Given the sx more risk-naive desire to connect with others tends to conflict somewhat with the sp focus on safety, security and trust, what behaviors and statements would be a positive step toward building a friendship with an sp?
What behaviors and statements should be avoided or very carefully considered?
Any real life examples of what worked and what didn't?
I'm sx/sp. For me, that generally means I'm essentially sp until I find someone I want to connect with, at which point sp takes a very small cautionary role. Because of this, it's hard to understand the sp perspective of maintaining the defensive walls and never initiating any interaction even after clear liking and trust have developed. In general, once enough understanding and trust have developed, I've found it useful to describe myself as a person who focuses on connecting with others on a deeper level than just superficial interaction. But, if that's done too early or expressed too intensely or extremely, it understandably scares the sp away. It might scare away an so too, as only another sx would likely understand such intensity.
What behaviors and statements should be avoided or very carefully considered?
Any real life examples of what worked and what didn't?
I'm sx/sp. For me, that generally means I'm essentially sp until I find someone I want to connect with, at which point sp takes a very small cautionary role. Because of this, it's hard to understand the sp perspective of maintaining the defensive walls and never initiating any interaction even after clear liking and trust have developed. In general, once enough understanding and trust have developed, I've found it useful to describe myself as a person who focuses on connecting with others on a deeper level than just superficial interaction. But, if that's done too early or expressed too intensely or extremely, it understandably scares the sp away. It might scare away an so too, as only another sx would likely understand such intensity.