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If you're trying to charge me with the crime of redundancy then I plead guilty.Well, gee, couldn't it be said that expecting things in general is a recipe for unhappiness?
If you're trying to charge me with the crime of redundancy then I plead guilty.Well, gee, couldn't it be said that expecting things in general is a recipe for unhappiness?
I've always felt that expecting other people to act the way that you want them to is often a recipe for unhappiness. Maybe it's a sign that we should be more selective with who we interact with, and maybe that's also what therapists/ support groups are for; we're literally paying them to acknowledge and empathize with a negative experience and offer the 'proper' response that we're looking for.
Really? I've found that victim glorification is actually quite common, and feel it's led rise to the very real phenomenon of victimhood culture. For an example with this story here, literally the first comment says: "Kudos to Marie for her bravery".
The theory doesn't seem all that far-fetched to me: "Because victimhood culture now confers the highest moral status on victims, Campbell and Manning argue that it “increases the incentive to publicize grievances.†Injured and offended parties who might once have thrown a punch or filed a law suit, now appeal for support on social media."
The Rise of Victimhood Culture - WikipediaCampbell and Manning argue that accusations of microaggression focus on unintentional slights, unlike the Civil rights movement, which focused on concrete injustices. They argue that the purpose of calling attention to microaggressions is less to elevate the status of offended victim. "When the victims publicize microaggressions,†wrote Campbell and Manning “they call attention to what they see as the deviant behavior of the offenders. In doing so,†they “also call attention to their own victimization.†They do this because it lowers “the offender’s moral status†and “raises the moral status of the victims.â€
It wasn't; it was merely an example of praise/ glorification being offered to someone who has endured a rather negative experience. As a trend I thought this was common enough to the point that I was rather surprised to read this comment here:How is that link an example of victimhood culture?
Never seen anybody praise a woman about that.
It wasn't; it was merely an example of praise/ glorification being offered to someone who has endured a rather negative experience. As a trend I thought this was common enough to the point that I was rather surprised to read this comment here:
What do you think getting more sex than a person wants would entail?So rape is an example of a woman "getting more sex than they want" (your words, not mine)?
What do you think getting more sex than a person wants would entail?
Though at the same time, I do think it's interesting how if a guy complains about not ever being able to have sex, a common response is that it's 100% their own fault for being an autistic incel with no social skills.
In contrast, if a woman complains aboutgetting more sex than they wantbeing raped, then not only is it absolutely never their fault, but they're also super brave for being able to come forward and talk about their experience.
Well, gee, couldn't it be said that expecting things in general is a recipe for unhappiness?
What do you think getting more sex than a person wants would entail?
Convincing a woman to consent to sex when she really doesn't want to have sex? Is this what we call A++ wife material or is it merely the title to the next New York times bestseller?Consenting, but not necessarily wanting it.
Do you think that the subsequent phrase, 'then not only is it absolutely never their fault', might also somehow imply someone who is merely bored of consensual sex?"getting more sex than one wants" could just imply being bored with sex but doing it anyway.
It's funny you say this -- I've been attending job interviews all week and I feel like the best possible preparation for these interviews was my dating experience. The approaches to both are almost identical; I don't like to bring up or mention other companies, because I want to emphasize that I'm interested in them and only them. If I get them talking about themselves, the history of the company and where the direction they're trying to move the company; then I'm very happy. I don't like to brag by saying that I'm smart or that I did well in school; I much prefer to demonstrate these qualities by how I articulate the responses to their questions.I hate dating for the same reasons I hate job interviews
I've always felt that expecting other people to act the way that you want them to is often a recipe for unhappiness. Maybe it's a sign that we should be more selective with who we interact with, and maybe that's also what therapists/ support groups are for; we're literally paying them to acknowledge and empathize with a negative experience and offer the 'proper' response that we're looking for.
It's funny you say this -- I've been attending job interviews all week and I feel like the best possible preparation for these interviews was my dating experience. The approaches to both are almost identical; I don't like to bring up or mention other companies, because I want to emphasize that I'm interested in them and only them. If I get them talking about themselves, the history of the company and where the direction they're trying to move the company; then I'm very happy. I don't like to brag by saying that I'm smart or that I did well in school; I much prefer to demonstrate these qualities by how I articulate the responses to their questions.
It's why I really don't understand why PUA theory gets such a bad rep -- just like there's 'strategies' or behaviors that make you more appealing at a job interview, so too are their 'strategies' or behaviors that can increase your chances for sex. It just so happened that lots of these methods came quite naturally to me and I never needed a 'guide' to teach me them.
Guess I'm not living in perpetual fear state that people might shoot me while I'm out for a walk because this thought never woulda crossed my mind.I dunno man, I don't think expecting to go to yoga class and not end up shot isn't too much to ask.
Guess I'm not living in perpetual fear state that people might shoot me while I'm out for a walk because this thought never woulda crossed my mind.
I'm not following all these pill references, but to me it seems most counter intuitive that certain methods/ behaviors/ forms of preparation could help for a job interview, but then all of a sudden no method/ behavior/ form of preparation of any kind can help when trying to acquire sex. For an example, it is my understanding that, simple things like making an effort to dress well and looking presentable, can go a long way with both dates and interviews, even if they don't offer guarantees.Well something about PUA clearly doesn't work
I'm not following all these pill references, but to me it seems most counter intuitive that certain methods/ behaviors/ forms of preparation could help for a job interview, but then all of a sudden no method/ behavior/ form of preparation of any kind can help when trying to acquire sex.