The Fe Door-slam is passive-aggressive which is antithetical to the Te bitch slap, which vents aggression and is usually over and done with, post aggression. One generates resentment where the other flushes it out.
actually, i'd normally agree completely with you, but after reading so much on the Fe-Fi thread and given my own recent experiences i think that maybe from different perspectives they both do the same thing.
kinda like...
Te bitchslap
- flushes resentment by getting out aggression
- generates resentment by making the other person feel hated
Fe doorslam
- flushes resentment by giving each person space and time to cool off
- generates resentment by making the other person feel hated
i think it has so much to do with the directionality of our functions. for Fi/Ne/Si/Te, the bitchslap works great because we get our inner emotions out, we can see them logically, and then we're done. for Fe/Ni/Se/Ti, the doorslam works better, because they protect themself from doing something they may regret and have time to access Ti without emotional disturbance, and then can come back later when they're ready.
but to Fi the doorslam is awful because while we're trying to set things right again we get shut out, possibly permanently for all we know, and for Fe the bitchslap is awful because it's a barrage of negativity directed towards them that they can't stop or hide.