You know, I used to be glad I was a girl. I liked it. I failed to see how it was a problem.
And then over the last few years, I've slowly come to resent it and have actually considered undergoing a sex change. Pretty much every horrifying thing in life has happened to me because I'm female.
- I got attacked by thyroid disease, which typically tends to happen to women. I likely wouldn't have gotten sick at all if I were male.
- The doctors laughed me out of the office when I tried to get help for it, telling me I was "being hysterical" and "it's all in your head, honey". Questioning my intelligence when I disputed this. I know there's such a thing as medical paternalism which can affect both sexes, but I strongly suspect that this wouldn't have happened if I were male. I spent the next 3 years ill and unwilling to get it treated by a doctor. If only someone could have taken me seriously!
- NEVER having anyone listen to me or respect me when I tried to teach. I'm pretty sure if I were male, I wouldn't have had the discipline problems I did.
- ALWAYS being put in charge of small children despite the fact that I HATE children and don't know how to manage them. Ah but I'm a female. I'm NURTURING. Ha ha.
- ALWAYS being targeted and expected to give "charitable donations" to beggars, because women are more compassionate than men.
- Resentments against being perceived as an "easy western woman"...which automatically seals off any potential sexual encounter I might have entertained. Men constantly assuming that the way into my heart is to be romancey and floral and making sentimental statements about marriage and babies ew ew ew ew EW when I know they're just looking for a green card (I also concede, I think there are parallels with men in this case, but just, ew, the terms).
- Having my old laptop stolen because I'm physically weaker and therefore couldn't fight them off when they attacked me.
- Having my inheritance stolen from me in inequitable courtroom disputes, because I'm a woman and therefore am "going to get married one day" so that guy claiming to be my brother might as well take my share.
- Being constantly referred to lawyers because they're girls and I'm a girl and so therefore that's the best criterion for referring me to them. Not costs or expertise, nope. And that's how I lost the case.
- Constantly being treated like I don't understand the bottom line in negotiations and being offered bad deals cause they assume I'm too dumb to figure it out (I concede this might not have to do with gender, but with their own stupidity and lack of bottom line thinking, or predatory behaviour in general).
- Having a depressive episode from a boss who was CONSTANTLY ragging me for my hair, my makeup (or lack thereof), my nail polish, my clothes, my sense of fashion...etc. This person...made me loathe the people of Japan and created a shit ton of suffering for me, exacerbating my already onerous body image issues. She wouldn't have treated a man like that.
- Being judged solely by appearance and the condition of my reproductive system. Not being allowed to age (more body image issues). Knowing that I'm worthless past the age of 30 or 40 or 50, invisible, unable to find a partner, get hired for anything else and...well. I have enough depression to deal with right now.
- Knowing I can never be president of the United States.
- Instead of acknowledging there are legitimate reasons in life I'm angry or upset, being dismissed like "Are you on your period?" or just snarky "PMS" rumblings. No respect. Just none. And I don't even suffer from PMS! I hate the assumption that "all women do", since I'm pretty sure it's not even the majority that get mood swings.
- Knowing that there's an entire contingent of angry young men out there who hate me solely because I'm a woman and I'm a pampered princess with alllllll these advantages over them.
I haven't found that being a woman protects me from anything...I don't get free drinks, I don't get ahead "cause I'm pretty", I can't just have sex with anyone I want, and I have suffered from plenty of abuses and nastiness in life--sorry guys, we're all in the same boat.
I recognize the stupidity inherent in some of the other answers as well--I've dealt with this for many years. The way people expect me to be a giggly bubbling idiot, instead of contained and serious. Always being told to smile like a performing monkey. Putting up with the stupid bullshit of other girls saying one thing and meaning another and somehow they all understand these secret signals and I don't. How I'm expected to fawn all over babies and want to hold them. Yeah, I hate all that stuff. Just, I hate the things that have had real world consequences even more.
One more thing, this pisses a lot of women off, but I haven't found I was ever subject to harassment, constant catcalling, stalking, etc. Maybe I just wasn't attractive to the guys, idk. Maybe some girls project--I've certainly never seen this behaviour directed toward anyone else either, actually. Maybe it's just that I convey that I'm off-limits somehow. I can recall one instance in my life where I was groped on a bus, and I stomped the guy's bare toes so hard that he screamed and ran away and, hopefully, maintained proper boundaries thereafter. I don't know, but for the record, I haven't ever felt like I was in danger specifically because I was a girl, so that's one bad thing I managed to avoid.