yeghor
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If I keep on the track I was on... achieving my goals would be difficult. Because I will always have to deal with people.
My guess is the third function in your cognitive functions, your Fe inferior (the first and second strongest are usually referred to as dominant function (dom) and auxillary function (aux) here in the forum), is starting to develop...
One reason I chose Fi as well... was I compared myself to my friend. I will give you a real situation...
we meet a guy... this guy is, to me, weird. My friend would try to please this guy because he makes her feel good even though she knows he's kind of shady... while I would just be *meh* about him because I have concluded that interaction with him is pointless. In our class as well, I would be okay interacting with people... but I don't crave it. This friend of mine seem to have the inherent ability to level with people while I have to rely on learned strategies. It doesn't help that I don't proactively interact with other people as well.
Is it like the guy's stroking her ego (like praising her, calling her beautiful, sexy, [insert positive adjective]? And does she seem to be aware of that happening?
So does her interactions feel more naturally flowing whereas yours feel more "mechanical/artificial"...?
but I'm painfully aware that the outer world can be easily controlled... so many people are just oblivious to it or lazy.
Controlled how for instance? Te control is much more straightforward (overt)...Is it thru more covert (undercover/subtle) means?
Asking people... doesn't make me feel inferior. It's more a matter of trust. I distrust most people's knowledge. I know how easy it is for information to be misinterpreted or just be plain incorrect. However, there are people that have earned my respect. And I don't mind asking those people for information if I wasn't able to acquire it myself. Maybe it's also... because... when I find something on my own(information, different way of looking at things, a loophole in a system)... it's like a mini-achievement. It gives me joy.
How did you develop this distrust in people's reliability (in terms of information/knowledge)?
The achievement thing...is it like as if you have just solved a puzzle or mystery?
-In relation to other people around... I truly fear having to rely on them. It makes me anxious or irritates me sometimes when I know they are incorrect yet they are unaware of it and proud. Especially when it's someone who should know what they are talking about. And I'm just... "this is the best humanity has to offer?"... "please, let the answer to that be no.".
Do you have an irritation towards being (not necessarily permanently) put under or having to submit to someone else's authority (like the college dean, professor, security personnel)?...or abiding by the rules that you deem unnecessary/trivial?
-i have this friend who tested ISFJ. and sometimes she would say I said certain things that I can't remember. But with further probing... sometimes a feeling would bubble up and I would get the thought that yeah... I said those things. So... I can't explain it. I would just tell my friend that I don't remember though... it's easier.
Do you feel that you kinda live in the moment and do not dwell too much on the past?
[Based on a real description by RL friend] Does it feel like multiple people/voices are holding a conference in your head when concentrating on an issue? Like several ideas/perspectives are rushing/racing in your mind simultaneously?
That same friend also has a habit of forgetting (or putting behind) what he has said in earlier instances...It feels to me as if his mind is geared towards short term, fast and deadly accurate analysis of whatever situation is intriguing him at that specific moment and is then discarded/forgotten when it ceases to amaze/intrigue him any longer...
-i'm fairly good at explaining... but not at storytelling. Because... well, they don't really get my stories. The stories my friends seem to prefer are those about each other or other people. I usually am better at explaining how things work or coming up with theories. I can mimic small talk since I'm exposed to it a lot. But it has to be spaced out and not prolonged. I'm so much better at storytelling in the written form though.
-the magic number is 22.
I believe as you age (like 26-27) your Fe-inf will get more stronger and you'll find yourself to be able to feel the pulse of people much better (like what triggers them, what makes them happy, laugh etc.) and you'll be able to conjure up witty stories in an instant that will make whatever crowd you are with at the moment burst into laughter...You'll also find that it can also be used to hurt and/or drive people away, sadly...
...I shut my friend out. And then the next thing I heard was my friend saying "Hey, you suddenly stopped talking. What happened?". It's like I mentally vacated the premises.
Like a hiding spot in your mind that you take refuge in?
2.) When my grandmother shared my room. She would tell stories... a lot of them. And I would just lie there in bed... with actual tightening in my chest... wishing that she would just stop.
Could it be you are irritated by too much sensory information (like talking, detailed descriptions of events...)?
3.) I was the assigned leader of this group for a school project. We were practicing our parts. And they were just soooo unprepared. What worsened it for me was... they knew it. They knew they weren't prepared yet they continued to slack, make jokes, catch up on irrelevant business. They were mingling and having fun. And I was just sitting there... in the midst of all that. I couldn't take it. I just left. I abandoned them and went somewhere to breathe.
Were you irritated more by their unreliability or lack of qualification or by their small talk and chit chat? What negative thought popped into your mind to make you leave them? Did you fear that you were losing control and would act irrationally?
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And a few more "weird" questions from me?
Do you have a habit of not tying your shoe laces or not really giving a damn about what you wear?
Are you irritated by being hugged or close contact?
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