Hello everybody,
first of all sorry for language mistakes - I'm not a native speaker but I'll give my best so you guys hopefully can understand everything I say
The last days I really drew attention to the MBTI types. I think it's really interesting, I always try to figure out which MBTI type the people around me are and yes... enough said.
So of course I'm thinking a lot about which type I am. I did several online tests (always a little bit dustrustful if an online test can really be reliable ) and I mainly had the result that I am an INTJ. One the one hand I am quite sure that this fits, on the other hand not. I want to explain why.
First matter: I read that INTJs love to have long-term plans, that they have a clear strategy they follow and goals they want to reach even with hard work. I can absolutely confirm that this fits to me - I always think about what possibilities I have in my life, which decisions will bring me to which point and I have clear goals and plans to achieve them. From my little life experience I can say that none of my plans failed yet.
However, I am not a fan of detailed planning and I'm not a total freak of efficiency (I value it but I'm not obsessed of it). For example I tend to procrastinate tasks I don't have fun with and if suddendly a new possibility open up, I have no problems to adjust my plans. My strategy is kind of: Make sure that everything work that I reach my goals - within this frame there is time to relax. Is this still an typical INTJ-behavior?
Second: I read that it is typical for an INTJ to look down on less-intelligent or incompetent people, that they hate small talk and doesn't have an understanding for decisions based on feelings. They are described as aloof and kind of "coldhearted".
In some points I clearly can see myself - I tend to have this attitude that most of the people around me can't keep up with me and I have to admit that I haven't any real tolerance for making decisions based on feelings, too. In addition to that I really struggle to give friends emotional support (f.e. it really takes a lot that I hug a friend who is crying, not because I doesn't care but because I don't know how to react, a hugging makes me feel stupid). All in all many people annoy me if they don't understand how I think or act different than I would.
Well, the thing is that I became aware of my behavior one or two years ago and I noticed that it's not fair to judge people around me just because of my first impression that they are less intelligent. Also I noticed that I was a noob when it comes to social situations and that it makes my life harder (because I had difficulties to get to know people). So I started working on my behavior. Today I don't really have problems with small talk (with smiling, showing interest to the other person etc.) and I am less critizing people (nevertheless I am often stressed out, I just don't let other people notice it).
So does such an behavior still fits to an INTJ? I can identify with nearly every trait of them, I just seem to be more "tolerant" (?) in some ways. Is it important to distinguish between how a person would naturally act (in my case f.e. judging people way too fast) and which behavior is adapted (consciously adapted, not through manipulation)?
Still I have to say that I'm not quite sure if my adapted behavior is just "played" or that much integrated that it is "real". One the one hand I think it's real because it's conscious and I'm really NOT a person who plays with others or would even fool oneself (never!). One the other hand I always act with an clear idea behind that - I am not doing small talk for fun, I just do it because I know that most people see this at the first step to get to know somebody and I would put obstacles in my own way for declining this.
Wow, such a long text, I am sorry I hope my English is comprehensible and some of you guys got my point. If something is unclear, just ask me! I can't wait for some opinions.
first of all sorry for language mistakes - I'm not a native speaker but I'll give my best so you guys hopefully can understand everything I say
The last days I really drew attention to the MBTI types. I think it's really interesting, I always try to figure out which MBTI type the people around me are and yes... enough said.
So of course I'm thinking a lot about which type I am. I did several online tests (always a little bit dustrustful if an online test can really be reliable ) and I mainly had the result that I am an INTJ. One the one hand I am quite sure that this fits, on the other hand not. I want to explain why.
First matter: I read that INTJs love to have long-term plans, that they have a clear strategy they follow and goals they want to reach even with hard work. I can absolutely confirm that this fits to me - I always think about what possibilities I have in my life, which decisions will bring me to which point and I have clear goals and plans to achieve them. From my little life experience I can say that none of my plans failed yet.
However, I am not a fan of detailed planning and I'm not a total freak of efficiency (I value it but I'm not obsessed of it). For example I tend to procrastinate tasks I don't have fun with and if suddendly a new possibility open up, I have no problems to adjust my plans. My strategy is kind of: Make sure that everything work that I reach my goals - within this frame there is time to relax. Is this still an typical INTJ-behavior?
Second: I read that it is typical for an INTJ to look down on less-intelligent or incompetent people, that they hate small talk and doesn't have an understanding for decisions based on feelings. They are described as aloof and kind of "coldhearted".
In some points I clearly can see myself - I tend to have this attitude that most of the people around me can't keep up with me and I have to admit that I haven't any real tolerance for making decisions based on feelings, too. In addition to that I really struggle to give friends emotional support (f.e. it really takes a lot that I hug a friend who is crying, not because I doesn't care but because I don't know how to react, a hugging makes me feel stupid). All in all many people annoy me if they don't understand how I think or act different than I would.
Well, the thing is that I became aware of my behavior one or two years ago and I noticed that it's not fair to judge people around me just because of my first impression that they are less intelligent. Also I noticed that I was a noob when it comes to social situations and that it makes my life harder (because I had difficulties to get to know people). So I started working on my behavior. Today I don't really have problems with small talk (with smiling, showing interest to the other person etc.) and I am less critizing people (nevertheless I am often stressed out, I just don't let other people notice it).
So does such an behavior still fits to an INTJ? I can identify with nearly every trait of them, I just seem to be more "tolerant" (?) in some ways. Is it important to distinguish between how a person would naturally act (in my case f.e. judging people way too fast) and which behavior is adapted (consciously adapted, not through manipulation)?
Still I have to say that I'm not quite sure if my adapted behavior is just "played" or that much integrated that it is "real". One the one hand I think it's real because it's conscious and I'm really NOT a person who plays with others or would even fool oneself (never!). One the other hand I always act with an clear idea behind that - I am not doing small talk for fun, I just do it because I know that most people see this at the first step to get to know somebody and I would put obstacles in my own way for declining this.
Wow, such a long text, I am sorry I hope my English is comprehensible and some of you guys got my point. If something is unclear, just ask me! I can't wait for some opinions.