[SP] SP dealbreakers and must haves

[miss fortune]

since every other type seems to be making these, we might as well have one too... plus, then the SPs won't feel tempted to post their lists elsewhere *nudges foolish heart*

what must a SO have and what can't they have?

btw, this thread is for guys and girls since we don't have the numbers to have seperate threads!

 

[JocktheMotie]

Do SPs even have dealbreakers?

 

[miss fortune]

yeah... no sense of humor... and not liking me... and being fridgid

 

[ChocolateMoose123]

Must Haves:

Chemistry
Good sex
Honest
Trustworthy
Fun

Deal Breakers:

Game Playing
Talks too much


That's all I got right now...

 

[sLiPpY]

Adding to MDP2525's list:

Deal Breakers:

EMO clingy
Fails to give me peace out space
Annoyingly Combative

 

[miss fortune]

must haves

they must like me
sex
sense of humor
patience (necissary with me being me and such... )
a sense of prudence... you know, ask occasionally "is that really a good idea?" when I'm going to do something potentially disasterous

hopefully

I don't know, but somewhat anal retentive men are hott ......
remembers essential things like when the light bill is due
likes dogs

dealbreakers

abusive
can't laugh about things
plays games
cheats
won't accept help that's offered

 

[man]

they have to be ART
shorter than me

thats about it

 

[ChocolateMoose123]

Adding to MDP2525's list:

Deal Breakers:

EMO clingy
Fails to give me peace out space
Annoyingly Combative

Good adds...especially the annoyingly combative.

 

[Randomnity]

dealbreakers:

asshole
unwilling to work, or clean up after yourself
life goals are too different

lots of stuff I don't prefer, but there's always exceptions to be made in those areas

 

[ragashree]

SP requirements are so much cooler and more sensible than the requirements of other types. Maybe I need an SP!

 

[Walking Tourist]

deal breakers:
control freak
no sense of humor
arrogant
smoker
dangerous driver
liar

deal makers:
good sense of humor
adventurous
likes cats

 

[Jeffster]

since every other type seems to be making these, we might as well have one too... plus, then the SPs won't feel tempted to post their lists elsewhere *nudges foolish heart*

I didn't read the other topics. There's so many boring topic titles.

what must a SO have and what can't they have?

SO? Space Opera? Sulking Orangutan? Skeptical Ocelot? Spinach Omelet?

 

[miss fortune]

sulking orangutang... totally!

 

[Sunny Ghost]

must have/be:
sensuous in bed. brush my hair, caress my leg, etc.
care for animals. i have a LOT of cats.
be a soft kisser. nothing sloppy or too hard.
like to have fun! i'm a bit impulsive and i don't like restraints.
give me space when i need it. and not have to fight you for it either. i like guys that have their own interests that they want to busy their selves in, so i don't have to feel selfish when i want to be alone, and so that we'll each have interesting things to share with one another. i like a guy with some passion of his own.
must enjoy silence. talk is cheap, baby. i don't want to hear your dull stories 24/7. can't we both just go out to eat, me with my magazine, you with your book, and still know that there is love in the air.

deal breakers:
bad odors. i'm a bit of a hippie, myself... but i just cannot take foul odors.
guy's who put too much effort into their hair, clothes, etc. i like manly, men. natural looking men.
someone with no morals or questionable morals and values.
someone who isn't open minded or tolerant of differences between people.
constant negativity.

 

[Dali]

Desirable:
~ Laughs at my jokes.
~ Sensual and is appreciative of my uber-sensual nature.
~ Kind-hearted.
~ Intelligent.
~ Respects my passions/obsessions. (e.g. They may hate opera but they may not continously hate on it)
~ Lets me be me (while grounding me at the same time)
~ Level-headed (One of us has to be)

Dealbreakers:
~ Control-freak
~ Judgmental
~ Subpar hygiene
~ Uber-rigid
~ Cannibal


*Once upon a time, I may have put "plays games" in the deal-breakers list but my INFJ, wonderful as they may be, has a tendency to do a bit of this. I've been tempted to walk away once or twice but we're deeply in love and I'm trying to partially accommodate this tendency while, at the same time, gently and gradually wean them of it. I think its part of the package, in a sense; I've yet to meet an INFJ that doesn't play games in the relationship department (at least in the beginning). I'm not saying they don't exist; I've just yet to meet them.

 

[Halla74]

Y'all have these covered.

I agree with most everything my other SP compatriots have identified here.

Big ones for me include:

Must Be...
Fun
Good Sex, Often
You Trust Me, I Trust You
Must Have an Open Mind

MUST NOT BE...
Not Uptight
Not a Spendthrift

Don't Try to Tell Me What to Do...I Will Leave, I Play Fair, But Will Not Be Controlled

NO HEADGAMES

Don't Question Me...Just Kidding!

 

[Rainne]

Would Like:

-has a sense of wonder
-adventurous, likes to try new things and can keep up with me (physically)
-kind hearted

Dealbreakers:

-judgmental and narrow minded
-seeks to control, to influence
-cold and indifferent (which is somewhat hypocritical lol)

 

[Heinel]

Deal Breakers -
Low self-esteem
Over-sensitive
Testy

Winning Attributes -
Chill
Humorous
Out-spoken

 

[Willfrey]

Must Have:

Female parts
Maturity and independence (Can't live with parents -- I'm too old for that crap)
low-stress laid back

Deal Breaker:

Gossip
Love for shopping.
(this has directly to do with my last two grilfriends)

 

[Quinlan]

No murderers or dudes thanks.