^ that's what I say, but my explanation to marm is long overdue ...
I do think Marm is some sort of EFJ, but ENFPs can very much be harsh and directive -- we are Te-tertiary after all. I am both.ENFJ????
I just don't see it.
Edit:
Hmmmm...but on second thought, I did once think you might be NFJ....
.....and there is some quality about the way you speak, Marm, that doesn't gel with ENFP for me...
...maybe a certain harshness?
....not sure what it is, but maybe it has something to do with "directive" vs "informative".
......hmmmm........
ENFJ????
I just don't see it.
Edit:
Hmmmm...but on second thought, I did once think you might be NFJ....
.....and there is some quality about the way you speak, Marm, that doesn't gel with ENFP for me...
...maybe a certain harshness?
....not sure what it is, but maybe it has something to do with "directive" vs "informative".
......hmmmm........
You have a decisive and energetic quality about your writing, in your expressions and in your eyes - it's an energy I associate with ENFJ. You don't tolerate fools; although you will argue a point of feeling it's not about being understood so much as it is about being heard and acknowledged and being right. You can act impulsively, but you do it with the energy of precision, rather than simply fleeing. You actually do make a decision too! You moved to Cali, which some could say was impulsively ENFP, but you did it with a swiftness that belies procrastination.
You seek to engage the group, you know how to work a group, you know how to channel a group and you are not afraid to use those skills. You are not afraid of your own body; it is not alien to you and you use it to interact with the world, which to me suggests a good use of Se.
Nor do you suffer fools. You know what you think is right or wrong and you don't shy away from hitting that head-on.
That's not to say you aren't an ENFP; I just see more Fe in you than you perhaps realize. That being said, though, your Fi is not inaccessible to you and you can slip to the usage of it in stress times, then hurling those ruminations out to the world via Fe.
(Forgive any folk typology.)
These are the vibes I sense and the sentences above are intended to give some shape to them. I hope that helps a little.
You have a decisive and energetic quality about your writing, in your expressions and in your eyes - it's an energy I associate with ENFJ.
I think these videos illustrate the difference in communication styles between ENFJ and ENFP:
[YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vQKBdXk-6s"]ENFJ[/YOUTUBE]
[YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P1JyXOljBwU"]ENFP[/YOUTUBE]
Though both are energetic and outgoing, there is a HUGE difference in the form the energy takes.
I would describe it as Hard vs Soft, Harsh vs Gentle, etc.
(Yes, the guy says he's a "Moderate E", but I really think that's beside the point.)
And I definitely think Marmalade sounds more like the ENFJ than the ENFP---by a LONG shot.
Wow that's actually pretty impressive. How long did it take you to find a chick that pretty much talks exactly like me?
Is there a reason you don't want to be ENFJ? If indeed that was accurate?
I always thought of you as an ENFJ who mistyped herself.
Like Little_Linguist, you're EISNFTJP.