I should learn more about stacking. it sounds interesting and maybe somewhat helpful. Best resources?
I should learn more about stacking. it sounds interesting and maybe somewhat helpful. Best resources?
There's the link that ceecee gave, Stackings * EnneaSite, The Three Instincts — Enneagrammer, and Instinct Stacking — Enneagrammer, Instinct Stackings Scrapheap: Collection of Notes, enneablog, this thread: What's Your Instinctual Stacking? that has a large number of links...
No likes or dislikes, only acceptance and subsequent accommodations.
It doesn't make any sense to me to apply a black and white model. You exist as such, so work with the foundation.this is more or less how i think of these things...
I agree with the above, except I have long known the answer to the highlighted, and am fine with that bargain. I used to struggle with that balance more when I was younger, but learned it isn't worth it. Being included for the sake of it, or with other people for the sake of it, is empty and worse than being alone. To the extent that I am alone, it is because being with others has been stressful, unpleasant, counterproductive, or other negative things.What do I dislike about it? The eternal struggle between human connection and independence is very real. (But isn't that just the human condition? Is this really different from anyone else?)
And be easily summed up by such phrases as
“ I am an island.â€
“ I am the master of my own universeâ€
“ If I want something done I have to do it myself!â€
and “ Why am I so alone?â€
I agree with the above, except I have long known the answer to the highlighted, and am fine with that bargain. I used to struggle with that balance more when I was younger, but learned it isn't worth it. Being included for the sake of it, or with other people for the sake of it, is empty and worse than being alone. To the extent that I am alone, it is because being with others has been stressful, unpleasant, counterproductive, or other negative things.
No likes or dislikes, only acceptance and subsequent accommodations.
To feel fulfilled, I need deep intimacy in relationships so I've learned to partner only with men who also need the same. It's a neutral observation.What have you had to accept or accommodate?
That is a lot of information. Thanks.
I know someone I trusted here typed me as Sp/Sx and I read up on a little at the time.
SP itself doesn’t like me at all, but just as an 8 with a 6 in the tri-type transforms it somewhat the sp with sx combination seems very applicable
What do I dislike about it? The eternal struggle between human connection and independence is very real. (But isn't that just the human condition? Is this really different from anyone else?)
And be easily summed up by such phrases as
“ I am an island.â€
“ I am the master of my own universeâ€
“ If I want something done I have to do it myself!â€
and “ Why am I so alone?â€
What do I like about it? Sheer resilience "So I’m alone. Bring on the world. I'll be the only one standing in the end."
Like I said, my knowledge on this subject is limited but there is nothing I know more than myself.
I agree with the above, except I have long known the answer to the highlighted, and am fine with that bargain. I used to struggle with that balance more when I was younger, but learned it isn't worth it. Being included for the sake of it, or with other people for the sake of it, is empty and worse than being alone. To the extent that I am alone, it is because being with others has been stressful, unpleasant, counterproductive, or other negative things.
I actually I feel the very same. I would never pretend to be someone I'm not, or to care about things that I don't just to get along. The very act of status seeking disgusts me ( part of why I hate memes so much) I especially agree with your assessment of being with others.
Still, feeling completely isolated and misunderstood is a pretty shitty place to be...though not so much that I would ever give up who I am to get out.
I agree with the above, except I have long known the answer to the highlighted, and am fine with that bargain. I used to struggle with that balance more when I was younger, but learned it isn't worth it. Being included for the sake of it, or with other people for the sake of it, is empty and worse than being alone. To the extent that I am alone, it is because being with others has been stressful, unpleasant, counterproductive, or other negative things.