[Type 7] The Wisdom of the Enneagram Seven

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@MagicQwan if it makes you feel better, i nodded at almost all you said about your reactions to work (difficulty paying attention and being consistent, etc). i haven't really found a solution, i try to go heavy on Te, but i can't do it for a long time, otherwise it makes me feel bleak and depressed. some days are better, others worse. on the bad days, i usually have a beer to unwind when i get home (like you and your ice cream), and then there is always the weekend, which allows you to relax, follow other interests and free yourself from other people's expectations of you, which allows you to get your energy back to prepare for the week ahead. alas that is life, as a young enfp, you just have to find your own inner balance, that allows you to float over ever-day-life-minor-bullshit-happenings, and still see the poetry in the universe. i guess...*shrugs* *smiles*

[MENTION=10082]Starry[/MENTION]
Your efforts are not in vain. I will succeed in this job, even if I feel like a stupid little kid. You have a special place in my heart.
[MENTION=13377]pinkgraffiti[/MENTION]
Thank you, I will try my best to find my own path, even if I am unsure of what REALLY defines me.

 

[Starry]

Totally started crying in public today...

@EcK

I was at a second-hand store. I'm not even kidding here's why... My Mom is supposed to bring some sort of food item to some sort of party...and wants to use a crock-pot... but not her regular crock-pot because it's like the size of a bathtub... but she cracked the ceramic part on her transportable crock-pot so she wanted me to look in this second-hand store for a replacement part because she knew I was going to be in that same area today omg.

It was in that store I heard this song and started crying in front of people. It made think of Magic Qwan. It made me think of myself when I was Magic Qwan's age. Slowly figuring out that things aren't what you had always imagined them to be (and yes, I look extremely feminine when I cry in public.)

I don't know if I will be able to say all of what I had wanted to say in this thread - I'm tired sometimes here and don't know if I'll catch a second wind. But I love knowing we all walk this same path

 

[EcK]

Totally started crying in public today...

@EcK

I was at a second-hand store. I'm not even kidding here's why... My Mom is supposed to bring some sort of food item to some sort of party...and wants to use a crock-pot... but not her regular crock-pot because it's like the size of a bathtub... but she cracked the ceramic part on her transportable crock-pot so she wanted me to look in this second-hand store for a replacement because she knew I was going to be in that same area today omg.

It was in that store I heard this song and started crying in front of people. It made think of Magic Qwan. It made me think of myself when I was Magic Qwan's age. Slowly figuring out that things aren't what you had always imagined them to be (and yes, I look extremely feminine when I cry in public.)

I don't know if I will be able to say all of what I had wanted to say in this thread - I'm tired sometimes here and don't know if I'll catch a second wind. But I love knowing we all walk this same path

crybaby

 

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Totally started crying in public today...

@EcK

I was at a second-hand store. I'm not even kidding here's why... My Mom is supposed to bring some sort of food item to some sort of party...and wants to use a crock-pot... but not her regular crock-pot because it's like the size of a bathtub... but she cracked the ceramic part on her transportable crock-pot so she wanted me to look in this second-hand store for a replacement part because she knew I was going to be in that same area today omg.

It was in that store I heard this song and started crying in front of people. It made think of Magic Qwan. It made me think of myself when I was Magic Qwan's age. Slowly figuring out that things aren't what you had always imagined them to be (and yes, I look extremely feminine when I cry in public.)

I don't know if I will be able to say all of what I had wanted to say in this thread - I'm tired sometimes here and don't know if I'll catch a second wind. But I love knowing we all walk this same path

I spoke with the pharmacist on the ADD, and he said he would take it into consideration, but I still needed to work on focus. I am doing better at work, and I try to laugh off the mistakes I make and fix them myself the best I can. Really, all I can do is try my best.

As for the song, I am sorry it hurt you. Memories of a simpler, happier time often hurt since you can't go back. I've been there. All you can do is look forward to the adventures that await you, and savor the present—it doesn't last but for an instant. Spirit of the warrior, remember?

 

[Starry]

I spoke with the pharmacist on the ADD, and he said he would take it into consideration, but I still needed to work on focus. I am doing better at work, and I try to laugh off the mistakes I make and fix them myself the best I can. Really, all I can do is try my best.

I'm actually here. Your last post to me in this thread... it was very sweet and immediately notified me of the fact that 'positive outlook' had kicked back in. Which for now is fine...I want you to be dealing with these immediate concerns as you rightly should. But at some point in the near future you must come to know/understand how positive outlook...or what I now call "the forgetting"...blocks access to meaningful healing. Because if you don't remember...I promise you Life will create a Memorial for you.

Sick 7s keep cycling around and around their wounds without even figuring out in a meaningful way what those wounds truly are. It goes like this: an external event brushes up against a wound, the 7 reacts/responds in some way -> running, avoidance, gluttony... ENFP 7s often become emotionally volatile like you do, etc. But I've even witnessed 7s respond constructively/positively to these same instances...determined to heal and still completely forget all of the aforementioned once something in the external environment causes 'positive outlook' to kick back in. This is what I see you doing over and over again and I'm trying to figure out how to get you down off the hamster wheel.

Anyway...if you have a documented disability your "main boss" doesn't get to say "I may consider it if my Moon is trining Venus in the 2nd house that week." No. Your "main boss" is required by law to...not only consider it but provide you with the proper accommodations in order to accurately assess your skills against that of your peers...do you understand?

As for the song, I am sorry it hurt you. Memories of a simpler, happier time often hurt since you can't go back. I've been there. All you can do is look forward to the adventures that await you, and savor the present—it doesn't last but for an instant. Spirit of the warrior, remember?

Thank you but know that you did not hurt me in the least omg (I also need to get you to understand and remember that you are an inverted e7 narcissist.) I cry for Life's pain and beauty.

 

[Starry]

crybaby

just wait until baby godfather hears about this... (who's a wiseguy now huh? yah, that's what I thought.)

 

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I'm actually here. Your last post to me in this thread... it was very sweet and immediately notified me of the fact that 'positive outlook' had kicked back in. Which for now is fine...I want you to be dealing with these immediate concerns as you rightly should. But at some point in the near future you must come to know/understand how positive outlook...or what I now call "the forgetting"...blocks access to meaningful healing. Because if you don't remember...I promise you Life will create a Memorial for you.

Sick 7s keep cycling around and around their wounds without even figuring out in a meaningful way what those wounds truly are. It goes like this: an external event brushes up against a wound, the 7 reacts/responds in some way -> running, avoidance, gluttony... ENFP 7s often become emotionally volatile like you do, etc. But I've even witnessed 7s respond constructively/positively to these same instances...determined to heal and still completely forget all of the aforementioned once something in the external environment causes 'positive outlook' to kick back in. This is what I see you doing over and over again and I'm trying to figure out how to get you down off the hamster wheel.

Anyway...if you have a documented disability your "main boss" doesn't get to say "I may consider it if my Moon is trining Venus in the 2nd house that week." No. Your "main boss" is required by law to...not only consider it but provide you with the proper accommodations in order to accurately assess your skills against that of your peers...do you understand?




Thank you but know that you did not hurt me in the least omg (I also need to get you to understand and remember that you are an inverted e7 narcissist.) I cry for Life's pain and beauty.

It seems like I just reassessed the situation. Things are either conducive to my future happiness and security or they are not.

 

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In other news, I finally got back in touch with my two half sisters after 14 years. One of them just got married, and the other one, who had a baby, is working as a make-up model and is about to open a burger shop in the mountains in honor of our father.

I was the only one in my side of the family who never gave up hope they would return. I faithfully held vigil and when the moment arrived, I was ready to welcome them back.

 

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I just heard your song in the grocery store/pharmacy I work at. Maybe it is the same chain?

 

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[MENTION=10082]Starry[/MENTION], WHAT CAN I DO to break the spell?
Also, you haven't been paying me much attention the last couple days, and you are my favorite member.

 

[Starry]

[MENTION=10082]Starry[/MENTION], WHAT CAN I DO to break the spell?
Also, you haven't been paying me much attention the last couple days, and you are my favorite member.

I've actually been paying you more attention lately you just don't know.

I'm kinda trying to position myself to go sweetie. Perhaps think of it this way... you are one of the main reasons I haven't committed forum suicide by posting porn - a strategy I have an extraordinary amount of respect for.

I've given you everything you need to break the spell. It's "the forgetting" that's getting in the way...and I've been trying to figure out a way around it. I think the best I will be able to do is just to create a summary of it all for you to refer to.

I've also considered that breaking my long silence with regards to the "Cube test" (haha [MENTION=22067]riva[/MENTION] ) and sharing my results would help you understand 7 a bit better...and function in a similar way as the "suicide by porn" method but without earning me a ban (I would just be too embarrassed to return haha.)

I'm getting a summary together for you.

 

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I've actually been paying you more attention lately you just don't know.

I'm kinda trying to position myself to go sweetie. Perhaps think of it this way... you are one of the main reasons I haven't committed forum suicide by posting porn - a strategy I have an extraordinary amount of respect for.

I've given you everything you need to break the spell. It's "the forgetting" that's getting in the way...and I've been trying to figure out a way around it. I think the best I will be able to do is just to create a summary of it all for you to refer to.

I've also considered that breaking my long silence with regards to the "Cube test" (haha [MENTION=22067]riva[/MENTION] ) and sharing my results would help you understand 7 a bit better...and function in a similar way as the "suicide by porn" method but without earning me a ban (I would just be too embarrassed to return haha.)

I'm getting a summary together for you.

Why are you wanting to go?

 

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Oooo cube test atlast. It was quite nice. You should definitely do it atleast privately.

 

[Starry]

Oooo cube test atlast. It was quite nice. You should definitely do it atleast privately.

Oh I did take it haha. And after reading everyone else's response thought "omfg there is no way I'm sharing my results." For some reason I thought it was you that I was recently discussing this with but maybe not.

 

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Oh I did take it haha. And after reading everyone else's response thought "omfg there is no way I'm sharing my results." For some reason I thought it was you that I was recently discussing this with but maybe not.

Please, don't go.

 

[Starry]

Please, don't go.

Oh Magic Qwan I'm here. I decided against the account closure...seriously #1 reason...so you could search posts of mine if you ever needed to. And I'll still get notifications in the off chance I ever learn how to manage that whole thing... I'm just taking steps in one direction at this time is all and we'll see how it goes. I'm always with you though - that's what you need to know.

 

[Riva]

Yeah now i remember that we did discuss it and you mentioned you are too embarassed to share this.

 

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Oh Magic Qwan I'm here. I decided against the account closure...seriously #1 reason...so you could search posts of mine if you ever needed to. And I'll still get notifications in the off chance I ever learn how to manage that whole thing... I'm just taking steps in one direction at this time is all and we'll see how it goes. I'm always with you though - that's what you need to know.

Thank you.

 

[Starry]

Thank you.

On the surface, Sevens would like to convince themselves and everyone else that they are always feeling "fabulous"—having the time of their lives. Of course, the truth is often somewhat different. Sevens, like all human beings, are vulnerable to anxiety, depression, loneliness, and other difficult feelings. At times, Sevens sincerely want to tell others how they actually feel, but they often feel compelled to keep spirits high, even if privately they are miserable themselves. Yet they also struggle with fears of not being taken seriously and a sense that others will misinterpret their positive approach to life as a lack of feeling or depth. In private, Sevens struggle with loneliness, grief, and self-doubt and are as prone to depression as any other type. Most of all, Sevens fear a gnawing feeling that they will never really get what they truly want in life. So they settle for other pleasures that they hope will make them happy enough, or at least pleasantly distracted, from the more painful disappointments in their lives.

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