen to my heart regularly, if not constantly.

I decided to stay with my wife in May even as I strongly felt God telling me I had done enough, and I could go. I made the choice.

Though while I sympathize with you and the pain you have gone through, these two statements make me cringe just a little. As is common with many, people are guided by their hearts. But that is not always a good thing. While the scriptures do advise us to develop a "complete", "lowly", "obedient", "wise" and 'unified' heart toward God and to worship him with our "whole" heart (Matthew 22:37), it also warns us against developing a "wicked", "divided", "hard" heart or one whose 'inclination is bad' (Gen 8:21) - which the latter I am not insinuating is so in your case. Jeremiah aptly warned: "The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; Who can understand it?" (Jer 17:9) The main point is that we need to be guided by God's principles and guidelines with which we train our hearts. Not to just go with whatever we feel.

That is why the second statement seemed off to me. I would sincerely like to know why you think 'God was telling you that you had done enough, and could go'. Because leaving (and I mean divorcing in this sense) your wife, except on the grounds of adultery is wrong according to God's standards in the scriptures. I'm glad to hear you didn't leave her, and I think that is actually what God wanted you to do. But I'm concerned that you think because you had "strong" feelings to leave that it was God prompting you to do so. Do you consider that the thought of leaving was in your heart?

Now I may be way off base on your situation, have no idea about the specifics, and am asking for details I am in no way entitled to. I humbly apologize if I am in error. In a non-personal, but generalized way, I often observe that persons of faith may have very strong feelings and urges about things, feel it in their "heart", and those strong emotions might be interpreted as coming from God. But that might not be the case. Especially if any action being urged is against God's prior stated principles and laws (found in the Scriptures), then those strong emotions most certainly are not from God.
 

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First, according to the Bible (and I will assume that as a "Christian" you agree with what the Bible says), God does not cause evil things to happen.

Deut 32:4 - The Rock, perfect is his activity, For all his ways are justice. A God of faithfulness who is never unjust; Righteous and upright is he.
Ps 5:4 - For you are not a God who takes pleasure in wickedness. ...
Job 34:10,12 - So listen to me, you men of understanding: It is unthinkable for the true God to act wickedly, For the Almighty to do wrong! ... For a certainty, God does not act wickedly; The Almighty does not pervert justice.
James 1:13 - Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted by evil, and he himself tempts no one.

God may allow evil things to happen to us, but he does not make them happen.
Does justice prevent God from trying us out of love? Justice doesn't prevent bad things frm happening. Justice may require bad things happen to us, by his will. Was the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah mere happenstance? Or the justice of God to destroy a people who deserved it?

God is just and full of mercy. But we are all imperfect sinners. And heaven will be full of imperfect sinners. God's ways are always divine and enlightened, even when we cannot see it.

Not every trial comes from God. Some are the consequences of the bad acts of others. Some are temptations from the evil one. But let's not forbid God from having the power to do whatever he sees fit, including try us.

Though while I sympathize with you and the pain you have gone through, these two statements make me cringe just a little. As is common with many, people are guided by their hearts. But that is not always a good thing. While the scriptures do advise us to develop a "complete", "lowly", "obedient", "wise" and 'unified' heart toward God and to worship him with our "whole" heart (Matthew 22:37), it also warns us against developing a "wicked", "divided", "hard" heart or one whose 'inclination is bad' (Gen 8:21) - which the latter I am not insinuating is so in your case. Jeremiah aptly warned: "The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; Who can understand it?" (Jer 17:9) The main point is that we need to be guided by God's principles and guidelines with which we train our hearts. Not to just go with whatever we feel.

That is why the second statement seemed off to me. I would sincerely like to know why you think 'God was telling you that you had done enough, and could go'. Because leaving (and I mean divorcing in this sense) your wife, except on the grounds of adultery is wrong according to God's standards in the scriptures. I'm glad to hear you didn't leave her, and I think that is actually what God wanted you to do. But I'm concerned that you think because you had "strong" feelings to leave that it was God prompting you to do so. Do you consider that the thought of leaving was in your heart?

Now I may be way off base on your situation, have no idea about the specifics, and am asking for details I am in no way entitled to. I humbly apologize if I am in error. In a non-personal, but generalized way, I often observe that persons of faith may have very strong feelings and urges about things, feel it in their "heart", and those strong emotions might be interpreted as coming from God. But that might not be the case. Especially if any action being urged is against God's prior stated principles and laws (found in the Scriptures), then those strong emotions most certainly are not from God.

How does a God speak to you? I have felt a burning in my belly, thoughts and words coming into my brain, and a brief glimpse of a future, among other things. I have fasted, prayed, mediated, and pondered. I have felt his love and his guidance. I know the difference between the desires of my heart and his guidance. I am not new to this rodeo.

Imagine yourself waking up, as if from an unpleasant dream, and finding that your life, which you believed to be difficult, was really a nightmare of epic proportions, so unbelievably awful that words can not describe it. Imagine having a pain at your heart, not physical, but emotional, as enormous as the heavens.

Then you might start to understand where I was.

I will not recite my story here--it can be found in my blog, which used to be available to read until I moved it to private blogs a month or ago.

But I heard the words of God in my mind, confirmed by the Holy Spirit, that I had done enough. I could leave my wife blameless in his eyes. Again, I will not recite the particulars, but have no doubt, that as much as God directed me to marry my wife 20 years earlier, he told me I could leave with clean hands.

Even as I write this, I am full of his Spirit, heart burning as talked about in Luke 24:32.

Doubt all you want. My faith is secure. I know God lives. I know he loves me. And I know he has made my life extremely difficult. But that is OK. He knows I can handle it and that it is for my own growth as well as for the benefit of others.
 

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How does a God speak to you? I have felt a burning in my belly, thoughts and words coming into my brain, and a brief glimpse of a future, among other things. I have fasted, prayed, mediated, and pondered. I have felt his love and his guidance. I know the difference between the desires of my heart and his guidance. I am not new to this rodeo.

I like that. I relate to the bolded. What's your denomination?
 

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I am not exactly a person that should be posting here but after everthing that OP wrote about life problems I must say that in my country there is the saying:


God helps those who help themselves.
 

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I am not exactly a person that should be posting here but after everthing that OP wrote about life problems I must say that in my country there is the saying:

A very good saying. Being actively engaged is important, rather than waiting for things to happen.... but some things cannot be fixed in life by action. Many times it requires inaction and non-reaction, which cam be harder than just doing.
 

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A very good saying. Being actively engaged is important, rather than waiting for things to happen.... but some things cannot be fixed in life by action. Many times it requires inaction and non-reaction, which cam be harder than just doing.


None the less even this still falls into "people who help themselves" category.
Choosing not to act is also the way to acting, however it is acting that requires little investment and good self-control. The point of the story is that all decisions should be conciously/realistically made.


I am not the type of person you were asking for advice, therefore I will not push the issue into details. I just though that the saying migh be of some use to you.
 

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Does justice prevent God from trying us out of love?
If that trial violates God's standards of justice, then YES, it would prevent him from doing it. Besides, how can you think that God acting out of love means doing something morally wrong? According to the scriptures, it doesn't work that way. Don't forget that God sets the standards of what is good and bad. If you feel differently, fine, but you would be contradicting what the Bible says about God.

Justice doesn't prevent bad things frm happening. Justice may require bad things happen to us, by his will. Was the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah mere happenstance? Or the justice of God to destroy a people who deserved it?
I never said God's justice would prevent bad things from happening. I just said that God would not be the cause of "bad things" if those "bad things" were unjust, or morally wrong according to God's standards. Your example is a very good demonstration of this distinction!

The destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah was certainly "bad" for those who underwent it, but that action was not unjust or morally wrong according to God's standards (which standards are clearly defined in the Bible). Laws usually include with them a penalty for breaking the law. So if one breaks the law and then suffers the penalty, which penalty is undoubtably 'bad' for them, but you cannot morally blame the lawgiver for the bad you suffer. Yes, it was just for God to destroy those people because they deserved it according to his not-unknown standards.

God is just and full of mercy. But we are all imperfect sinners. And heaven will be full of imperfect sinners. God's ways are always divine and enlightened, even when we cannot see it.

Not every trial comes from God. Some are the consequences of the bad acts of others. Some are temptations from the evil one. But let's not forbid God from having the power to do whatever he sees fit, including try us.

I'm with you right up to the last statement. I am not saying that God doesn't have "the power to do whatever he sees fit". I am saying that by God's own standards of love and justice, along with his power and wisdom, he forbids himself from acting against those standards. In other words, God can do whatever he sees fit to do, but he will never "see fit to do" something that is against his own principles. There are plenty of scriptural examples of this.

How does a God speak to you?
First and primarily, through the inspired scriptures. If he happens to add to that, say via a dream, vision, thoughts, feelings, etc,., it would never be to urge you to do something that conflicts with his principles already stated in his WORD.

I have felt a burning in my belly, thoughts and words coming into my brain, and a brief glimpse of a future, among other things. I have fasted, prayed, mediated, and pondered. I have felt his love and his guidance. I know the difference between the desires of my heart and his guidance. I am not new to this rodeo.

Imagine yourself waking up, as if from an unpleasant dream, and finding that your life, which you believed to be difficult, was really a nightmare of epic proportions, so unbelievably awful that words can not describe it. Imagine having a pain at your heart, not physical, but emotional, as enormous as the heavens.

Then you might start to understand where I was.

OK, so how do you know that the 'burning in your belly, thoughts coming to your brain, etc' was from God? Did those burning thoughts correspond to God's principles and purposes already stated in the Bible? Or are you saying so just because the feelings associated with your thoughts were so intense? If the latter is your only reason, then sorry, but that is not good enough to warrant it as coming from God.

Again, I have no compulsion to minimize the intensity of your experience other than to point out that statements like "a nightmare of epic proportions", "so unbelievably awful", "a pain at your heart...as enormous as the heavens", are very subjective terms. Do you really think your experience was so bad that you were enduring more than you could handle? Was your experience more or less worse than experiences that others have gone through? Compared to faithful men of old, like Abraham, Job, David, John the Baptist, Paul, or even Christ himself, where do you think you rank?

But lets say we concede to it being fact that your experience was the worst it could possibly be for you. Well, for one, Christians should expect persecution and tests (2 Timothy 3:12; Matthew 16:24; Acts 14:22) God will not allow us to be tested in our faith beyond what we can bear. (1Co 10:13; 2Co 4:9) And he values our endurance when we persevere under trials. (Matthew 24:13; Luke 21:19). So do you really think that there are any circumstances where he would encourage you to do something that obviously goes against his stated principles that have been around for millenia?

But I heard the words of God in my mind, confirmed by the Holy Spirit, that I had done enough. I could leave my wife blameless in his eyes. Again, I will not recite the particulars, but have no doubt, that as much as God directed me to marry my wife 20 years earlier, he told me I could leave with clean hands.

Sorry, I just don't buy it. What words did you hear? Something like: 'You have had a hard time and done well, it's ok to leave'? Despite the fact that 'leaving' is against clearly defined Godly principles. Despite the numerous Biblical examples of people that did endure and not violate God's principles and were rewarded, as well as Biblical examples of people that did not hold fast and disobeyed God's principles and then received due condemnation. Do you really think your unique circumstances warranted you an exception?

Nope. Extreme emotions themselves and a sincere desire to get out of a bad situation are not convincing evidence of divinely inspired thoughts. If you really want to know God's thoughts, consider what he records in the Scriptures. There, staying in a bad marriage may indeed be a bad situation, but leaving a bad marriage without proper grounds is worse. Glad to hear that in the end you chose the proper course.
 

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If that trial violates God's standards of justice, then YES, it would prevent him from doing it.
Do you know the mind and will of God? Do you fully comprehend all that he is and can do? Do you limit his power?

I don't pretend to know all things, especially concerning God. I know God will always be just. He will always be loving. But neither you or I know his mind well enough to decide what he will do or will not do.

Besides, how can you think that God acting out of love means doing something morally wrong? According to the scriptures, it doesn't work that way. Don't forget that God sets the standards of what is good and bad. If you feel differently, fine, but you would be contradicting what the Bible says about God.
The Bible is the word of God. But it doesn't limit God. It is for man, not for him. God actions will never be morally wrong, but may not make sense at all times. Foe example, killing is bad, but God ordered the Israelites to clear the promise land, killing the prior inhabitants. We call that ethnic cleansing today....

Again, God isn't limited by our concepts and ideas or by our understanding of his ways.

I never said God's justice would prevent bad things from happening. I just said that God would not be the cause of "bad things" if those "bad things" were unjust, or morally wrong according to God's standards. Your example is a very good demonstration of this distinction!

The destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah was certainly "bad" for those who underwent it, but that action was not unjust or morally wrong according to God's standards (which standards are clearly defined in the Bible). Laws usually include with them a penalty for breaking the law. So if one breaks the law and then suffers the penalty, which penalty is undoubtably 'bad' for them, but you cannot morally blame the lawgiver for the bad you suffer. Yes, it was just for God to destroy those people because they deserved it according to his not-unknown standards.

The people of Sodom were beyond redemption, but did they ever really have the knowledge necessary to be held to God's standards? Plus Sodom was full of young children? Had they sinned in the cradle?

I am not criticizing the destruction. I am merely pointing that God isn't bound to be fair when he doesn't want to be.... he washes his hands with nations, even when they sin in ignorance.

I'm with you right up to the last statement. I am not saying that God doesn't have "the power to do whatever he sees fit". I am saying that by God's own standards of love and justice, along with his power and wisdom, he forbids himself from acting against those standards. In other words, God can do whatever he sees fit to do, but he will never "see fit to do" something that is against his own principles. There are plenty of scriptural examples of this.
Again, you don't know how he defines things for himself. God is not limited by puny human understanding. He will always do this in accordance to his will, in a just manner, we just will not always understand it.

First and primarily, through the inspired scriptures. If he happens to add to that, say via a dream, vision, thoughts, feelings, etc,., it would never be to urge you to do something that conflicts with his principles already stated in his WORD.
Limiting God again? So rigid and narrow. Peter was instructed to violate the Law of Moses. He was told to expand the church to non Jews. And they were not required to live by the previously revealed Law.

Do you live the Law of Moses today as set forth in detail? I think not.

And if God's will were so clear, why do we have so many different churches? Do Baptists and Lutherans and Methodists have the same standards?

The will of God is for each of his to find. By our own inspiration. He wants to communicate with us. He wants us to hear his guidance.

Scripture is a great way for that, but does every passage hit you the same way each time you read it? Or do you get new insight for his will uniquely for that situation? Where does that unique insight come from? The Holy Spirit guiding us to truth and enlightening our minds.

OK, so how do you know that the 'burning in your belly, thoughts coming to your brain, etc' was from God? Did those burning thoughts correspond to God's principles and purposes already stated in the Bible? Or are you saying so just because the feelings associated with your thoughts were so intense? If the latter is your only reason, then sorry, but that is not good enough to warrant it as coming from God.
Oh, ye of little faith. I feel sorry for you that you want to limit your relationship with God. If you don't recognize the Holy Spirit talking to you, I feel really sad for you. If you have never felt it, I feel even greater sadness for you, sincerely. You sound like you desire to follow His will, but you reject his ability to guide you and love you.

Again, I have no compulsion to minimize the intensity of your experience other than to point out that statements like "a nightmare of epic proportions", "so unbelievably awful", "a pain at your heart...as enormous as the heavens", are very subjective terms. Do you really think your experience was so bad that you were enduring more than you could handle? Was your experience more or less worse than experiences that others have gone through? Compared to faithful men of old, like Abraham, Job, David, John the Baptist, Paul, or even Christ himself, where do you think you rank?
I don't know. I know what I experienced. I wished I had died. I am shocked I didn't kill myself to end the pain. It is silly to rate it like you would have me do.

But lets say we concede to it being fact that your experience was the worst it could possibly be for you. Well, for one, Christians should expect persecution and tests (2 Timothy 3:12; Matthew 16:24; Acts 14:22) God will not allow us to be tested in our faith beyond what we can bear. (1Co 10:13; 2Co 4:9) And he values our endurance when we persevere under trials. (Matthew 24:13; Luke 21:19). So do you really think that there are any circumstances where he would encourage you to do something that obviously goes against his stated principles that have been around for millenia?
Again, how good are you at the Law of Moses? How many steps do you take on the Sabbath? Have you stoned any sinners lately? What animals have you sacrificed?

God is not limited by our understanding. We are limited by our understanding of God.

Sorry, I just don't buy it. What words did you hear? Something like: 'You have had a hard time and done well, it's ok to leave'? Despite the fact that 'leaving' is against clearly defined Godly principles. Despite the numerous Biblical examples of people that did endure and not violate God's principles and were rewarded, as well as Biblical examples of people that did not hold fast and disobeyed God's principles and then received due condemnation. Do you really think your unique circumstances warranted you an exception?

Nope. Extreme emotions themselves and a sincere desire to get out of a bad situation are not convincing evidence of divinely inspired thoughts. If you really want to know God's thoughts, consider what he records in the Scriptures. There, staying in a bad marriage may indeed be a bad situation, but leaving a bad marriage without proper grounds is worse. Glad to hear that in the end you chose the proper course.

No one needs to suffer needlessly. I don't see divorce on the ten commandments, do you? God makes the rules, not you. Not me.

But I can shout to the hilltop what I believe I was told. You can disbelieve. That is fair. You are free to believe or disbelieve everything I write. It is up to you.

But your truth, as you see it, doesn't limit me or God.

This whole discussion is a bit off topic, anyway...
 

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Especially you [MENTION=8936]highlander[/MENTION] who is secretly a right winger! :mad: :D
 
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