Her continued over-emphasis on normality and the way things "should be" steered me away from Ni and toward Si. At first I thought it was just Fe responding to the home environment and church in which she was raised that was fueling her judgements, which made me insist INFJ, but as the thread wore on Si/Te/Fi began to make a lot more sense to me. It would surely explain her reliance upon Te, and the streak of Fi that is making some people say NFP.
I think the functional analysis is a good approach of typing yourself, LL, rather than beginning with the four dichotomies or the 16 wholesale type-descriptions, because a lot of communication- and cultural issues can get in the way: the qualities that are valued by friends and familiy growing up, the qualities dominant in popular culture, the qualities standing out for you because you are trying / needing to develop this function at a given point in your life (like your tertiary or inferior) etc. There are type descriptions we 'wish' we were and type descriptions we wouldn't like to identify with, and it may only come down to poor or ambivalent wording of the wholesale types.
So I agree with marmalade that functional 'flavour' is important.
LL, going by your previous answers to each function, your four primary functions more and more consistently come out as: Te-Si-Ne-Fi.
This narrows your search down to four types, related because they prefer the exact same functions, only in a different order of which function get to dominate which others:
ESTJ = Te-Si + Ne-Fi
ISTJ = Si-Te + Fi-Ne
ENFP = Ne-Fi + Te-Si
INFP = Fi-Ne + Si-Te
It seems you identify most with Te as dominant. It is helped and assisted by a keen eye for detail, faithful to specifics and noticing consistency or deviance from previous experience, thus by Si.
If you were ISTJ Si would determine the use of Te, but with you it seems Te decides how to apply Si.
I think that as each function develops with age, you'll have periods where you'd feel closer to the type having that function as dominant.
If you are indeed closest to the ESTJ-type, you'll have had plenty of early and confident experience with using Te. In puberty and early adulthood you might periodically have had a more introverted focus while getting to know how to supply the strenght of dom-Te with the qualities of aux-Si. You would seem a bit ISTJ-ish occasionally. (I went rather INFP-ishly introverted during puberty myself.)
Though I don't know your age now, I could guess that you are trying on your tertiary Ne for size in these years, thus feeling ENxP-ish at times and getting all confused about everything due to the infamous 'openness' of this function. But you are still ESTJ, don't worry! You are just on the path of getting more dimensions under conscious control.
Any tertiary function is both exciting and exhausting to use eleborately and it will often express itself oppositionally and 'crude'. For example do INTJs have Fi as tertiary and often live their first 30-40 years with a hardly conscious childish feeling-value saying "Oh no, I'm not going to get involved, too risky, not worth the potential hurt!" We ENFPs have Te as teriary and will for years childishly refuse to get organised, be on time and follow an effective goal-directed plan, if what needs to be done isn't improvisationally 'fun', tertiary Te-judgment thus throwing a fit of "I don't wanna do it and you can't make me!" :steam:.... uh...

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Summing up:
I think you use Te-Si primarily and Ne-Fi occasionally.
These four functions, in this order, came out stronger, LL, when you commented on your understanding / identification with each function description earlier in the thread.
I also noticed that you did that little piece of research in a stringently systematic and thorough way - so very Te-Si of you, dear,

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I wouldn't have had the patience (unless forced to), but would rather intuit a number of promising patterns early on and only scan the rest for possible inconsistencies with my patterns. I pick stuff apart analytically, but it is in order to get new raw material for Ne's constant
synthesis of vast connectivities encompassed by a mallable big-picture. I simply cannot NOT see patterns, while you seem to naturally tear potential patterns apart with a critical eye (Te) and a flow of details (Si). It's true that Ne wants more information and will keep options open, but when you are dom-Ne it is not in a frustrating 'Argh, nothing makes sense!'-kind of way, but rather in a 'Hey, this makes sense! And this! And this! And maybe this, if... "-kind of way.

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What you are doing in this thread could be an expression of tertiary Ne trying to make patterns out in the open field, but in the 'child-way' of NOT yet mastering the synthesis (aka not yet making you able to determine your type-pattern, only to question and re-open everything). Instead the openness of tertiary Ne is expressed by insecurity, exhaustion and suspicion as it temporaily seems to destabilise the usual cognitive balance of the dominant and auxiliary.
But Ne will be a good help once you learn to use it, seeing some potentials that Te can work out if they are judged okay. Only Ne must still be under the supervision of your well-founded Te/Si tandem.
I can speculate that perhaps you'll experience a period of Fi-focus later in life, making you feel a bit INFP-ish at moments. An elder ISTJ I know did this around his 50s, it was nice and unsusual to see this 'hard' man melting emotionally at occasions (Fi is his tertiary, but he had refused 'feeling' for years. Partly due to being male I think).
Hope the above suggestive synthesis chimes with you, LL. What do you think (answer in Te!, please don't Ne it!) about it?