What pisses me off about ESTJs is that they won't let me be an ESTJ, too. Jerks.
Sometimes Te scares me because it can be quite abrasive at times and I am pretty sensitive. But it's okay, I'm in love with all ESTJs simultaneously.
Let me offer you some much-needed advice...It's based on a small sample size but the two ESTJs I know offer advice when it's not needed or welcome. I'm sure they think they are being helpful, but they're not.
FWIW, we don't like that imbalance either. But we have no one to blame but ourselves.Their discomfort with emotion can cause problems in how I relate to them. They find vulnerability really difficult and sometimes can unwittingly try to maintain the upper hand as a means of self protection. They are great teachers, but find it really difficult to accept help or comfort from other people. As colleagues or acquaintances, it's no problem, but for closer relationships it creates an imbalance that I dislike.
In genral Te and me dont mix well as when someone attempts to get me to follow a Te system I feel as i am not at my full Ti potential so to speak.
Ti creates systems, dont hold us down from our ability to create systems. Thats just wrong.
The ones that I know tend to be overconfident in their opinions and don't listen very well to alternate viewpoints. It can be frustrating working with them because of this impatient interaction style combined with those things. What ends up happening is you don't even try to educate them when they are wrong because it's not worth the effort.