LightSun
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- Aug 9, 2009
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- #9
“What is a projection? To make changes one must know self and his or her usage with projections. What are a few dangerous aspects of projection?
Do you take ownership and together with it self responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, speech and actions? Or do you blast other people with your unknown to yourself unfinished business?
Do you lash out and blame reality for the way you feel? More importantly do you hold on to this loosen and bile of the soul?
In psychology we are trained to take ownership of our emotions. In addition of our own thoughts, speech and actions without lashing out with our own
unfinished business, unresolved conflicts, emotional baggage and our unhealed psychic wounds.
We do this by saying, “I think. I feel.” Those who are negative and blame others or the world are like pollution projecting their own issues unto others. I’ve learned long ago to never engage a person coming from a negative place and attitude.
You can’t reason with them. They are clearly coming from a place of irrationality, anger and negative energy.
Do not engage but walk away. Don’t be in a battle of protecting your ego just because someone is negative toward you.
They have life lessons to learn. To those as described above, they are emotionally, spiritually and psychologically immature.
Don’t show your own immaturity by arguing with them, or trying to get them to see your point of view or convince them you are right. For then you’d have two irrational people.
What both parties don’t understand is that philosophically both are projecting illusions of their own issues unto others. Neither party is practicing active listening skills.
Bruce Lee said, “Be like water” in his martial arts discipline. I employ a similar philosophy when it comes to my interpersonal dialogues. I don’t loose my cool.
Every attack by this person who was triggers and was argumentative. For each of her nonsensical subject opinionated attacks, inspired me on how to handle the situation.
In Judo, Jujitsu and Aikido we use the opponents attacks against them. Philosophically wise to not take anything personal.
Just stick to my boundaries which I clearly spell out for the person I am engaging in a conversation of hopefully mutual respect.” LightSun
#communication #Projection #Selfresponsibility
Do you take ownership and together with it self responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, speech and actions? Or do you blast other people with your unknown to yourself unfinished business?
Do you lash out and blame reality for the way you feel? More importantly do you hold on to this loosen and bile of the soul?
In psychology we are trained to take ownership of our emotions. In addition of our own thoughts, speech and actions without lashing out with our own
unfinished business, unresolved conflicts, emotional baggage and our unhealed psychic wounds.
We do this by saying, “I think. I feel.” Those who are negative and blame others or the world are like pollution projecting their own issues unto others. I’ve learned long ago to never engage a person coming from a negative place and attitude.
You can’t reason with them. They are clearly coming from a place of irrationality, anger and negative energy.
Do not engage but walk away. Don’t be in a battle of protecting your ego just because someone is negative toward you.
They have life lessons to learn. To those as described above, they are emotionally, spiritually and psychologically immature.
Don’t show your own immaturity by arguing with them, or trying to get them to see your point of view or convince them you are right. For then you’d have two irrational people.
What both parties don’t understand is that philosophically both are projecting illusions of their own issues unto others. Neither party is practicing active listening skills.
Bruce Lee said, “Be like water” in his martial arts discipline. I employ a similar philosophy when it comes to my interpersonal dialogues. I don’t loose my cool.
Every attack by this person who was triggers and was argumentative. For each of her nonsensical subject opinionated attacks, inspired me on how to handle the situation.
In Judo, Jujitsu and Aikido we use the opponents attacks against them. Philosophically wise to not take anything personal.
Just stick to my boundaries which I clearly spell out for the person I am engaging in a conversation of hopefully mutual respect.” LightSun
#communication #Projection #Selfresponsibility