JoanneAugust
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- Aug 9, 2023
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
So I have known I'm an INFP for years, but I've always had a hard time figuring out my Enneagram - that's because I basically relate to all and none. 4 definitely fits to a degree, but I'm not sure it's the most fitting. I finally settled on 6 because my life is quite dominated by fear (I have GAD).
However, recently I've come to notice I'm controlling. I mean, I haven't just noticed it, but I've started to notice just how many parts of my life are dominated by this. I've always considered myself stubborn and opinionated, but I'm actually so perfectionist that I feel like I cannot entrust anyone with anything, I need to do it myself. At work, I want to be involved in every process, answer every question, make sure myself that nothing goes wrong (which is impossible, as anyone who has ever worked as a waiter knows). With friends, I need to take the lead - I just can't let things be. Or I'm just learning to which is really embarrassing at my age. I HATE accepting that I have flaws, let alone show others. I'd rather swallow my feelings until I explode than adress them early on, so most fights I'm involved in are really nasty because everything just comes out at once.
This sounds a bit like type 1 to me, or am I mistaken? I used to think I just had 8 in my tritype and that was that, but maybe I'm actually a core 1? And what would be the wing anyway? I'm NOTHING like either 2 or 9.
However, recently I've come to notice I'm controlling. I mean, I haven't just noticed it, but I've started to notice just how many parts of my life are dominated by this. I've always considered myself stubborn and opinionated, but I'm actually so perfectionist that I feel like I cannot entrust anyone with anything, I need to do it myself. At work, I want to be involved in every process, answer every question, make sure myself that nothing goes wrong (which is impossible, as anyone who has ever worked as a waiter knows). With friends, I need to take the lead - I just can't let things be. Or I'm just learning to which is really embarrassing at my age. I HATE accepting that I have flaws, let alone show others. I'd rather swallow my feelings until I explode than adress them early on, so most fights I'm involved in are really nasty because everything just comes out at once.
This sounds a bit like type 1 to me, or am I mistaken? I used to think I just had 8 in my tritype and that was that, but maybe I'm actually a core 1? And what would be the wing anyway? I'm NOTHING like either 2 or 9.
