I think that's unfortunate that you feel that way, for some people its a matter much more than "so theoretical", there can be huge implications involved and a sense of betrayal of A LOT besides any really felt terror that they could be tempting fate, divine wrath/indifference.
I've seen your other posts, so I dont want to fall out about this and also know your posting comes from a well intended place, in all likelihood a desire to challenge human, all too human, bigotry but I'd just say that sometimes deep seated concern about someones beliefs comes from a place of seep seated care and not any sort of wish to control. I'd also say that there's nothing wrong with choosing not to visit hurt upon loved ones either.
Though there I go mouthing off with stuff I should keep to myself again. And it being all of two or three posts since I said I wouldnt.