haha. yeah, i only know of two for sure INTJ's and both are incredibly socially inept.
both of them i've introduced to a great number of people, however no one ever recalls them because even having been introduced, they keep their selves elusive.
...he loves in fact making things in order, mentor someone to take over and then step aside and be the 'puppeteer' on the side, so he doesn't keep the spotlight but still has all the power...
As you know, I have one of you at home and imo, you come off E when you're looking to have a good time or when you're forced to step up and lead. SeTe basically. Mine tends to sigh reluctantly at the responsibility of having leadership, but secretly enjoys is. Once he gets into it though, everyone knows he's in the house. He, however, does not prefer to stay in charge, he loves in fact making things in order, mentor someone to take over and then step aside and be the 'puppeteer' on the side, so he doesn't keep the spotlight but still has all the power :rolli: This stuff does require him having time to strategize and plan in advance, and he doesn't like to be tossed into it. As for Se, once he was comfortable with my friends (who became our friends), he became more extraverted with them than I am, especially if he's decided is going to have a drink as well. Se all the way. He just cannot keep it up for a long time.
As for socializing, young INTJs are incredibly fun and cute in their socialization process. There a certain dilligence and methodicalness to it, with a clear goal in mind. It's especially interesting to watch when they've decided it's time to find someone to share their life with, and they're gathering and processing data...which incidentely usually means *you* (especially if you're enfp )
INTJs don't socialize. We network.I was honestly unaware that INTJ's socialized.
I think, sometimes, confidence can be misconstrued as extroversion. INTJs probably the most confident INs (speaking in broad generalities).
I'm not necessarily sure how to explain to types who don't have an inferior extroverted sensing anima/id exactly how awkward, hideous and scary it can be. To engage with the world we start to drop out of our high level happy and content introverted intuition bubble and it's a very angry and confused battle to return to there, especially if we are suddenly jolted back into reality.
Yes we can socialise, once we have sufficiently categorized the external information into the relevant Te boxes so that we know what is expected and we know how our environment will feed us back sensory information.
This.
INTJs' confidence, IMO, really does lend a veneer of extroversion. After all, extroversion is so often stereotypically (and erroneously) associated with confidence. (I said 'erroneously' because no doubt introverts can be confident as well - it's just that most people don't know it because, for all their lives, they've been fed the stereotype that introvert = lack of self-esteem, shyness, etc... So when they do come across a confident introvert, they mistakenly type them as extrovert.)