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Do Strangers Approach You?

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I have been called a cat shepherd when i used to do door to door. There are few things in life as rewarding as being in the center of a clowder of cats as you make your way down the street. If Japan keeps getting deserted I might move there to one of the cat islands to hold court with my people.
There's always Greece.
 

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There's always Greece.
I realize it will sound hipcritical to say that Greece is too close to a Volcano for me, but Japan is fine. I would just like to point out that Greece does not have a haunted suicide forest on par with Mirkwood, while Japan does. Greece is also not to my knowledge home of any sort of giant salamander while....you know... I will conceed that in the Bronze Age, I would love Greece, the monsters alone would make the trip worth it. But the greek gods are to me what I think favorite celebrities are to humans, so Im far from unbiased. But yeah, modern greece, too close to a volcano and not enough spooky weird potentially supernatural stuff. Its my Addams Family Values you understand.
 

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I realize it will sound hipcritical to say that Greece is too close to a Volcano for me, but Japan is fine. I would just like to point out that Greece does not have a haunted suicide forest on par with Mirkwood, while Japan does. Greece is also not to my knowledge home of any sort of giant salamander while....you know... I will conceed that in the Bronze Age, I would love Greece, the monsters alone would make the trip worth it. But the greek gods are to me what I think favorite celebrities are to humans, so Im far from unbiased. But yeah, modern greece, too close to a volcano and not enough spooky weird potentially supernatural stuff. Its my Addams Family Values you understand.
So what I'm hearing is... you want more cats *and* spirits approaching you, and less humans?
(to get back to the main topic)
 

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So what I'm hearing is... you want more cats *and* spirits approaching you, and less humans?
(to get back to the main topic)
Plus the food and toiletries in Japan is just next level. The older I get the more good food and comfortable pooping matter in ways child me could have never dreamed. I sincerely hope that the first thing I get to do as a ghost is to go back in time to be my own imaginary friend who reveals the secrets of my life and death to my childhood self and close the circle of madness where it first began. Then I would go back to the cambrian period and just sort of Mystery Science Theater 3000 all of time as I watch it unfold around me like the ultimate nature documentary not narrated by one of the Davids(Attenburough/Tennant)
 

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Little kids wave at me a lot, and it's creepy. Or talk at me in line. Kids seem to like me a lot in general, and I don't know why. Help me.
Don't worry. They aren't going to follow you home. ;)
Men do approach me/make smalltalk in line, etc, but rarely to hit on me, as far as I can tell, though friends have stated at times that the approach had that intent while I'd disagree. I feel like it's presumptuous and don't want to assume that's the motive, unless it's explicitly expressed. I do have a blind spot on that front, to some extent. It's clearer when observing exchanges between other people. I have had men approach just to directly compliment me, but it's very rare and horribly awkward for both parties. I mean... I don't know what to do with that information.
I've had men say something like, "You have long hair". Yes, yes, I do. ??? I think perhaps they wanted to compliment me, but without it seeming they were coming on to me? I don't know.
 

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I've had men say something like, "You have long hair". Yes, yes, I do. ??? I think perhaps they wanted to compliment me, but without it seeming they were coming on to me? I don't know.
:laugh: That's endearing (like a brain short circuit on their part, not knowing how to walk that social tightrope) and also, how the hell does one respond to that...?
 

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I do tend to get "hit on" quite a bit. Moreso when I was younger, of course. Not sure why. Probably because I was raised by my mother and grandmother, so I am a bit androgynous, I suppose.
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Handsome guys, unfortunately. You know, like very symmetrical and such.
 

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yes, i have been described by many as a magnet for freaks and stalkers etc. some of it is being a woman, being non-threatening looking, libra rising, but also my city (oakland, california) is probably one of the more likely places to get approached by strangers. plus my job is super public facing so i’m forced into having these weird interactions everyday.

i’ve tried my best to cultivate a less approachable vibe (sunglasses, headphones, speed walker, bitchy looking face). i also have curated my regular walking routes to avoid catcalling hot spots or anywhere else that may give a stranger opportunity to talk to me.
 

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i’ve tried my best to cultivate a less approachable vibe (sunglasses, headphones, speed walker, bitchy looking face). i also have curated my regular walking routes to avoid catcalling hot spots or anywhere else that may give a stranger opportunity to talk to me.
It's unfortunate that you have to put in all that extra effort so that people won't bother you.
 

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It's unfortunate that you have to put in all that extra effort so that people won't bother you.
to be fair i do enjoy having my headphones in, wearing sunglasses, i walk very fast anyway and am naturally bitchy. but i have been very annoyed by having to change my favorite commuting routes because of large groups of rowdy men congregating on certain corners.
 

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to be fair i do enjoy having my headphones in, wearing sunglasses, i walk very fast anyway and am naturally bitchy. but i have been very annoyed by having to change my favorite commuting routes because of large groups of rowdy men congregating on certain corners.
I'm glad you get some enjoyment out of it, at least!
 

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Im sure handsome guys hit on you all the time.
It happened to me in a park here. Also, in college, somebody thought I was hot and wanted to know my orientation on college once. I think a few people approached me on OKCupid, too.
 

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Probably not more than most people. I think a good number of those who approach others don’t tend to “select” for individuals to approach, they just put themselves out there in general if you're accessible. At most of my jobs, I think people learned to avoid me (except for the ones who felt some moral duty to “bring me out of my shell”) because I act super disinterested towards co-workers like I can’t wait for them to stop talking so I can go back to being alone (I don’t enjoy mixing work and social life). I think people pick up on it for sure, even if I’m polite, since I don’t put much effort into engaging with them. At parties and such I’ve been told I come across as shy, so usually the more sensitive, less oblivious people will approach me while the more extroverted ones will be afraid to intrude.
 
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