VirtualGhost - The complexity of an ENFP woman attracts the INTJ firstly by creating a puzzle for him to solve. This actually holds his interest long enough, stimulating him to experience new and interesting ideas. A muse of sorts, if you will. Albeit, she's just being herself fully and draws him in with her genuine unassuming nature. The antithesis of INTJ thought is her warmth. He can feel it and he's enticed. She is one of the only gals he's encountered whose naturally curiosity reaches far beyond the average person he's so far met. There's a secret looming in her, though. A deep appreciation for concepts and abstract thought he has not found in another human being. She's smart! Witty! Vivacious! Inquisitive! Everything that he isn't. There is an immediate banter that he finds exhilarating. Of course, this will take him days to weeks to truly analyze to his liking so his rapture continues un-thwarted. As he studies her, dissects her thoughts, delves ever deeper, he is stunned by his delayed confusion. One layer explained only to solicit more questions than answers. It is often that an INTJ male leaves a conversation with ENFP female asking himself W.T.F? several times. He's going to get to the bottom of this! Truth to tell, VirtualGhost, is he never will. He never does. The reason: I haven't one. Except the large physical curvaceous bodily feature that lingers in doorways long after I'm in the next room. <and you should hear what that ass hole says about me behind my back> By the time he believes he's gathered enough evidence to begin his evaluation - she flips the script with her spontaneity and instantly is unexplained once again. She is the only person that causes him to lose focus. One day, he wakes to find her laying in his bed. <a conundrum in of itself> Riddle me this - she's the golden ratio. She can be explained in certain terms, but morphs out of the chrysalis the same creature you expected her to be, and as you approach phi, you stand back and revel in her infinite beauty. Knowing she is more beautiful this time because of your influence. Together, they make the perfect paradox. And while other woman are completely explained and INTJ becomes disinterested before there is even time to develop feelings, she lingers. In his mind, then his bed, and then his heart.