BlueScreen
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NF said she wanted to be friends (doesnt everyone say that? lol) and I was like alright cool. TBH I think NF wouldve been better as a friend than GF any way so I was cool with that.
I think an INTJ I know put it best when he responded, "Why the f**k would I want to be your friend?". There is something almost evil about making someone hold onto a close connection and leaving them one step away. If it is going that way, many people would like closure either way, especially if they did care. They can move on and meet others, or get closer to you. Expecting them to be happy about being left in between is about the same as the catholic church expecting no one to masturbate. If they decide to try, cool! You can't really call them out if they don't though.
On that note, I think the topic doesn't have much to do with MBTi and has a lot to do with relationships. "All's fair in love and war". They are both extremes of humanity where simple logic doesn't cut it, or describe the behaviours of 500 million other people of the same personality type, or a few billion people of the same temperament. It's about you and her. You broke up, she moved on (in some sense). The context in which you could expect a different person to show the same behaviour analogously seems quite narrow. She will maybe have the same human behaviours as other people, but the choice probably comes down to the specific relationship and what works best for her. With this sort of thing I wouldn't give MBTi too much credit over the effects of life experience and learning.
p.s. I'm an NF, and I would've gone the friends with benefits, or gone the be friends with you if I thought they would be good.