Sorry for taking a long time to reply, I was at work and then had a friend come over. Glad I got some replies, thanks guys, it means a lot to me
Posting this quote here for reference so no one had to bother going to my profile to access it if needed:
Based on the posts you wrote about gender and feminism. You strike me as an Fi-Te type and specifically Fi-Te and Se-Ni, so some kind of xSFP, though I could also see xNFP but I don't think so based on your rant about your private life experiences which seemed to take it very much in an "as is" kind of way, typical of Se. Events happen objectively. The reason why I think this is because you didn't place very much emphasis on emotional expressions and talking about values in an objective way e.g. love inspires us to make a change in the world or something like that. Instead you were focused on the factual aspect of the situation. I know ESFJs and Fe types in general when I see them and you frankly didn't come across as one at all. Too to the point, direct, factual. Fe types tend to shy away from facts. They find a factual way of seeing the world upsetting and it's upsetting because facts interrupt the emotional experiences they perceive us all to share together. Facts may say things about the situation and people that can hurt people's feelings and Fe types are very keen on maintaining and preserving this kind of harmony. I have a video interview with an ESFJ on my channel. It's this one:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SVyqgWDv1yw
Here's an interview with an ENFJ:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CasiL3qr4-o
Not sure if [MENTION=16405]Entropic[/MENTION] has seen this thread or would just rather keep it to the visitor messages so I'll make replies to both places.
I don't identify with Se or Ni at all, I am definitely Si and Ne. Events are definitely subjective to me, so not sure where that part of it came from. At times I have doubted if I am Fe, because despite never having
not tested as Fe, I felt like I wasn't a "good enough" person to be Fe (not to imply that Fi is not just as good, of course). I think the reason I come off that way is because well, it's a forum, so I'm on here to discuss specific topics (whatever those end up being), so I try to be as clear as possible, there's no face-to-face or expressions and a lot of communication can be lost that way, which is why I always say things like "sarcasm is too hard to understand when written and not in person". If I come off as factual it's because I'm just trying to stay on topic and not derail threads, share my experiences and what I know on the subject matter to keep the thread going and specifically to give others input and education where needed on the subject of stuff in like the transgender thread. I don't think it's impossible to be both Fe and "direct". As for like Fe and hurting people's feelings... I don't think facts necessarily upset social harmony (if that's what you meant), I mean they can, but not as a rule. Like I literally will do things I do not want to do just to avoid upsetting others (most recent example that comes to mind is my coworker basically talked me into buying some coffee to support her online business, I thought it was gonna be like 20 bucks so I said sure, she said it's gonna be 45, I've led her on too long to back out now. My ISTJ friend thinks I'm insane and need to tell her "no" but like how can I do that now without being rude?? She's already got the stuff and said she's going to bring it to me). This could also just be a 9 thing, of course. I don't really think I've ever said anything on this forum that would hurt people's feelings? Or anywhere for that matter, I'm like the last person on earth who would ever do something to intentionally upset someone else, but I don't think not wanting to cause trouble is exclusively Fe.
The thing about forums is that I think there are more ways for people to interpret you than being face to face; there's a lot of time to think and reflect between posts and waiting for replies, and you have time to go back and add things to your posts that you forget to add beforehand since it's in writing and you're not talking verbally, so you're able to be a lot more clear which comes off as "direct". I think a lot of communication can get lost in nonverbal communication which is why I am constantly trying to be as clear as possible and often ask others to ask me for clarification if needed after I'm done making a longer or more substantial post. I think if you saw how I was with friends or at work or in person in general, rather than on a forum where we are limited, the opinion might differ somewhat, but I am still not unwilling to listen to anyone's reasoning for my type, I like to hear what other people think of me and compare it to how I see myself. I was mostly surprised by this because I have never not tested as an SFJ of some kind, so I found it interesting to hear your take on the matter.
As for those who say ISFJ or ESFJ, I could see both. I've had [MENTION=20829]Hard[/MENTION] say the same as [MENTION=17131]Chanaynay[/MENTION] hat the 9w1 could just make me low-key ESFJ, though I'd consider myself ambiverted. In one thread I made a while back [MENTION=6554]DisneyGeek[/MENTION] told me that the I vs E distinction should not be made on social preference, but energy levels, and that having a mental illness like depression might affect that. Which, yeah, I have (unmedicated) depresison that runs through both sides of my family, which affects my "energy" levels (obviously, lowers them). Then I was asked if, before depression really became more prevalent, if I had more or less energy, and I was definitely sort of a "hyperactive" kid. I won an award once in school for "most outgoing", but then, I was also at the same time sort of a social outcast because of mean peers. So that's one way I got ESFJ. The other way was by the functions; although I think my Si and (potential?? since we're having an open discussion here) Fe are pretty equal and it's hard for me to distinguish which one I use more.
[MENTION=24643]Frosty6226[/MENTION] - glad you think I'm friendly
I come off as likable to pretty much everyone I come across, thank god, I would not have it any other way. Although sometimes it backfires, I have a coworker who doesn't seem to like me very much because I come off as too "cheerful" to him. He makes fun of me every time I say "hi" to him when he passes by. That kinds hurts
Also... people actually think of me? LOL I'm honored.
What could I do / what questions could I answer to make Si or Fe preference more obvious? If I am an xSFJ at all, that is, as Entropic would disagree. I am also curious as to what areas/parts of my posts are the ones that come off as Fi to people, and how they distinguish it from Fe.
Lastly, sorry to drag y'all into this, I just figured since that it was Entropic that brought the subject of my type up this time it would be different from my regularly scheduled "affirm or deny my type for me!!!" threads