How strong is your wing?

[Hiraeth]

I think my 3 wing is pretty strong in the sense that I crave success and am afraid of being seen as worthless, pretty much on par with the wants and fears of my e4. The only thing is I have a lot of the 5 wing as well and usually test as that on enneagram tests because I'm very withdrawn and reclusive, but I don't seek knowledge as much as others with the 5 wing, I think. I appear like a typical 4w5 in reality, but I secretly share the same values as a 4w3, just not as in-your-face and emotionally obvious about it like others I guess.

 

[Peter Deadpan]

Well, as you can see in my signature, I have a double 5-wing (both my heart and head type have a 5 wing). For my head type, the lean toward 5 is quite heavy and I have very little 7 (which is my weakest e-type of all).

Anywho, this gives me a rather five-y feel that is apparently (according to some) readily visible at times in me. [MENTION=30122]Brain in a Jar[/MENTION] has a pretty solid theory that those who have a double-wing like this almost have a 4th e-type, which actually makes some sense to me. I would probably stack it in 4th place though after my other types as I don't think it's quite as influential as the other three (i.e. 4615).

So, to answer the question: My wing kicks ass.

 

[small.wonder]

Very strong. The couple who first introduced me to Enneagram were convinced that I was a 5-- though they did tend to loose sight of motivations in favor of behavior. I pretty quickly identified as 4w5, but definitely wrestled here and there over a couple of years over which was more dominant-- finally settling on 4w5, which I am still convinced is the case. This is mostly because I am definitely a feeler on the inside, and more of a thinker on the outside (as a defense mechanism if you will). I have often tested very close in the T/F department, but I think that's either because my Ti is overdeveloped, or my Fe underdeveloped. I feel like the Fe has gotten a little stronger of late, though.

 

[cascadeco]

I think my 3 wing is pretty strong in the sense that I crave success and am afraid of being seen as worthless, pretty much on par with the wants and fears of my e4. The only thing is I have a lot of the 5 wing as well and usually test as that on enneagram tests because I'm very withdrawn and reclusive, but I don't seek knowledge as much as others with the 5 wing, I think. I appear like a typical 4w5 in reality, but I secretly share the same values as a 4w3, just not as in-your-face and emotionally obvious about it like others I guess.

I can relate to this. At this point I don't really know what my wing is, nor do I really care any longer; I don't think knowing it is useful for me personally, iow.

 

[Flâneuse]

Pretty strong. (I am a 9w1). I tend to be much harder on myself (and on occasion others) than e9s are usually made out to be. I can get so critical of myself and the world that I sometimes have to remind myself there are things to be happy about and grateful for too. However, I lack the actual "reformer" aspect of e1, the motivation to actually express my judgments and put them into action.

Also, I relate to e8 the least of all nine types. I seek autonomy, but am completely uninterested in power over anything except myself.

 

[Mask Off]

I think I have balanced wings, but my w6 is definite stronger

 

[PumpkinMayCare]

My two wing is pretty weak. The seven wing is extremely strong in comparison and definitely stands out way more.

 

[Lord Lavender]

Get to it later maaybe.

But quick summary- believe that wings are sort of like handedness. You always will have a dominant one- but over time, life will demand that you do tasks which will involve the other hand- which will strengthen it. Everyone is influenced by both wings imo- but some will employ methods- have to face things- that will pull on their weaker side more- and therefore- with that training- both sides will develop and appear more even.

Even if one is dominant- even if one is more natural- can be employed more flexibly- preferred.

Like I told you- you are imo... pretty balanced wing wise imo. (Especially considering your age/time you have had to develop both sides.)

Other people like me... focus on one side- making the other side- over time- appear weaker- more unfamiliar- confidence in it low, meaning Im less likely to put as much effort 'right now' on developing it- unless I get to a situation where I really have to- where its FORCED and I cant use the dominant side... Ill have WAY more trouble of calling up that weaker wing than you will. Eventually, over time, as I become more comfortable with the limits of my 1 wing- Ill look to expand the other direction from my 9 towards 8... imo. But until then- Im pretty definitively 1.

Just my opinions. But yeah. Being one sided dominant more can have advantages too- you are more distinctly familiar with the aspects of that wing- can understand the boundries of it a bit more- have a bit more understanding and control over it- instead of being tugged with suggestions from the other direction.

Though the flexibility- the ability to look at things with such globally different mindsets from opposing wings- is something thats awesome in people with lots of input from both sides...

I think.


Hahaha quick summary my ass from me...


Lots of thinking here. Feel free to add some more thinking if youd like!

As for each of my core types my 7 is defo 7w6 as even though I have 7w8 moments and traits by far I am far more 7w6 as I have some w6 anxiety. I do think im maybe 30% 7w8 and 70% 7w6. As for my 9 it is very strongly 9w1 and my 3 very strongly 3w2 that it could be mistaken for a 2w3. Me and eskimo also proposed a theory in that the lower you go down the stack the more unbalanced the wings get which fits the amount said E type is used.

 

[hjgbujhghg]

My 3 wing is very strong, I care a lot about my public image, how others see me and I want to leave a good impression when meeting someone. I want to be seen not only as someone who is different than others, but also as someone who is worthy of admiration. I care about success and I'm goal oriented.

 

[Typh0n]

I would say my four wing is very strong.

I can be really absorbed in my feelings and thoughts, tend to daydream alot (not always contsructively), I like creativity, imagination, etc. Also aesthetics.

 

[kotoshinohaisha]

7w8 is just moderate. Not that strong. Although i am very Compulsive sometimes.

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[geedoenfj]

6w7; my seven wing is quite strong, I am spontaneous, scattered, playful, don't like to be reminded of rules of life, or how should I behave or be, life doesn't come with a manual, I don't want to live by someone else's idea of what is allowed and what is not, at the same time, I want to be harmonious with my environment, I have variety of interests and always look for new ones because I get bored too quickly, I love to travel and open to trying new experiences, the world for me is a huge interesting place that I will never get to know enough of..
My mind keeps turning everything into a joke, even the most painful things, even when it is me or someone I love is in pain, even when I am in deep sadness, I enter into the circle of deep despair and noticing the irony of it and joke about it, and of course I try to have control over my mouth so I won't hurt feelings of anyone or come accorss as inconsiderate, I also tend to distract myself away from pain by discovering new things..
I hate others to see my pain, which is almost impossible because I have too expressive face, that they know what I feel even before I realize it.

 

[Dorito]

I'm a 4w3. Definitely, 100% the 4 core. However, I do have a strong 3 streak, with competitiveness, wanting positive attention and accomplishments that are noted by others. However, since it's a wing, not a core, often it's not enough to kick me into gear and make me go claim these things. The competitiveness sticks, but I'm nowhere near as driven as a core 3.

 

[OneLovelyAdventure]

Hard to say. I'm either a 3w2 or a 7w6. If I'm a 3w2, then my wing is pretty damn strong. If I'm a 7w6, then my wing is kind of weakish. I always yo-yo between these two types.

 

[Peter Deadpan]

My wings fell off...

 

[neko 4]

I have a pretty strong wing of Five. I'm a 4, but I'm also a thinker and not obsessed with my looks.

 

[Kasper]

It's not my core, but it comes a close second.

 

[Saturnal Snowqueen]

As a 9w1, I'd say pretty average. I kinda yo yo between being perfectionist and being lazy. Like my desk will be a disheveled mess, but then I take forever to write a post on here because I spend hours perfecting it. I do relate to the anger is a bad emotion thing, but then again I don't think 9s think anger's all that pretty either. I mean anger can be funny and I feel it often, but for the most part I find it an ugly emotion with little use. Mistakes of all sorts make me feel guilty and icky about myself. One thing about 1 I don't relate to though is that I'm not that critical of others. Unless it has to do with me or they're hurting someone I really care about, I for the most part care little about what people do. Part of it is wanting to leave people to their own devices, but also I just care about me doing things right more than others. So yeah, I can definitely be internally critical, but I don't care most of the time to express it.

 

[Luminous]

 

[RadicalDoubt]

I can barely tell which one is which (ie. I'm either 5w6 or 6w5). I don't necessarily relate to both of them equally, however their presence in my life is basically equal to the point where (most people) also have issues differentiating which one I actually am.