Wow. You really have some issues with your type.
Yeah, I do. It never did much for me, and it's only getting worse.
I don't really see Sensing as "good" or "grounded" like that. It's useful, but useful isn't necessarily better.
That depends on your personal values, doesn't it? I happen to think that yes, useful is better. Which is why I would happily trade my DomNi for an AuxSi (and I'd still have TerNe, so it's not like I would be entirely deprived of iNtuition anyway).
And I really think it's too bad you're in a position where your weaknesses are emphasized.
I was *always* in such a situation! There was NEVER in my life a time when being an INFJ was an unmitigated advantage. *If* it was an advantage for something, then it was always an advantage I had to pay a huge price for in some form or other.
I think you should consider changing your expectations of yourself to fit your needs, rather than trying to change your needs to fit your expectations of yourself. That's not easy, of course, but... Does that make sense?
Not completely, because I'm not sure what you mean by "needs". What I do know, though, is that there are things in my life that I just HAVE to do - and that I not only don't know how to do, but RESENT having to do, because it goes straight against my grain. Attending to Sensing stuff, following routines, stuff like that just KILLS me inside - and yet there is simply NO WAY I can escape it. I'm not a pure spirit, my family are not pure spirits, and we don't live on a cloud: as distateful as it might be to my excessively Introverted and iNtuitive self, that's reality and I've got to deal with it.
That said, I do feel bad about myself a little when I compare myself to ESxx types and see how good their social skills are. But all I have to do is look at how awkward some NT's are, and then I realize that I'm still pretty well-off in many ways.
The "look how much better you have it than X or Y" trick has never worked on me. If anything it makes me feel worse.
Also, I've learned to appreciate my abilities to understand what I read in a more lucid way, to figure out someone's motivations, etc.
Oh sure, I appreciate, even love those abilities! But I love OTHER abilities better. I'd much rather be practical, efficient, and all those things people have listed about ESFJs. It's like: I love coconut, but I love chocolate even more. That's not a statement about coconut itself, it's just a statement about me preferring chocolate. I love what I can do as an INFJ, but I'd love to be able to do what ESFJs do even better - far better.