Hmm, I am confused by reading this thread.
My two closest friends are Fe Dom and Fe Aux and I am Fi Dom and we are definitely different when we express hurt. Also to take into consideration are the other functions. I have Te somewhere so when I am 'generally/overall hurt' and it is not directed at someone in particular but by life/society as a whole, I get very Te. I don't usually express hurt at all. I get judgmental and rigid outwardly but inwardly, I am moody and depressed, over-thinking and over-feeling. When I express hurt to my friends, I can't really talk until I, myself, have calmed down.
For example: My ESFJ friend said something really hurtful and rude (plus condensing and other things :steam
to me a few weeks ago. I was maybe stressed that day/emotional overall so I burst into tears, not the sobbing kind, just tears. It took me a while to collect myself and express to her why she hurt me, how she hurt, why I was generally hurt and etc. This is very rare btw. I seldom cry in front of others, over anything unless I am completely overwhelmed. It seemed like at first, I held it in but it was too much so my dam broke and I had to express myself in an erratic way.
My Fe friends don't usually hold in until they explode. Their Fe allows them to naturally express their emotions as they come, that day, not usually days or several internal reasonings later. I try to deal with my own feelings first and if I can't, I find a friend but if I can, I don't like to share. Fe doesn't seem to have that strict barrier. Not to say that they can't deal themselves but they don't feel that it's uncomfortable I am thinking.
I would seldom say something like, "You really hurt me..." because first of all, to me, I am in control of my feelings so whatever I feel, I am the first one responsible. If I am sad, it is partially my fault so I have misgivings about blaming others or telling them I am sad/upset. I somehow should have known better than to expect you to ... or trust you to ... It hurts my pride the most, every time but I am working on this as I realize if they don't know how you feel, they can't act in accordance to how your feel. But Fe doesn't have a problem being very direct about how they feel and holding others responsible. I mostly only express my feelings if it will accomplish something in my external environment or with my relationships. If it wouldn't, I don't express them just to share. It's like I have a rigid agenda for all my feelings if I am going to expose them to the open. Not that I am not often indecisive and uncertain about how I feel.