tkae.
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I had a thread years ago asking what it was about the relative anonymity of an internet forum that makes people feel free to act like total assholes and say things that they would never say in real life.
predictably, someone pointed out that people can't physically hurt them if they are an asshole on the internet
Given a few years more thought of how people appear online versus how they are in real life (and having met a couple of forum members a few times, most of whom rarely if ever post here anymore), I kind of think that it's not that simple. Some people are assholes online because nobody can beat them up over the internet (yet... I'm still waiting for that glorious day!), but other people behave differently in other manners. Some people may be kinder if they realize nobody is watching, and some may let loose and show a sense of humor and other people may be more open when they don't have to look people that they are telling in the eye every day.
How does the relative anonymity of an internet forum affect how people present themselves on here v in their every day lives?
It's not an issue of anonymity for me as it is my environment when I'm posting. I'm in a comfortable computer chair relaxing to ASMR videos, usually unwinding after studying. It tends to make me break things down into basics rather than being diplomatic or politically correct.
For instance, I'm very unwilling to argue here. In real life, I'd have civil discussions with give and take that involve both listening and speaking. Here, I just put out what I'm saying. If someone disagrees, then I usually make maybe one response and don't see the need for any more discussion. They've either understand what I'm saying and we've both gained all that we can from the other, or they're unwilling to listen and I have no need to continue. In either case, two posts usually gets the job done.
I'm also much softer in real life. I put things out as possibilities and ease people into ideas. Here, I just throw them out there with the evidence and the argument backing them up, and either people take them or they don't. I'm too relaxed in my chair and enjoying the ASMR too much to really care which.
It comes across as a bit colder than I really am, but I'm just not willing to invest the time and energy to come across 100% of the time as truly patient and sensitive as I actually am.