Evo
Unapologetic being
- Joined
- Jul 1, 2011
- Messages
- 3,160
- MBTI Type
- XNTJ
- Enneagram
- 1w9
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Yeah, I had an ESTP 8 boss who was like this everytime I asked him to clarify something (and I really had to ask him because he was extremely picky about work being done exactly the way he wanted, and the way he wanted was fairly different from my natural style). Not to mention whenever anyone said something that went "over his head" - comment: "lol he's really stupid he can't even explain his ideas".
I understand it's often a matter of being time-sensitive when there's a lot of stuff to do, but then you're asking the people around you to be mind readers rather than hard workers.
I am in a similar situation now. And the bold is what I've noticed. I find it to be a ridiculous expectation.
2) Another point that I would like to make is that many times in doing a task or trying to understand something, when I am asking my boatload of questions, it angers the 8's. So what I will do is just not ask questions in order to avoid confrontation. Then, once it's actually time to do the task, I won't know how to do it, and the 8 will look at me like I'm an incompetent dipshit. You are damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Again. I'm in a similar situation with the same 8 boss as mentioned above, and my conclusion is the bold.
(And I'd just like to point out the wonderfully useless irony of this thread....asking 8's why you can't ask them. Funny stuff. Ha)
The best approach with 8s is: Be direct. If you've asked them once, and don't get it, ask someone else to explain in a different manner, if you cannot do that it is better to annoy them for clarification then do it wrong (just don't apologise over and over while you're asking), both approaches can be unappreciated but the latter is much worse.
Plus what Jock said.
Yea, I used to do this.
I don't even bother asking anymore though. It's to the point that I don't care about the 8 anymore. So if I get it wrong, it's cause I wasn't trained right, not cause I'm stupid, and not cause I didn't ask. Oh well for them, shit happens.