ENFPs, how do you deal with the so called "dead INTJ eyes" ?
I always enjoy people who say things that make me think, whether I am caught off guard or can see it coming. In fact, if they don't, I consider them poor company and won't want to waste time with them. Having someone understand how to interpret facial expressions like that one, however, would bother me unless I know the person well and like them. If my INTP or my best friend can do it - fine; everyone at work, or the neighbors, or the clerk at the grocery store - not so fine.How would you be effected by someone that understood that about you? How about if they said things that made you think or caught you off gaurd?
How would you be effected by someone that understood that about you? How about if they said things that made you think or caught you off gaurd?
the ENFP tendency to panic more readily than, say, an INTJ in response to something unpleasant
Forgive me, but I've NEVER seen an instance where an INTJ and an ENFP actually works out; from what I've seen, they eventually just grate on each others' nerves too much. The cold, compartmentalized, aloof side of the INTJ tends to make ENFPs feel threatened, especially when INTJ's Ni makes them feel that an Ne-based idea has been dismissed out of hand; when the ENFP inevitably lashes out to defend the values they feel have been violated, this comes across to INTJs as a form of a sudden bout of irrational psychosis. Not helping matters is the ENFP tendency to panic more readily than, say, an INTJ in response to something unpleasant; if INTJs can't stand something, it's being yelled at for trying to encourage someone to calm down and think things through rationally.
Not to say INTJs can't be "dicks", but the breakdown in communication is still usually a two-way street.
Forgive me, but I've NEVER seen an instance where an INTJ and an ENFP actually works out; from what I've seen, they eventually just grate on each others' nerves too much. The cold, compartmentalized, aloof side of the INTJ tends to make ENFPs feel threatened, especially when INTJ's Ni makes them feel that an Ne-based idea has been dismissed out of hand; when the ENFP inevitably lashes out to defend the values they feel have been violated, this comes across to INTJs as a form of a sudden bout of irrational psychosis. Not helping matters is the ENFP tendency to panic more readily than, say, an INTJ in response to something unpleasant; if INTJs can't stand something, it's being yelled at for trying to encourage someone to calm down and think things through rationally.
Not to say INTJs can't be "dicks", but the breakdown in communication is still usually a two-way street.
Nah, it's a very very common longlasting pairing. INFPs are the one whose relationships never work out.
Do you think some ENFPs prefer INTJs to INTPs because they find them easier to hold under their spell? Why do ENFPs often have antipathy towards INTPs? As an ISFJ, I'm not intellectually capable enough to grasp this for myself.
Keep in mind that I'm not speaking of all ENFPS; I'm only referring to certain individuals within the type. It's a pattern I've noticed with some ENFPs, but because I'm a sensor, I can't really grasp what it means.
My ENFP sister has been married to her INTJ husband for over 30 years. Sure, she has made his life very interesting, for good and ill. He usually has a confused look on his face regarding her.
But he is completely lost without her. This Spring she went to visit family and he was completely befuddled by himself..
She is very grateful for his patience and stability. He needed every drop of it....
INTJ's never panic.
Nah, it's a very very common longlasting pairing. INFPs are the one whose relationships never work out.
INTJ's never panic.
INTJ's never panic.