Redbone
Orisha
- Joined
- Apr 27, 2010
- Messages
- 2,882
- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 9w8
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
The thing with sp/sx, or at least in my case, is we tend to want to sustain something. There's a desire for pacing so as not to have that burnout described above. I think that's where the stability/security factor comes in, but being sx second you want to sustain a level of intensity. I think the main way we do that is with space - periods of solitude, physical areas which belong to us, private interests we cultivate independently, and generally not being swallowed up so that the excitement dies out from not having anything new to consistently bring in.
I can definitely relate to this. I very much want to have an intense connection but I also want my space, solitude, and privacy. Being with an sx-dom can feel like being outside on a warm day. It's beautiful and the feeling of sun on my skin is wonderful. It chases my own natural coolness away and makes me feel alive. As pleasant as it is, I have a saturation point and it's time to go.
I'm very aware that it is a feast/famine thing and can make another person wonder what the hell is going on.