Fi people, do you have any issues using your Fi responsibly? I can sometimes become pretty pissed when someone hits me square in the Fi. I have no interest in diminishing my Fi function as I really love my life's work of refining my personal thoughts and beliefs, but I don't like when I look back on my behavior and see it as over-reactionary or foolish. Non-Fi people, feel free to chime in with any observations or insights on the matter.
I feel like when I react to things it always goes wrong, like my reactions are weird and the things I say are in some other language. I'd be fine with having an attitude otherwise, but I don't like always having to explain myself. I'm still going to say what I feel and think when I get angry, but I need to cool off first. It's annoying that other people seem to not have to do this, and people think what they say is awesome. Maybe some people think what I say is awesome too and I just don't know it.
And at this point I'm not sure if I use Fi or Fe.
Well, I dislike it when people dismiss my Ti and it's obvious they haven't really thought about it. But, I 've gotten better about articulating as I've gotten older.. I think I'm getting more confidence in expressing it.
Maybe it's similar for Fi.... maybe the necessary thing is to have confidence when expressing it and develop strategies and methods of communicating it to people, as well as defenses. It wasn't something I got consciously, it was something that I got through just having more confidence and taking more risks.
I feel like when I react to things it always goes wrong, like my reactions are weird and the things I say are in some other language.
Actually, I feel this too. I'm pretty sure in my case it has something to do with unconscious extroverted feeling. It's as though something else has taken control of me.
I'd be fine with having an attitude otherwise, but I don't like always having to explain myself.
I'll explain myself, but I always have the sense that some people aren't going to get it, and with those people, I use other defenses.
I'm still going to say what I feel and think when I get angry, but I need to cool off first. It's annoying that other people seem to not have to do this, and people think what they say is awesome.
Maybe some people think what I say is awesome too and I just don't know it.
I think you are pretty good at articulating yourself, actually. Also, I see more introverted thinking in you than extroverted thinking.
As for anyone harping about PC tendencies, I'm puzzled as to why this is somehow associated with Extraverted Feeling. I'm not really that PC, but I get that lobbed at me anyway, or accused of being a "nice guy" ( I still don't know what that means) or something.
Perhaps it's because I associate "PC" less with a specific set of beliefs, and more with a way of being humorless, dogmatic and self-important about them.
I think you're either INTP or INFJ. I don't see Fi in you. I can't explain why, other than when Feeling comes out, it doesn't seem "slippery" and mysterious.
Usually I deal with the PC charges, or accusations of being a "wimp", or whatever, by fighting dirty. This might not be what you want to do, though.