Burrowing money. Lately it seems like I have my own lending business because I have some friends who really needed money. I know I can trust the people I lent my money too, but I don't want it to be a reoccurring theme. Should I charge interest?
Con artist. I've been conned once before because there was a huge force telling me they might really need help. It sucks because during that time I had a gut feeling that they were bad news. I've encountered a con artist twice in my life, and the second time I caught it before I handed over the money. I mean I had the money in my hand, then I told them they were a con artist before I handed my money to them. I almost got conned again, but if I had listened to my gut feelings from the beginning, it wouldn't of gotten that close in the first place. I just need to trust my gut feelings more.
How do I apply Ti in my life to balance my Fe?
I'm trying to imagine what it might be like to have Ti as your last function. It's probably similar to mine, but just way less pronounced. My Ti gets verbalized when someone really irks me or puts me into a bad spot, to the point to where I don't really have much leverage (my choices are becoming very limited) to work with other than to use my words in a way that will kind of remove the pressure and stress from me (and, unfortunately, usually back onto them). It often frames things in a way that will simultaneously (a) cause them to have to reflect on what they are doing and (b) why their actions are ridiculous.
So, if someone was taking advantage of your giving nature and said, "I need some money. Do you think you could lend me some again?"
Some possible Ti responses might be:
-I won't be loaning you any more money until and unless you pay me back in full for what you already owe me. Which reminds me, do you have my money? Something? Anything? A dollar? Buy me lunch today? I'm willing to work with you here, so I'm all ears.
-LOL. I was just going to ask
you if you could lend
me some money. I've been short ever since you borrowed from me and I could really use it right now. So, what do you say, do you think I can borrow some money?
-The next time we talk about money, it needs to be you giving me some. (turn radio back up and continue rocking out)
-Nope. Don't have it. Sorry. No can do.
It may sound harsh to an NF, I don't know, but sometimes when you're backed into a corner you just have to let the Ti fly. It has a way of backing people up and making them reflect on their own actions. And that can be a good thing.