Domino
ENFJ In Chains
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Hmm, hard to say, miss googily-eyes. Your core type is 2, right?
Yes! 2 w 1, I think?

Hmm, hard to say, miss googily-eyes. Your core type is 2, right?
Yes! 2 w 1, I think?<--Miss Eyelash N Me Eye now
break it down for me brotha...whatcha doin in this here thread?
I'm pretty sure I posted here before but I had some new insight on my Enneagram type since then.
I'm a 6>1>4.
This implies my 'opposite' Enneagram type is a 7 since I relate the least to Positivism and the least to Aggressive.
Well... Let's just assume that is correct, miss Eyelash N Me Eye Now.
That would at least make you 2w1. Now, the next number has to either be 9 or 7. Do you think you are more like a 9 or a 7 (I think I know the answer to this).
*puzzles* Not sure...Which do you think is more me?
I'd like to give a comprehensive answer, Erudur, but at the moment it still sounds like you're having typing problems that sort of precede stages that this thread can help very much.
Maybe I can get you to talk a little more about your thoughts on these stacks. Can there be a true tie between two traits? Do you think there may be certain social settings where one wears one trait one place but another trait another?
Do you think your organization along these lines may be leaving something out, something you haven't found a place for yet?
I don't feel like I have any great critique because the light bulb hasn't turned for me yet.
I guess I'd just throw out this: I think that 8 or 1 is my primary and 1 or 8 is my dominant "wing" which would be kind of a rule exception (1 can't be a wing for 8, 8 can't be a wing for 1).
Though I probably feel compelled to reject the enneagram, as my work to apply it tends to suggest I am schizophrenic.:steam:![]()
for this I don't know if i'm getting it right but this is what i'm agreeing with most in order of preference.
thinking either (most likely)core type: 2
primary wing 6
secondary wing 7
could someone help me understand 2>6>7 p-i-s to see if i'm on the right track.
Behavior:anticipating, pursuing, avoiding
emotion:controlling, tubulent, suppressive
motivereservational, intimate, social.
I think i defiantly shift more emotionally haha this is really clearing things up hmm.
I'm interested in learning about the wings having a little difficulty very interested in finding out my wings this sounds more better to understand the enneagram.
my info on what I am thinking i am is in my sig I'm kinda torn between 9 and 2 which i hear can be pretty similar on the outside.
can you help me point out what my wings/type would be i'm up for questions cause i don't comment much so if info's needed ask away ^^D.
this way sounds like I could apply it more I have been trying so hard to understand the enneagram with disintegration/integration idk anymore to be honest haha.
you guys defiantly put alot of work in this I'm very curious.
thanks in advance for the help in clarifying this![]()
hey...i want some more enneagram stuff to read...do i have to figure a lot of stuff out or what?
Well, duchess, a lot of the extra parts of the Enneagram me and dissonance threw out altogether, as we felt they were not validated by the rest of the system, and basically just confused things even more. There are a lot of unwarranted specifications and predications in the conventional Enneagram.
The current version you have listed is valid. 6 can be a wing of 2 because they are both behaviorally anticipating, and 7 can be a wing of 2 because they are both mood controlling.
Now, what you're saying, though, is that you just as well might be a 9. And if you were a 9, that you would change your wing options a bit, too. 6 wouldn't be possible. So what are you? You are correct in saying that the too are easy to mix up, and it is common.
As you see, both types are mood controlling, so they are distinguished by behavior. The main difference between a 2 and a 9 is the amount of influence they attempt to wield. Because 9s are avoidant, they generally don't want to have much responsiblity put on them. when 9s do step in, it is almost always to prevent a negative, disharmonious situation from forming. So even then, they only want to stabilize, and then lay back again. If their attempt fails, they are likely to retreat from the situation altogether. A 2 is very different in this regard. 2s often want to feel like their is weight on their shoulds. They want to feel necessary. All anticipating types have a somewhat custodial nature to them. They believe they have to be around to keep things in shape. So, 2s tend to have a lot more presence than 9s, as 2s hate letting things go or falling into the background. 9s do not obsess in the same way.
There are other differences, but I think the main point here is that it's hard to get 2s to butt out of things, while it's not hard at all with 9s. 2s tend to feel subtantially more controlling of circumstances, and more obsessive of their place.
Does that help at all?