McRumi
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Everyone has potential self esteem issues when faced with a person whose strengths appear to be their vulnerabilities.
Potential does not equal real.
That can, and does make the person doubt themselves eventually.
Only for those who have self-esteem issues.
That can't be blamed on the person feeling inferior either.
Of course it can. The source of the inferior feeling is located within the mind of the person who feels inferior, unless we are talking about the intentional action of belittling someone, which i had previously ruled out.
Just as much as it could destroy a person's self esteem as a whole, its that feeling of inferiority which makes people strive to be better.
This is non-sensical to me. People strive to be better because they see an objective path to improve themselves in a supportive environment, not because they feel inferior. Low self-esteem does not feed ambition, only envy and resentment..or self-hatred.
If it is endured, the person can come to realize how they really want to be & come closer to that.
Again, this is nonsensical to me. In fact, I don't even know what this statement means.
But to say the other individual is "dumbing" themselves down to make things easier for the insecure partner doesn't really make sense to me.
It' s perfectly sensible. People do it all the time. My argument is that you can be understanding and supportive of another without sacrificing one's innate charisma, esp if the charisma is perceived as threatening by someone with low self-esteem. But the solution is not to dilute one's own energy but to find ways to help the other find their own energy and healthy self-esteem. To weaken oneself would only send a self-defeating message.
How is being understanding towards someone you care about make you less than you were?
It doesn't. That's not what I wrote (for the second time).