Shaedow
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What I'm trying to gain clarity between, if I favour feeling over thinking or thinking over feeling, more specifically Fe/Te.
I have narrowed things down to INxJ. MBTI wise I'm quite sure about the I and N.
Generally speaking much more often people have pointed me towards Ni dom. The other type has been socionics INFj, with strong (but devalued) Ni being a factor. IRL the people who I have the easiest communication with have been INTJ or INFJ. I relate to the Ni description, and I do not relate to how Ne (Dom aux) seems to manifest in people. If you want to challenge the conception I may not be Ni dom I am happy to listen.
Now my T/F score are close, and tend to favour thinking slightly. Online I tend to come across as an NF. IRL a friend of mine who is quite proficient with typology thinks I fit INTJ more so.
What I am aware of, in conversation I am generally more interested in things than people (or how people work, not so much what's going on in their life). Often I will bring up facts (studies, information, data) and expand on them or use them to support my claim. Often I come across as neutral to others as I am delivering information not my opinion. I can also come across as judgmental at times using more closed statements than questioning. Generally if I see a contradiction with what I know, or I can't see their idea working, I will question it and explain why it contradicts/won't work, so I can come across as blunt and honest.
So I'm seeing elements of thinking here.
I am also generally aware of how people are going to react. If it's going to results in conflict which won't be resolved I will avoid this path. To me it has been about consequence of action and taking the best course of action. I can pick up on other peoples insecurities, and adjust myself to avoid them. I am also very tolerant of others, generally accepting of what they value. I can be diplomatic with people and will make an effort to be polite.
I'm seeing elements of feeling here.
I have noticed in my late teens/ early 20s that I needed to be more open emotionally with others. This includes making an effort to be more appreciative of others, to give positive feedback, being aware that people who are happier are more likely to be helpful. It also included explicitly stating my feelings to others (more so when dating as this not knowing dance does not work and I don't like guessing). I have since become more aware of emotional connections and distance between me and others. I am much more aware of my emotional landscape and I am actively seeking to figure out what is actually important to me. Whilst I have had an understanding of how my mind works, there is now more weight in what is important. I just think the next step for me is to have strong values I can hold to as my decisions so far in life encompassed what works, not what makes me happy.
To me this suggests I am developing my feeling.
Now either this is my auxiliary coming through which suggests NF type fits. Or I'm focusing on my tertiary function. Life is more stressful now for me leading to focus on feeling.
Maybe perhaps the way I was raised has distorted things. I had little opportunity to express feelings or emotions growing up. If I was in trouble I was yelled at, If I cried I was yelled at for crying. Behaviour was never explained, rather because I didn't know why was why I shouldn't do that.
I am happy to answer any questions you have
I have narrowed things down to INxJ. MBTI wise I'm quite sure about the I and N.
Generally speaking much more often people have pointed me towards Ni dom. The other type has been socionics INFj, with strong (but devalued) Ni being a factor. IRL the people who I have the easiest communication with have been INTJ or INFJ. I relate to the Ni description, and I do not relate to how Ne (Dom aux) seems to manifest in people. If you want to challenge the conception I may not be Ni dom I am happy to listen.
Now my T/F score are close, and tend to favour thinking slightly. Online I tend to come across as an NF. IRL a friend of mine who is quite proficient with typology thinks I fit INTJ more so.
What I am aware of, in conversation I am generally more interested in things than people (or how people work, not so much what's going on in their life). Often I will bring up facts (studies, information, data) and expand on them or use them to support my claim. Often I come across as neutral to others as I am delivering information not my opinion. I can also come across as judgmental at times using more closed statements than questioning. Generally if I see a contradiction with what I know, or I can't see their idea working, I will question it and explain why it contradicts/won't work, so I can come across as blunt and honest.
So I'm seeing elements of thinking here.
I am also generally aware of how people are going to react. If it's going to results in conflict which won't be resolved I will avoid this path. To me it has been about consequence of action and taking the best course of action. I can pick up on other peoples insecurities, and adjust myself to avoid them. I am also very tolerant of others, generally accepting of what they value. I can be diplomatic with people and will make an effort to be polite.
I'm seeing elements of feeling here.
I have noticed in my late teens/ early 20s that I needed to be more open emotionally with others. This includes making an effort to be more appreciative of others, to give positive feedback, being aware that people who are happier are more likely to be helpful. It also included explicitly stating my feelings to others (more so when dating as this not knowing dance does not work and I don't like guessing). I have since become more aware of emotional connections and distance between me and others. I am much more aware of my emotional landscape and I am actively seeking to figure out what is actually important to me. Whilst I have had an understanding of how my mind works, there is now more weight in what is important. I just think the next step for me is to have strong values I can hold to as my decisions so far in life encompassed what works, not what makes me happy.
To me this suggests I am developing my feeling.
Now either this is my auxiliary coming through which suggests NF type fits. Or I'm focusing on my tertiary function. Life is more stressful now for me leading to focus on feeling.
Maybe perhaps the way I was raised has distorted things. I had little opportunity to express feelings or emotions growing up. If I was in trouble I was yelled at, If I cried I was yelled at for crying. Behaviour was never explained, rather because I didn't know why was why I shouldn't do that.
I am happy to answer any questions you have