ChocolateMoose123
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Or being more selective about whom you approach. A sure way never to gain my trust is to expect me to play stupid social games and jump through those sorts of hoops. No thanks.
I'm with you on being selective about who you approach.
I don't think people play stupid social games. Or make people jump through hoops. Never met someone who did that.
More that, some people expect those things as a first step to build upon. If they don't have that, they don't know how to gauge an approach of that person. They don't know if their effort toward something deeper (friendship) are welcome or not.
It isn't punitive or manipulative. It can seem that way because it is an equivalent of dipping ones toe in the pool to test temperature. It is shallow but it has purpose.
Now, no one has to entertain anything they don't want but if they wonder why they cannot connect or wish to connect with people more, then understanding this is only beneficial.