notgivingupjustyet
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- Oct 10, 2016
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NEED ADVICE PLEASE!! ESPECIALLY FROM AN ISTJ WOMAN!!
I am either an ETFP or ENFP…. I met an ISTJ woman last year and we dated for about 5 months. We just hit it off and our personalities seemed to “compliment†each other. However, I was ambivalent about the relationship (which she knew) and asked for some time apart (we work together so we naturally saw each other several times a week). During this time it was harder for her than me. I was set on figuring some things out (our relationship, my career move, ect.) 3 weeks went by, then, unfortunately I ended it (I know those reading probably think “what a jerk!â€) Well, I thought it was the right idea since I was having doubts and didn’t want to keep dragging her along while I was vacillating like that.
Well, she was hurt pretty bad. THEN…almost 3 months later (still working together) I began developing feeling for her like I hadn’t before and started missing her, wondering why I couldn’t work through my “doubts†about commitment. I am sorry and regret my decision, but sometimes letting someone go allows time to realize just how special they were or are. Cliché of course, but it’s true. Anyways, I’ve told her this (which I should have waited longer to say-I know now) and she said “I’m not sure how I feel.†We still work together and she goes from being open and friendly to defensive and closed off. I overheard her tell a friend “we’ll see how this goes.†Any thoughts??
I am either an ETFP or ENFP…. I met an ISTJ woman last year and we dated for about 5 months. We just hit it off and our personalities seemed to “compliment†each other. However, I was ambivalent about the relationship (which she knew) and asked for some time apart (we work together so we naturally saw each other several times a week). During this time it was harder for her than me. I was set on figuring some things out (our relationship, my career move, ect.) 3 weeks went by, then, unfortunately I ended it (I know those reading probably think “what a jerk!â€) Well, I thought it was the right idea since I was having doubts and didn’t want to keep dragging her along while I was vacillating like that.
Well, she was hurt pretty bad. THEN…almost 3 months later (still working together) I began developing feeling for her like I hadn’t before and started missing her, wondering why I couldn’t work through my “doubts†about commitment. I am sorry and regret my decision, but sometimes letting someone go allows time to realize just how special they were or are. Cliché of course, but it’s true. Anyways, I’ve told her this (which I should have waited longer to say-I know now) and she said “I’m not sure how I feel.†We still work together and she goes from being open and friendly to defensive and closed off. I overheard her tell a friend “we’ll see how this goes.†Any thoughts??