Oh good. Now we're getting somewhere.
Now, what I just displayed in the previous post was the ability to put my own feelings about this situation aside, and give a fair assessment of what you may be feeling given the way that you've interacted with me in this thread. I didn't just "find corresponding emotions within myself", I took time to think about things from your perspective, and understand your motivations. That is what it means to have the "capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within the other person's frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another's shoes." (here's a source for that in case you need the "
textbook").
Your response, however, is the point that I've been making for most of this thread. Rather than do the same in kind (i.e., ask yourself why I might hold the opinion that I hold, or why my differences from you might cause me to discuss those opinions in a diverging fashion), you have structured your entire response around how my interaction with you made
you feel. To wit:
You jumped on here to state your view that Fe users don't have empathy and then continued to reject the idea that perhaps there is more to empathy than your perception of it, rejecting what I said in particular.
Nothing in what you've said there makes me feel like you have a direct conduit into anything about me, nor are interested in having one. You are interested in having an interaction that you can walk away feeling good about, which is cool, but it's not empathy. This is what I was talking about when I said that I am highly skeptical of the Fe brand of empathy, especially in INFJs.
(That said, I'm not demonstrating a ton of compassion for what I do understand of you by calling you out like this, but that's kind of a separate issue...)
