KurtCobain
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- Feb 2, 2020
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- MBTI Type
- ISFP
- Enneagram
- 9w8
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/so
1) Context:
a) What is your age range and general location (Country so that cultural values can be taken into account)? Do you have any impairments that may affect the way that you answer this questionnaire? Any religious or political beliefs (or anything else along those lines) that also might have an effect? I'm 26 and live in the southern-central area of the United States. I struggle with C-PTSD, ADHD, depression, anxiety, autism, and some physical birth defects that have made my life more difficult than it was going to be already. I'm an atheist who escaped a cult I was raised in, and I often vote for self-described "socialist" politicians, even if they are really more social democratic in nature. I know what its like to suffer and I don't want others to suffer, so in addition to supporting politics that increase the number and quality of free public services, I also chair a local Democratic Socialist of America pre-organizing committee. We do public service projects like cleaning parks, feeding the hungry, and registering people to vote. We allow everybody to register to vote, even conservatives, though I honestly fail to understand how anybody could hold such harmful views in this day and age.
b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven't you decided on one? INFP or INTP, with unusually pronounced Si. I considered ISxJ for a bit, but my struggle with disorganization, poor memory, and slow mental processing speed seemingly precludes high Te, and my lack of awareness of current social norms seems to preclude high Fe. Meanwhile, my inquisitive nature and desire to always be learning to the extent of always listening to podcasts on current events and podcasts on psychology, sociology, and other social events seems to suggest at least decent Ne, especially since I sometimes turn new ideas that intrigue into new paintings or poems or short stories. INFP could fit since I'm moody and try to live my values as best as I can regardless of the current social atmosphere I find myself in, and I'm often oblivious to the current social atmosphere, anyway. This wouldn't be such a big problem if the "social rules" weren't always changing and weren't so different between cultures. I do attempt to follow etiquette and be cordial, but I often "put my foot my mouth", figuratively speaking. That said, I don't always get it right. On the other hand I don't just "follow my heart", either, and I attempt to always logically weigh the pros and cons of my actions before acting, at the expense of sometimes failing to act in time.
I'm looking at 6w5, 9w1, 2w1, and maybe 4w5, but 4w5 is less likely than the other 3 types. 6w5 could fit due to my inquisitive, withdrawn, and political nature. I care for other people in part because I want them to be there for me when I need their help, and that's also a 6ish quality, even if I also need a lot of time alone and try to develop my own skills, knowledge, and resources in the inevitable event of somebody betraying me in my moment of need. 2w1 also fits for this reason because I feel intense guilt if I don't help somebody I'm able to help and I genuinely enjoy being in the caretaker position, so long as the person I'm caring for doesn't become too harsh, demanding, or ungrateful. I can't even begin to recount how many times I have over-helped to the point of having put myself in a precarious situation and whoever I had been helping becoming very critical of me when I was unable to provide the same level of help I had been providing. I've become more guarded with age because of those experiences and I try to limit how much I help people now since there are many people who are like bottomless pits who will take everything I have if I let them, or worse, they will turn on me despite all the loyal aid I have provided. 9w1 fits because I have very high ideals I like to discuss with others regarding how the world could be a place of universal interdependence where everybody worked to the benefit of everybody else, am slow to anger (to a fault, even), am very forgiving, am very mellow, and can be trusting to a fault at times. I'm also likely to try to leave the room rather than engage in conflict, and I'd rather just sit quietly until somebody leaves or calms down if they are yelling at me. I wish to be unaffected by the trials and tribulations of others unless I am capable of helping in some way, and would remove myself from the world and live in a private bubble away from society if I could afford it. I'll mention that I'd still do large philanthropic projects if I moved into that bubble, but I'd be giving from a distance rather than in person. People find the practical help I give to be unsatisfactory since I'm so slow and clumsy, and I'd rather help people by giving them money or (at the most besides money) giving verbal emotional support and/or helpful advice, though I'll never turn down a request to help when asked. 4w5 makes sense due to my depression, many disabilities, and the many traumas I had to endure during my very sad childhood. Also, I have a personal sense of style and interests in several different art forms. 4w5 seems the least likely of the 4 types, though, since, while I would rather be included, protected, and appreciated (maybe even loved?). I have no desire to be different or stand out, beyond just being seen exceptionally friendly, pleasant, and harmless. That said, as a male, I think I should start working out so I look strong enough to make people who might want to hurt me think twice about it, even if I have no intent of harming anybody. Besides, being physically stronger will be good for my health and make me live healthier for longer.
2) What do you deem as your purpose in life? I am torn between finally enjoying my own life now that the hardest parts of my life are probably hopefully behind me on one hand, and being of service to others. I still feel guilt if I am not being of service to the needy in some way, even if I try to suppress that guilt to focus on my own security and comfort these days.
3) Of the seven deadly sins, which one(s) do you relate to the most and the least and why? I relate most to sloth and gluttony. I'd like to sit and chill at the beach all day getting brought delicious foods all day from a personal chef if I could get away with it, preferably alongside somebody I have an emotional connection with. Also, I'd like somebody to go to dinner shows and restaurants and movies with. Just pleasant, easy interaction with a trusted companion in comfort, with some occasional intellectual stimulation. I probably relate the least to lust and wrath. I am slow to anger and trusting (both to a fault at times), and I also couldn't just treat somebody as an object--I need a deep sincere connection with somebody to even begin to date them, much less do anything else.
4) Analyzing your relationships with others, briefly describe:
a) The type of people you are drawn to I am drawn to people more confident and extroverted than myself, especially if they have good business sense, care about the welfare of others, are kind, and are financially independent. I ask how they do what they do and I try to emulate their success, since I live in a very competitive society that values wealth, and I'd like to make more money doing less work whenever possible.
b) The type of people who are drawn to you All kinds of people. I'm pretty relaxed and welcoming, and so people come to me just to chat all the time no matter where I am. Sometimes I get more attention than I want, even. Some of the people who come to me are mean, though. I don't like mean people.
c) The type of people you are repulsed by Mean people. Also, I have a love-hate relationship with the very wealthy. Its more of a hate relationship if they never use their wealth and power to better the community and help people, though. Not that I'll directly confront them on this, but I see them and I'll keep in mind they could be providing for the needy and chose not to. Ideally, the world would be structured in such a way that everybody was equal and there weren't these higher and lower classes of people, and I'm not just talking about financial classes, either. Everybody should be equal, or at least able to live in dignity and comfort, if not equal.
5)What are the traits in others that you admire but you cannot emulate yourself? Elaborate. I'd love to be more organized, productive, efficient, and better able to follow through on my intentions. Its nearly impossible to do what I need to do if I'm not in the mood. Also, I'd love to have better business sense and better confidence and charisma. Money makes the world go around and if I can't personally help with something or procure something for myself for free, I can always help somebody by giving them money or buy what I want. If something can't be bought with money, it just can't be had by any other means anyway.
6) Describe your relationship with the following:
a) Anger -- I didn't even think I got angry until I was 16 or 17. I just accepted what was in the past was in the past, and I let bygones be bygones, and I just wanted to move forward towards making things better for all parties involved, even if I was the one who had been wronged. Honestly, though, I do resent people who don't reciprocate my help and who disturb my peace. I just won't bring it up.
b) Shame -- I have guilt and shame when I am unable to be of service or help somebody in need. I have shame of my disabilities for this reason. I have always felt needing anything was selfish, and my disabilities make me needier than a lot of people, but as I'm getting more financially stable and independent, I use money as the cure all to help myself and others.
c) Fear -- Fear-- I fear health problems, fear conflict, fear financial problems, fear going without my basic needs for prolonged periods of time (homelessness would be awful, especially with the way America treats the homeless compared to most other highly developed countries) also, once I've grown to care about somebody, I fear losing them or misfortune befalling them.
d) Love/passion So rare, its something I've mostly gone without over the course of my life, but I'd be open to the opportunity.
e) Conflict Only if the cause is just, and even then, only as a last resort. Sometimes people need to stand up to defend the helpless, even if its unpleasant.
7) What are some of the themes that have played a prominent role in your life (ie. A struggle you've been unable to conquer, etc)? I'm always too slow in my mental processing and physical movements and it makes people angry how slowly I talk and move, and I can't go faster no matter how hard I try. Also, I've always been too eager to please, even to my own detriment. I've nearly destroyed myself several times trying to help somebody in need, and I finally decided to start limiting how much I try to help.
8) Answer only one of the following:
a) [College aged and above] What is your area of work/study? Why did you choose this and would you change it? If so, what would be your ideal? I teach high school business classes, and I chose this for the summers and holidays and weekends off, better pay than I had been receiving, and the less physically demanding nature of the job. Ironically given how much social conventions confuse me at times, I think I'd make a good tele-therapist as I am a very patient listener, can usually connect with people one-on-one if given the opportunity, and would like the comfortable work environment most tele-therapists have. I would ideally be a therapist to the wealthy, and would offer my services on a subscription basis monthly, letting them talk to me and be subject to my theraputic treatments as often as they needed that month so long as they paid their monthly fee. Given how important it is to me to maintain my comfort and security, this seems like a good career to pursue after my teaching career has concluded. In some ways, this will be an easier group to focus on for therapy since the wealthy will probably have the resources to actually pursue whatever the best solution is, but it will be more difficult since I'd be targeting people more wealthy than I'll ever be, and those people probably are out of touch with how normal people live. So long as the pay and working conditions are good, though, I'll pretty much do anything that doesn't hurt people, though.
b)[Under college aged] What do you plan on studying/working as in the future? How did you go about deciding this? If this is not your ideal area of pursuit, what would be?
9) When meeting a new person, what do you tend to focus on? What are their interests? Can I help them with anything? Can they help me with anything? What are their values?
10) How do you feel about humanity as a whole? What do you feel are some of the biggest problems the human race faces and why? Humanity is too divided when it could be working together to solve problems. We are more alike than we like to admit at times and we would all be stronger if we worked together. I like to help others see that.
11) What are some of your hobbies and interests? I like to paint, write stories, relax in bed a long time, practice lucid dreaming, take warm baths, read journals of psychology and journals of sociology and journals of history and educational magazines and nonfiction books, and I like to watch movies. I also love travel and try to go somewhere new every year, but I'm partial to tropical beachside locations with an interesting history. I used to like reading sci-fi/fantasy books, too, and I'm trying to get back into those, but my tastes have changed a bit over time.
13) How do you usually "hang out" with your friend(s)? When answering, think about what activities you tend to choose, whether you hang out with one person at once or many, whether or not you initiate the interaction. We meet at a restaurant or over a potluck at one of our houses, and I meet with between 1 and 5 people at a time, but prefer smaller groups. In bigger groups, I'm more of a quiet listener, listening to the conversations of others. I talk more if I'm only meeting with 1 or 2 people, and will usually talk about politics, current events, or leisure activities.
14) What is more important, actions or words? Why? Both are important, but actions moreso because actions prove your words are sincere.
15) Oh dear, you've been cursed by a witch! It's ok though, you get a choice on which curse you will receive. Will you choose?
a) To never be able to experience the sensation of taste
b) To be immortal Hopefully this immortality also stops my aging process and returns me to a 20-something-year-old level of health from whenever this happens, but even if it doesn't, this is the best curse since I could keep amassing wealth and in just a few short hundred years, I could be a living god, capable of granting wishes to all who approached me, assuming the wish could be bought, while living in ultimate comfort myself. I've already lost many major relationships and have moved into new friend groups before, and it hurts, but while those around me come and go, I persist. I've gotten used to it. When I could afford it, though, especially if technology allows it eventually, I would seek to extend the youthfulness and health and lifespan of whoever my current companion was. I don't abandon people.
c) To lose your memories
d) To be poor for the rest of your life
e) Or to never experience passion
Elaborate on why!
16) What do you hope to avoid being? If it helps, describe a person who embodies what you avoid/you as a villain, etc? We could go in two directions with this-- either the homeless needy person who most people avoid because they need to much, or the tyrannical cruel rich guy who harms others in the pursuit of wealth.
17) How do you relate to obsession? Do you tend to "merge" with others or your interests? How do you feel about the idea of doing this? Sounds lovely to have a person to merge into, but it would have to be the right person.
18) Organized or messy? Plans and blueprints or impulse and surprises? What are you preferences and tendencies? I prefer order, but usually have to pay others to provide it for me. I have so much trouble focusing and initiating unpleasant tasks that my house is disgusting pigsty in between cleanings and I struggle managing all my duties. An ideal partner would help me manage this.
19) How do you subjectively view comfort and how do you create comfort in your life and surroundings? I try to buy soft bedding and stay on top of laundry, as challenging as that is at times.
a) What is your age range and general location (Country so that cultural values can be taken into account)? Do you have any impairments that may affect the way that you answer this questionnaire? Any religious or political beliefs (or anything else along those lines) that also might have an effect? I'm 26 and live in the southern-central area of the United States. I struggle with C-PTSD, ADHD, depression, anxiety, autism, and some physical birth defects that have made my life more difficult than it was going to be already. I'm an atheist who escaped a cult I was raised in, and I often vote for self-described "socialist" politicians, even if they are really more social democratic in nature. I know what its like to suffer and I don't want others to suffer, so in addition to supporting politics that increase the number and quality of free public services, I also chair a local Democratic Socialist of America pre-organizing committee. We do public service projects like cleaning parks, feeding the hungry, and registering people to vote. We allow everybody to register to vote, even conservatives, though I honestly fail to understand how anybody could hold such harmful views in this day and age.
b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven't you decided on one? INFP or INTP, with unusually pronounced Si. I considered ISxJ for a bit, but my struggle with disorganization, poor memory, and slow mental processing speed seemingly precludes high Te, and my lack of awareness of current social norms seems to preclude high Fe. Meanwhile, my inquisitive nature and desire to always be learning to the extent of always listening to podcasts on current events and podcasts on psychology, sociology, and other social events seems to suggest at least decent Ne, especially since I sometimes turn new ideas that intrigue into new paintings or poems or short stories. INFP could fit since I'm moody and try to live my values as best as I can regardless of the current social atmosphere I find myself in, and I'm often oblivious to the current social atmosphere, anyway. This wouldn't be such a big problem if the "social rules" weren't always changing and weren't so different between cultures. I do attempt to follow etiquette and be cordial, but I often "put my foot my mouth", figuratively speaking. That said, I don't always get it right. On the other hand I don't just "follow my heart", either, and I attempt to always logically weigh the pros and cons of my actions before acting, at the expense of sometimes failing to act in time.
I'm looking at 6w5, 9w1, 2w1, and maybe 4w5, but 4w5 is less likely than the other 3 types. 6w5 could fit due to my inquisitive, withdrawn, and political nature. I care for other people in part because I want them to be there for me when I need their help, and that's also a 6ish quality, even if I also need a lot of time alone and try to develop my own skills, knowledge, and resources in the inevitable event of somebody betraying me in my moment of need. 2w1 also fits for this reason because I feel intense guilt if I don't help somebody I'm able to help and I genuinely enjoy being in the caretaker position, so long as the person I'm caring for doesn't become too harsh, demanding, or ungrateful. I can't even begin to recount how many times I have over-helped to the point of having put myself in a precarious situation and whoever I had been helping becoming very critical of me when I was unable to provide the same level of help I had been providing. I've become more guarded with age because of those experiences and I try to limit how much I help people now since there are many people who are like bottomless pits who will take everything I have if I let them, or worse, they will turn on me despite all the loyal aid I have provided. 9w1 fits because I have very high ideals I like to discuss with others regarding how the world could be a place of universal interdependence where everybody worked to the benefit of everybody else, am slow to anger (to a fault, even), am very forgiving, am very mellow, and can be trusting to a fault at times. I'm also likely to try to leave the room rather than engage in conflict, and I'd rather just sit quietly until somebody leaves or calms down if they are yelling at me. I wish to be unaffected by the trials and tribulations of others unless I am capable of helping in some way, and would remove myself from the world and live in a private bubble away from society if I could afford it. I'll mention that I'd still do large philanthropic projects if I moved into that bubble, but I'd be giving from a distance rather than in person. People find the practical help I give to be unsatisfactory since I'm so slow and clumsy, and I'd rather help people by giving them money or (at the most besides money) giving verbal emotional support and/or helpful advice, though I'll never turn down a request to help when asked. 4w5 makes sense due to my depression, many disabilities, and the many traumas I had to endure during my very sad childhood. Also, I have a personal sense of style and interests in several different art forms. 4w5 seems the least likely of the 4 types, though, since, while I would rather be included, protected, and appreciated (maybe even loved?). I have no desire to be different or stand out, beyond just being seen exceptionally friendly, pleasant, and harmless. That said, as a male, I think I should start working out so I look strong enough to make people who might want to hurt me think twice about it, even if I have no intent of harming anybody. Besides, being physically stronger will be good for my health and make me live healthier for longer.
2) What do you deem as your purpose in life? I am torn between finally enjoying my own life now that the hardest parts of my life are probably hopefully behind me on one hand, and being of service to others. I still feel guilt if I am not being of service to the needy in some way, even if I try to suppress that guilt to focus on my own security and comfort these days.
3) Of the seven deadly sins, which one(s) do you relate to the most and the least and why? I relate most to sloth and gluttony. I'd like to sit and chill at the beach all day getting brought delicious foods all day from a personal chef if I could get away with it, preferably alongside somebody I have an emotional connection with. Also, I'd like somebody to go to dinner shows and restaurants and movies with. Just pleasant, easy interaction with a trusted companion in comfort, with some occasional intellectual stimulation. I probably relate the least to lust and wrath. I am slow to anger and trusting (both to a fault at times), and I also couldn't just treat somebody as an object--I need a deep sincere connection with somebody to even begin to date them, much less do anything else.
4) Analyzing your relationships with others, briefly describe:
a) The type of people you are drawn to I am drawn to people more confident and extroverted than myself, especially if they have good business sense, care about the welfare of others, are kind, and are financially independent. I ask how they do what they do and I try to emulate their success, since I live in a very competitive society that values wealth, and I'd like to make more money doing less work whenever possible.
b) The type of people who are drawn to you All kinds of people. I'm pretty relaxed and welcoming, and so people come to me just to chat all the time no matter where I am. Sometimes I get more attention than I want, even. Some of the people who come to me are mean, though. I don't like mean people.
c) The type of people you are repulsed by Mean people. Also, I have a love-hate relationship with the very wealthy. Its more of a hate relationship if they never use their wealth and power to better the community and help people, though. Not that I'll directly confront them on this, but I see them and I'll keep in mind they could be providing for the needy and chose not to. Ideally, the world would be structured in such a way that everybody was equal and there weren't these higher and lower classes of people, and I'm not just talking about financial classes, either. Everybody should be equal, or at least able to live in dignity and comfort, if not equal.
5)What are the traits in others that you admire but you cannot emulate yourself? Elaborate. I'd love to be more organized, productive, efficient, and better able to follow through on my intentions. Its nearly impossible to do what I need to do if I'm not in the mood. Also, I'd love to have better business sense and better confidence and charisma. Money makes the world go around and if I can't personally help with something or procure something for myself for free, I can always help somebody by giving them money or buy what I want. If something can't be bought with money, it just can't be had by any other means anyway.
6) Describe your relationship with the following:
a) Anger -- I didn't even think I got angry until I was 16 or 17. I just accepted what was in the past was in the past, and I let bygones be bygones, and I just wanted to move forward towards making things better for all parties involved, even if I was the one who had been wronged. Honestly, though, I do resent people who don't reciprocate my help and who disturb my peace. I just won't bring it up.
b) Shame -- I have guilt and shame when I am unable to be of service or help somebody in need. I have shame of my disabilities for this reason. I have always felt needing anything was selfish, and my disabilities make me needier than a lot of people, but as I'm getting more financially stable and independent, I use money as the cure all to help myself and others.
c) Fear -- Fear-- I fear health problems, fear conflict, fear financial problems, fear going without my basic needs for prolonged periods of time (homelessness would be awful, especially with the way America treats the homeless compared to most other highly developed countries) also, once I've grown to care about somebody, I fear losing them or misfortune befalling them.
d) Love/passion So rare, its something I've mostly gone without over the course of my life, but I'd be open to the opportunity.
e) Conflict Only if the cause is just, and even then, only as a last resort. Sometimes people need to stand up to defend the helpless, even if its unpleasant.
7) What are some of the themes that have played a prominent role in your life (ie. A struggle you've been unable to conquer, etc)? I'm always too slow in my mental processing and physical movements and it makes people angry how slowly I talk and move, and I can't go faster no matter how hard I try. Also, I've always been too eager to please, even to my own detriment. I've nearly destroyed myself several times trying to help somebody in need, and I finally decided to start limiting how much I try to help.
8) Answer only one of the following:
a) [College aged and above] What is your area of work/study? Why did you choose this and would you change it? If so, what would be your ideal? I teach high school business classes, and I chose this for the summers and holidays and weekends off, better pay than I had been receiving, and the less physically demanding nature of the job. Ironically given how much social conventions confuse me at times, I think I'd make a good tele-therapist as I am a very patient listener, can usually connect with people one-on-one if given the opportunity, and would like the comfortable work environment most tele-therapists have. I would ideally be a therapist to the wealthy, and would offer my services on a subscription basis monthly, letting them talk to me and be subject to my theraputic treatments as often as they needed that month so long as they paid their monthly fee. Given how important it is to me to maintain my comfort and security, this seems like a good career to pursue after my teaching career has concluded. In some ways, this will be an easier group to focus on for therapy since the wealthy will probably have the resources to actually pursue whatever the best solution is, but it will be more difficult since I'd be targeting people more wealthy than I'll ever be, and those people probably are out of touch with how normal people live. So long as the pay and working conditions are good, though, I'll pretty much do anything that doesn't hurt people, though.
b)[Under college aged] What do you plan on studying/working as in the future? How did you go about deciding this? If this is not your ideal area of pursuit, what would be?
9) When meeting a new person, what do you tend to focus on? What are their interests? Can I help them with anything? Can they help me with anything? What are their values?
10) How do you feel about humanity as a whole? What do you feel are some of the biggest problems the human race faces and why? Humanity is too divided when it could be working together to solve problems. We are more alike than we like to admit at times and we would all be stronger if we worked together. I like to help others see that.
11) What are some of your hobbies and interests? I like to paint, write stories, relax in bed a long time, practice lucid dreaming, take warm baths, read journals of psychology and journals of sociology and journals of history and educational magazines and nonfiction books, and I like to watch movies. I also love travel and try to go somewhere new every year, but I'm partial to tropical beachside locations with an interesting history. I used to like reading sci-fi/fantasy books, too, and I'm trying to get back into those, but my tastes have changed a bit over time.
13) How do you usually "hang out" with your friend(s)? When answering, think about what activities you tend to choose, whether you hang out with one person at once or many, whether or not you initiate the interaction. We meet at a restaurant or over a potluck at one of our houses, and I meet with between 1 and 5 people at a time, but prefer smaller groups. In bigger groups, I'm more of a quiet listener, listening to the conversations of others. I talk more if I'm only meeting with 1 or 2 people, and will usually talk about politics, current events, or leisure activities.
14) What is more important, actions or words? Why? Both are important, but actions moreso because actions prove your words are sincere.
15) Oh dear, you've been cursed by a witch! It's ok though, you get a choice on which curse you will receive. Will you choose?
a) To never be able to experience the sensation of taste
b) To be immortal Hopefully this immortality also stops my aging process and returns me to a 20-something-year-old level of health from whenever this happens, but even if it doesn't, this is the best curse since I could keep amassing wealth and in just a few short hundred years, I could be a living god, capable of granting wishes to all who approached me, assuming the wish could be bought, while living in ultimate comfort myself. I've already lost many major relationships and have moved into new friend groups before, and it hurts, but while those around me come and go, I persist. I've gotten used to it. When I could afford it, though, especially if technology allows it eventually, I would seek to extend the youthfulness and health and lifespan of whoever my current companion was. I don't abandon people.
c) To lose your memories
d) To be poor for the rest of your life
e) Or to never experience passion
Elaborate on why!
16) What do you hope to avoid being? If it helps, describe a person who embodies what you avoid/you as a villain, etc? We could go in two directions with this-- either the homeless needy person who most people avoid because they need to much, or the tyrannical cruel rich guy who harms others in the pursuit of wealth.
17) How do you relate to obsession? Do you tend to "merge" with others or your interests? How do you feel about the idea of doing this? Sounds lovely to have a person to merge into, but it would have to be the right person.
18) Organized or messy? Plans and blueprints or impulse and surprises? What are you preferences and tendencies? I prefer order, but usually have to pay others to provide it for me. I have so much trouble focusing and initiating unpleasant tasks that my house is disgusting pigsty in between cleanings and I struggle managing all my duties. An ideal partner would help me manage this.
19) How do you subjectively view comfort and how do you create comfort in your life and surroundings? I try to buy soft bedding and stay on top of laundry, as challenging as that is at times.
