Have you contemplated the act of suicide. What meaning it has and what self-perception and view on life could ultimately lead to self-demise as a conclusion?.
Yes, at various times in my life during existential crises and periods of hoplessness, I contemplated suicide. And, finally, due to an unbearable and seemingly unresolveable situation in my life, I also reached a point where I had considered suicide nightly for a period of a year, give or take a few months, after years of treated depression that had slowly eroded my quality of life. I was simultaneously in great pain + numb (if that makes sense -- the numbness to life can be bone-crushing); there was no resolution that wouldn't greatly hurt people I loved; and I would suffer endlessly if I did not make a decision, suffer a great deal if I chose to live and make changes, and suffer not at all if I were dead. I reached a point finally where I could no longer afford to not make a decision, I wasn't able to continue as-is.
The thing for me is that I wanted to live, not die; and I was contemplating suicide because I felt like I would never be able to live. In the end, I chose to make changes rather than to die; that option allowed for the possibility of working through hurt with my family and loved ones in the hopes of healing and happiness for the maximum number of people (including myself) in the end, even though out of the choice between change and death, it involved the most suffering for me and had the most ambiguous resolution.
Sometimes I wonder if I would have received less blame for just killing myself. But in the end, that's just the way life works; people don't like to be hurt and find it easy to blame those who instigate undesired change in their lives.
I think people basically get to a point where live is so painful that they either change or die.
All of which means, if they can't change, they die instead.
There's no question that suicide is traumatic to the people in the family or friend circle. I think this is what keeps many people from doing it, quite honestly. But, also, there are those times when you simply stop caring. This is radically egocentric, but I don't think it's necessarily criminally selfish to commit suicide. You could certainly do so in a way that diminished the pain for others, but I do think that suicidal thinking often discounts the social sphere so this impairment, which is necessary for suicide, would probably not operation in a way to allow you to spare others pain by planning your suicide in a responsible way.
I don't think it's necessarily criminal either; the most we can do is track the probable reverberations, but I'm not sure why morality is being dragged into it as a universal principle. People often guilt-trip the suicidal as inflicting hurt on others because they are somehow robbing the world of their capacity to give, yet are not considering how the group is robbing the individual of their capacity of choice as well as forcing them to suffer through difficult circumstances they themselves often are unable or unwilling to alleviate. (At its worst, it can remind me of pro-choice or pro-life people back in the 80's trying to force young women to follow their particular path via guilt trip, without doing anything to alleviate the difficulties or suffering they will face by choosing the offered course of action.)
I also don't know what sort of precedent this sets in terms of considering other actions immoral. The hurt of suicide occurs due to a change in relationship; are other changes in relationship (such as breaking up with a LTR) also now necessarily immoral? A person is being blamed for exercising their will to choose an end to their involvement (rather than choosing continual unbearable suffering), in opposition to others who don't want that choice to occur, in order to spare those others pain. Again, I'm not sure a moral judgment is appropriate; all that can be said is what the impact of either choice might have.
(The main challenge to this sort of stance, of course, is the question of thoughtful capacity: Is a suicidal person in a state of mind to make a coherent decision? This probably can differ from individual to individual.)
I'm not one for easy answers when there are conflicting 'goods' involved, even if the conflict is painful.