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Would it be alright if someone tried typing me? (Questionnaire by RadicalDoubt)


New member
May 26, 2021
This is my first post so I'm sure this may not be noticed at all but oh well lol. (Sorry for typos)

1) Context:
a) What is your age range and general location (Country so that cultural values can be taken into account)? Do you have any impairments that may affect the way that you answer this questionnaire? Any religious or political beliefs (or anything else along those lines) that also might have an effect?

b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven’t you decided on one?

A: a) I am 19 (F), the UK (Scotland specifically), and I don’t believe anything else except my low mental health may affect the results. I’m not sure if having puberty from an abnormally young age would count as well but eh.

b) INFP, INFJ. Because like many people who just found out MBTI I took the most popular test quiz, 16personalities.com, got INFP and found myself relating to memes on the internet lol. But then after a while I stumbled across and learnt about cognitive functions, and what’s been consistently shown in the results is that on sakinorva.net my top results have always been INFJ, so I’m kinda confused about how to identify what my cognitive functions are.

Enneagram-wise I know for sure I’m 9w1. Unless I’m horribly wrong… I highly related to what was described of the 9w1 from this source:

esi like sunday morning

I don’t know how reputable it is but if anyone thinks I’m a different type then please let me know. :D

2) What do you deem as your purpose in life?

A: Making people around me happy, since that’s when I feel happiest. And there would be a solid reason for people liking me.

3) Of the seven deadly sins, which one(s) do you relate to the most and the least and why?

A: The one I think I relate to most is Sloth, and I think a part of that is due to my mental health, but I know for sure I can’t blame everything on that. I relate to it since most of the time I find it very hard to motivate myself, whether it’s to tidy my room or to exercise. I can also relate it to how passive I am in general.

The one I think I least relate to is Pride since I don’t really have pride in much, certainly none for myself (negative pride lol). But I also have none for my home country or anything like that. Though I don’t think I don’t have pride at all since I’m proud of a family member whenever they get through something difficult. Another appropriate answer would probably be wrath since I rarely get angry, only frustrated really.

4) Analysing your relationships with others, briefly describe:

a) The type of people you are drawn to

A: People who are more extroverted, even if it’s a tiny bit more extroverted than me, just so I don’t worry about starting a conversation with someone who may not want to have a conversation with me. I really hate hassling people, in case I make them uncomfortable or if I end up reading their mood incorrectly and be met with an unhappy person who just wanted to be left alone. I feel like at least with an extroverted person they would be more likely to approach first. I’m very unsure of people when I first meet them, but if they display themselves as someone really easy to talk to I’m less likely to panic internally and more likely to open up.

And also people who I can have both light-hearted/funny and serious/deep discussions about philosophy with. Just because I feel like with both I feel closer to that person since they decided to talk to me for more than just small talk, maybe. Or if they willingly share something they haven’t told many people, which to me would mean they are comfortable enough to talk to me about something like that. Or if they ask me about a particular topic that would mean they at least want to hear my opinion on the matter, which would make me happy.

I’m also probably drawn to people who have similar interests to me, just because that means we could talk for hours and hours probably lol. And I’d feel really happy to share my thoughts on particular things I’ve not been able to share with someone who wants to talk about it as much as I do, like my thoughts on a character, show, game or a book. I mean, even if it was someone who had the same interests I suppose it would have to be someone who could talk about it for hours as well, I wouldn’t want it to be one-sided like when I ramble to my poor INTP brother lol.

b) The type of people who are drawn to you

A: I don’t really have an answer for this, considering the pandemic hit I’ve not met anyone outside my family and I didn’t have any close friends before it. But when I was at school, I was definitely that person that was asked for a pound (insert other form of currency if unfamiliar) for break/lunch or if I had a spare pencil lol. Just because I never saw the harm in it, and I felt happy when they asked for my help.

c) The type of people you are repulsed by

A: I think repulsed is a bit strong, but I’d say probably people who go out of their way to be mean or toxic in a discussion, creating conflict for no good reason. For example - someone brings up their favourite movie/show, not even claiming it’s the best, but that it’s just what they enjoy the most, then someone else (rather than giving valid criticism to whatever it is in a polite way that encourages normal debate) just shits on the show and the person for having that opinion.

I suppose also people who just don’t seem to believe that not everyone has the same opinion as them, and that there are life reasons that they may have that opinion. Like for example, politics wise, both sides that hate each other for whatever reason and neither realise how life circumstances shape all their views, whether it’s negative or positive, but of course only the negative is promoted to make the other look bad.

5)What are the traits in others that you admire but you cannot emulate yourself? Elaborate.

A: I really admire people who can speak their mind concisely without having to think twice, since they are so sure of what it is they want to say. I usually speak quietly since I don’t really feel as though I have the right to give my opinion on things, because most of the time I’m very unsure of my opinion and need more information or time to think about it. That’s of course not the case for when I talk about my interests, I may be still unsure but I still feel as though I have had loads of time to form my opinion about it.

I also really admire people who live in different ways to me, because not everyone is the same. I enjoy listening to people’s different experiences because I feel like I can learn something I haven’t before, whether it’s something simple like how to style a top a certain way, since I am no fashion expert, or something complex like how music is made, as I am no musician. It’s probably because I don’t have a very exciting life, but I don’t think that’s necessarily boring or bad, it’s just the way I want to live. But it is nice hearing what crazy things people have done.

6) Describe your relationship with the following:
a) Anger

A: It’s not something I express very often, for two reasons. Firstly, because honestly I don’t get very angry easily, even though I know for a fact I’m oversensitive. Secondly, I feel as though anger gets me nowhere and just puts me in a negative mindset, so when I do get angry I find it very easy to shut it down because I know it’s pointless to dwell in that frame of mind as it won’t help myself or others around me. But when I am truly angry about something, it does build up, though it doesn’t explode or anything, because I know how unfair that would be of me to others. I usually just destress by consuming some form of media, whether it’s playing games, or watching funny videos online. But again when I’m truly angry I do feel justified in that anger and try to explain to whoever asked what’s wrong what the problem was, and that also easily calms me down. Well that’s if they understand where I am coming from. I may get more frustrated with myself if I’m not able to elaborate properly and they just end up confused.

b) Shame

A: I feel it very often, as someone who’s currently unemployed and stuck in an area with no public transportation appropriate for working hours, I’m at home all of the time studying for my driver’s license. Due to my particular situation and mental health everyone around me is very understanding and believes I’m justified and it just happens that the area we live in sucks, but I still feel guilt for not being more proactive. I also feel horrible whenever my mental health is brought up, because it does put people around me in a bad mood. Sometimes I just have generally bad days, but I’m always afraid of bringing it up in case of being even more of a burden than I already am. Jeez that’s depressing lol sorry, but I felt that it’d be my most true response.

c) Fear

A: Most of my fear is about what my future will be and how it’s all down to me and the decisions I make, which is a very intimidating thing I will have to face once I have my driving licence. Otherwise I'm scared whenever I find an insect or spider in my room. I won't kill them though, because the circle of life, if I want less flies in general, the spiders have to make their webs to catch them. And I'd also feel really bad if I tried killing a spider or fly :(

d) Love/passion

A: The only kind of love I have in my life at the moment is familial, since I’ve never had any significant other. But I do love the idea of romantic love from what I’ve seen portrayed in all the media I’ve consumed. Though I do recognise it’s probably a lot more romanticised than real life. I’m also able to recognise some dumb romanticised abuse though so I should be fine. I do kinda wish that all kinds of love were shown more, such as platonic, familial etc. Because I do somewhat believe positive portrayals can influence people, even if it’s a little bit. I mean, if negative portrayals of things can…(looking at 13 reasons why and 50 shades of gray lol)

e) Conflict

A: If there is ever some form of conflict at home I become very anxious that a small argument will lead to something much bigger. If it’s a conflict I feel as though I’m able to help with, then I’ll try my best to mediate and help whoever’s fighting get both sides from each other's perspective. If it’s something I don’t feel as though I’m able to help, I feel useless and not worthy of them if I can’t get over myself.

7) What are some of the themes that have played a prominent role in your life (i.e. A struggle you’ve been unable to conquer, etc.)?

A: For my whole life I have found it incredibly hard to make friends and even once I have done so, I find it hard to maintain them, probably because I’ve always felt out of place or misunderstood by most people my age and at the time felt there was no point. I suppose that still reflects on me to this day, because I feel like I’m too scared to try to make a friend, worrying it’ll just end up the same as every former friendship did. I mean whenever I make a social media account on whatever website, I always end up deleting it within a month because I end up talking to no-one and no-one to me.

I also find it hard to forget my mistakes as a child/adolescent. Looking back, I try to imagine what could have been, what I should have done in that situation etc. Or I have flashbacks of cringey or stupid things I’ve said, and it’s hard for me to assure myself I have grown up, and it’s literally something all teenagers went though, but the memories always randomly pop in my mind just to remind me lol.

8) Answer only one of the following:
a) [College aged and above] What is your area of work/study? Why did you choose this and would you change it? If so, what would be your ideal?

b)[Under college aged] What do you plan on studying/working as in the future? How did you go about deciding this? If this is not your ideal area of pursuit, what would be?

A: I’ll go with b) which is something I’m very unsure of to be frank. The most plausible thing I can think of is becoming after getting my driving licence is a Nursery Practitioner since I do like looking after kids. I did think it’d be cool to be a youtuber but that would be more of a hobby and if I haven’t even got the courage to start a YouTube channel as a hobby, it’s very unlikely that I could make some sort of career out of it lol. Ideally, what I would love to do is become an author and have a fantasy series that many would hold dear to their hearts. I’ve always loved writing stories since I was little, but practice makes perfect and my lack of motivation incapacitates me in that regard lol.

9) When meeting a new person, what do you tend to focus on?

A: Well it does depend on the situation. Though initially I always try to gauge how open the person is and whether they seem like someone who wants to talk, because maybe I can avoid small talk if they seem like someone who wants to avoid it too.

10) How do you feel about humanity as a whole? What do you feel are some of the biggest problems the human race faces and why?

A: I would say I have very conflicted feelings about us as a whole. Sometimes I’m happy that we can all come together to do good, like advocating how our attitudes need to change about climate change for example. But also I can be very disheartened by how harmfully tribalistic humans can be, hating anything outside their realm of existence or comfort whether it’s with the rich versus the poor, a race of people, a sexuality etc..

11) What are some of your hobbies and interests?

A: I love reading, whether it's books, manga or well-written fan made works of my favourite series. I also love anime though I wouldn’t call myself a weeb, just a fan. I feel like weebs as a community are like a hivemind for the same opinions so eh. I also love listening to music, playing video games, writing (though I only really ever write once a blue moon), drawing (every two blue moons), and watching movies (every three). I also like talking about philosophical stuff with people and act neutral so I can hear what the other person's feeling on a topic is.

13) How do you usually “hang out” with your friend(s)? When answering, think about what activities you tend to choose, whether you hang out with one person at once or many, whether or not you initiate the interaction.

A: How to answer a question when I’ve never done this? :( I’ll replace friends with family since I am friends with my family. Most of the time we are inside, but sometimes we all (four of us) go out on walks on the beach, or sometimes just two of us. When it is just two of us I always end up asking them philosophical questions and listening to them, as I feel like I’m bonding with someone if I learn the way they think about life or a particular issue. Even if I don't exactly agree with what they say, I'll give my opinion in a very passive non-threatening suggestive way.

14) What is more important, actions or words? Why?

A: I believe it depends on the person, and depends on the situation. Like if it’s a situation that requires action then obviously words wouldn’t be as important or taken seriously if it wasn’t followed up by the action. They maybe would be important to encourage the person to do the action. It would depend on the person your directing the words or action towards as well, like which one would they acknowledge more.

15) Oh dear, you’ve been cursed by a witch! It’s ok though, you get a choice on which curse you will receive. Will you choose….
a) To never be able to experience the sensation of taste
b) To be immortal
c) To lose your memories
d) To be poor for the rest of your life
e) Or to never experience passion
Elaborate on why!

A: I find this hard lol, but I would choose (a) even if I love food a lot and would miss the taste of chocolate, I don’t think I could go through any of the other options. Just choosing the lesser evil.

16) What do you hope to avoid being? If it helps, describe a person who embodies what you avoid/you as a villain, etc..

A: I never have or will want to be someone that someone can hate. Which I know is impossible since there are probably some people that hate pacifists which is understandable I suppose. I don’t want to be someone who stirs drama or instigates rumours or fights. Basically someone who wants to create conflict would be my worst nightmare.

17) How do you relate to obsession? Do you tend to "merge" with others or your interests? How do you feel about the idea of doing this?

A: It is something I did a lot from childhood and in my early teen years, so I am familiar with how it pans out. I was obsessed with Harry Potter for a lot of my childhood until high school, then I had a weird short nostalgic obsession with Disney. Then the next biggest thing I became obsessed with was anime, to the point I named the cat I still have to this day after one of my favourite characters. (I’m so sorry Mikasa) Then around the age of 16, when I discovered kpop lol, I remember thinking some of the fans seemed madly obsessed and recognised it as something I had gone through formerly, which was an interesting realisation. It’s not something I experience now because I think it was something I naturally grew out of, but I sure do have many cringey memories of when I did do it lol.

18) Organized or messy? Plans and blueprints or impulse and surprises? What are your preferences and tendencies?

A: I am definitely messy, well my room is anyway. But I do enjoy organising, all my books/manga/games are organised in my room and I enjoy cleaning the rest of the house, so it’s just my room. But that has been an issue I’ve had all my life.

19) How do you subjectively view comfort and how do you create comfort in your life and surroundings?

A: I view comfort in many forms, like food or watching wholesome cat videos. I think what’s consistent though is that it’s a distraction from whatever may be troubling me. But I think the best comfort is someone assuring you that they are there for you.

Thanks if anyone actually reads this, this was a lot I know, sorry about that ^_^