I do find the question strange when anyone asks "do you want to get married?" when I was single. To me, the question is way backwards and I never really knew what to say because to me, the question would be "do you want to find someone you would like to get married to?" rather than just have a marriage just for the sake of it.
Totally agree with this XD It's bothered me for a long time how people seem to have this random need to 'get married', it's like... why do yeu long for the THING instead of the PERSON? So many people get married for the sake of marriage or because it's expected of them, not because they SHOULD.
My father bragged endlessly about how he got married before he was 20. It's like... I never actually saw how that was a good thing. Yeu obviously weren't ready for it, and I'm reasonably sure my birth was pure blind mistake. Why then hold yeur horrible error up in such high esteem, and treat anyone who actually had enough common sense to wait for things to be 'right' for them, as if they were inept? This has frustrated me to no end for years.
Yes, that movie creates quite a concentrated point of hatred within my being. I agree, women should be held responsible for their end of the game. But not by being passive-aggressive, deluded psychos methinks. Women expect too much of men. When honestly analyzed I think that while everything is geared toward making women believe they are the victims, men are actually being emasculated. Obviously, women=succubi
I have a perfect quote that matches with this in 100% sync.
Alex and Jamie, a straight couple, are having problems: Alex is growing dissatisfied with the relationship. Jamie is no longer as attractive as before, doesn't appreciate Alex's needs or hobbies, dislikes Alex's friends, and will try to keep them from getting together when Alex could be spending time with Jamie instead. Then Alex meets Chris. Chris is everything Alex wants from Jamie but isn't getting. So Alex starts cheating on Jamie with Chris. Follow all that so far?
Here comes the question: are you supposed to side with Alex, for seeking more out of life, or against Alex, for abandoning Jamie? Well, that depends. Is Alex the woman?
The Double Standard at work. Alexander cheating on his wife is a dirty scumbag who is failing to honor his commitments, and he deserves any punishment he gets. Though murder is usually considered too severe, there's often a bit of gallows humor with a jaded female supporting character who recommends it (and/or castration) in preference to divorce. Alexis cheating on her husband is escaping from a restrictive environment to experience the love and passion he denies her. The husband is usually set up as a strawman in both cases: a boor who can't appreciate his wife for the treasure she is.
I've always gone FAR out of my way to earn my way, to be deserving of whot I got. I LOATHE the idea that I got something for nothing, it instills a sense of guilt in me that's hard to match. I refuse gifts, to the point that by far, the easiest way to get into an argument with me, is to offer to give me something for free. If I can't repay it, or earn it, I will absolutely refuse it. And it can't just be something simple that I would've done normally anyway, yeu can't just ask me to "keep being yeurself" or "do this small favour for me" if it's something I would've done in the first place. That didn't change that I did NOTHING different at all and got something for it.
This has since grown into a deep hatred for the male/female courting rituals... the guy 'has' to be the one to ask the girl out (I usually do it myself, I take whot I want, I don't wait for it to come to me... if yeu leave it too open ended for too long, people can be STUPID, if yeu don't say it bluntly, they may go elsewhere or mistake yeu for not caring, safest to just take whot yeu want, mindgames are fun but impractical), the guy is supposed to pay for dinner (I have money! And I can't feel guilty ordering expencive stuff if I pay for it), are supposed to come up with things to do (go to the movies, etc, hate how it's like it's assummed I have no ability to think of this crap on my own -_-; ), or that they're supposed to shower me with gifts, especially expencive ones (This one has gotten out of hand for me honestly, I swear I'm the only woman in the world who would get flat out pissed off if someone bought me a gold ring with diamonds in it. I like the colour of silver better, and love cat's eye gems... they're cheaper, but far more preferanced for myself; if someone bought me gold/diamonds, it A: bothers me that they got me something to begin with, and B: they got me something I didn't want and didn't know me well enough to know my preferances, and C: that they obviously didn't even ask me whot my preferances were, blind assumption is BAD. Gimme something small and befitting my tastes, and I'll cherish it forever. Throw money at me without thinking and it's an insult, as it's heavily implying I'm shallow. One of the best gifts I ever recieved was a simple 3d animation of a rectangular piece of wood on a necklace chain, and engraved on it was "MEOW". Nothing special, but it MEANT something because of whot it represented, and that it was discussed whot it would be, and it was more of a 'placeholder' for getting to have the real thing someday, just a simple wooden necklace like that would've been something I'd truly care about, despite that it'd be easy to make and cheap as hell, but it has sentimental value, more than monetary value).
I just realized that last one was still in brackets and had been ranting on for some time now >.>;;
The point still stands, sentimental and emotional value is far more important than how much monies yeu spent on it. I don't care if it was 99 cents, if yeu think it was something awesome I'd enjoy, and it IS, then who cares if it was on a clearance sale?
When I buy gifts for people for christmas and such, I actually look at it that if I got something on sale or cheap, BONUS, it just means I can get them MORE stuff to go with it!
But yeah, the thing about forcing guys to do all the work, when it's obviously heavily weighed against them that anything that goes wrong is going to be their fault? It's unfair, and it's sexist to a rather disgusting degree. It makes me feel awful to think that I'm no better than the guys were themselves 50 years ago... except now I'm worse, because I'm accepting all the benefits, with none of the drawbacks. It's stupid, and it makes me feel like crap, I will have no part in it. I want to be treated fairly and equally, and I want to earn my place, not have it handed to me free of charge.
Edit: oops mistake on missing a / on a quote box >.>