what's a "real man"

[Peter Deadpan]

I absolutely hate the phrase "real man."

I'm almost more an advocate for men's emotional health than anything else and it pains me to see the detrimental effects caused by the pressure to "be a man." You guys might actually suffer more than anyone else, and in turn it affects everyone in the most tragic of ways.

But if you really want to melt me and have me worship your manliness, you will both protect me and let me protect you.
Now who wants to put their head in my lap and let me massage their scalp?

 

[Mole]

To say someone is not a true man is tantamount to saying someone is not a true Scotsman.

And not a true Scotsman is a logical fallacy, and so not a true man is also a logical fallacy, click on No True Scotsman - RationalWiki

 

[ChocolateMoose123]

Kind of thinking of who I have said it about and why and I realized it's a pretty abstract concept to lock down!

A "real man" is an ideal. So not everyone is going to meet it and one persons definition of a "Real Man" is another persons "Everyday Guy" lol.

For me: There is an ineffible quality to a "Real Man". He is self-sufficient. Usually has some age/maturity behind him. He has something he takes pride in and nurtures. Whether that is a talent, accomplishment, job, family, etc.

He just has well-rounded strength, conviction and character. Like old leather. Worn in at the right places. Tough and soft. He tries to thread the best line between those two things and does a decent job most of the time. A real man is a good person.

 

[1487610420]

a programmer. cuz we're all living in a computer simulation made by Him.

 

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

 

[Doctor Cringelord]

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Lol

 

[violet_crown]

I probably say "grown" where others might say "real man".

A man who's grown is just someone who is decent and secure in himself. Somewhere in that is also that he has the means and wherewithal to live his life on his own terms. Self-actualizing, in other words.

I think everyone should try to be grown if they can manage it.

 

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

Right on! I want a White Russian right now, ha.

 

[1487610420]

I probably say "grown" where others might say "real man".

A man who's grown is just someone who is decent and secure in himself. Somewhere in that is also that he has the means and wherewithal to live his life on his own terms. Self-actualizing, in other words.

I think everyone should try to be grown if they can manage it.

 

[Ursa]

I don't even know anymore - and I don't care. Why should you? What matters is how people treat each other.

 

[nonsequitur]

Now who wants to put their head in my lap and let me massage their scalp?

I would but I don't think you'd like it. Headlice and all. (also not a man, but unimportant.)

To me, the words "real man" say more about the speaker than the person who it's directed at.

I see it as a form of emotional/social manipulation directed at pride to get him to do what you want in the moment.

I never use those words, it disgusts me. Same with being a "proper lady" (heard that a lot in my school days) or "a good parent".

 

[jcloudz]

Autonomous

 

[Peter Deadpan]

We can tell.

 

[violet_crown]

Ok everyone should try to be grown, except phobik. He can just stay a phobik.

Not 100% related, but I feel like Sting somehow shouldn't have made it out of 2016. Jus' sayin.

 

[1487610420]

Ok everyone should try to be grown, except phobik. He can just stay a phobik.



Not 100% related, but I feel like Sting somehow shouldn't have made it out of 2016. Jus' sayin.

We can tell.

 

[Peter Deadpan]

Well you really wasted no time in trolling me from the start, so I'm not sure why you don't think that would shape how I view you. Maybe be a little more... human? Nice? Or is that a 4-letter word to you? I'm just not sure yet but feel free to prove me wrong.

 

[1487610420]

Well you really wasted no time in trolling me from the start, so I'm not sure why you don't think that would shape how I view you. Maybe be a little more... human? Nice? Or is that a 4-letter word to you? I'm just not sure yet but feel free to prove me wrong.

Damn, I hate it when people can read my thoughts, that's so fucking creepy.

 

[Peter Deadpan]

Damn, I hate it when people can read my thoughts, that's so fucking creepy.

That's what I do

Maybe we aren't so different though. We both like Shibas and a bit of trolling

 

[1487610420]

That's what I do

Maybe we aren't so different though. We both like Shibas and a bit of trolling

wink wink nudge nudge

 

[violet_crown]

When y'all get married, I wanna be the flower girl!