These are things that seem like INFJ hang-ups to me, based on the several years of communicating about it in this forum.
People getting really pushy. There is a kind of pushiness/oafishness of someone who rather clearly feels entitled to dictate shared reality in a self serving direction with shoddy rationalization that drives me up the wall.
For example, I know a guy who dated a woman that wasn't ready to have sex - and this guy would go on and on about how he wanted an "adult relationship," implying that not wanting sex in a relationship was immature. I think it's a manipulative and vile tendency.
Inconsistency. I don't always see it as duplicity, necessarily - conscious or unconscious - but it does chip away at the sympathy I feel for the person's experience. For "The Boy Who Cried Wolf" reasons. Or when people hypocritically dish out stuff they can't take themselves.
For example, I have a friend who called me once after a date because he had a panic attack while he was at her place and she practically shoved him out the door saying things like, "I really don't need a project right now, I get enough of this from family members, etc." He felt really disturbed by her reaction and called me to vent about it for nearly an hour. But the same guy has broken up with a girlfriend because she gained weight (and he was honest about it), and called me to vent about how he felt like he shouldn't feel bad about it. I didn't exactly know how to say it at the time (because I didn't even really immediately know what rubbed me wrong about it, let alone how to articulate why I thought it was hypocritical), but either we can strongly feel that others should modify how they present the truth to be careful of how it makes others feel should *or* we can strongly believe that others should have enough resilience to hear unfiltered opinions. Double standards like that make it difficult for me to empathize or even sympathize with the difficult experiences behind values that change according to what end the person is on.
Or there's stuff like telling me in a private conversation that they can't really stand someone, yet seeing them converse with the person in an animated way - that indicates duplicity to me. Not malevolent duplicity, but enough that I don't really trust what they have to say.