I mean...isn't this exactly what white supremicists say to justify hating people? This response kind of reads like a scene from American History X.
Bush had an earnest quality that people liked. Clinton had the same. Guess I don't have that many elections under my belt to parse data, this year just seemed different. Not necessarily bad, just unusual.
(Really I'm just stunned my gut feeling was finally wrong)
Well, I cannot speak for everyone. At least in this context, we're talking about someone occupying a position of immense power. And, it isn't as though there is lack of evidence of his malfeasance. We're not talking about me curb-stomping some black kid I've never met before and talking about how I love my country and want to keep it pure. There is a material difference, even if their rhetoric echoes my heartfelt sentiments.
You're right though, this year was different. It was much more about voting against Trump than voting for Biden. But that doesn't mean it was fueled by hate, per se. For example, suppose you're a parent and you come home to find a man actively raping and beating your child. My gut tells me you would be immediately filled with horror and rage, and be compelled to attack the guy with every fiber of your being. You would likely genuinely feel hate for the man in that moment. But, nobody would characterize your impetus to act as driven by hate. It's driven by love of your child.
That said, I do think Biden was the right choice to run against Trump, and I think he's the right man for the moment. Could you imagine any of the other democratic candidates navigating the next 2 (and possibly 4) years with a Republican Senate?
As for your parenthetical, I think everyone was a bit miscalibrated. Our worlds are becoming increasingly insular, and it can be easy to develop a distorted view of things as they are in totality. But, I do think people tend to oversell the narratives after these elections. Let's be extremely generous and say Biden wins by 6% once all votes are in. That would mean that out of every 100 people you meet, 47 wanted Trump and 53 wanted Biden. You'd be hard pressed to tell the difference between that and the inverse: