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I made a thread on my family's types a really long time ago, but it was a slow era on the forum and it didn't get many replies, so I'm just going to make it all over again. Thoughts on Enneagram and possibly MBTI? Very curious.
Dad
-Clever, loves puns and jokes
-Personable and genuine. Wants coworkers to feel appreciated, tells jokes and actively listens to them.
-Extremely hardworking and says he is "lazy" when he lets himself take a break.
-Sensitive and worries what others think of him.
-Prone to melancholy and self-defeatism.
-Perfectionistic and way too hard on himself.
-Frugal, hates waste, reuses things until they physically break.
-Can be very self-absorbed when upset.
-Often a great person to talk to because he can relate and not overcomplicate things.
-Good at socializing but doesn't like parties, more likely to be approached than to approach others.
-"If it ain't broke, don't fix it."
-Doesn't cry a lot.
-Cynical.
-Gets upset about whether or not he is good, calls himself "bad" when down on himself.
-Bitter about childhood/past, talks a lot about negative memories.
-Talks a lot about his past.
-Can be shy and not likely to chit-chat with strangers.
Types I've considered: ISTJ, ISFJ, 1w2, 6w5, 6w7, sp/so
Mom
-Extremely friendly and welcomes new neighbors.
-Can talk to anyone including strangers, has a way of finding out stuff about people (had a long conversation with somebody and found the SAT scores of both the stranger and his son).
-Not always great at expressing herself through words, but does other things to make people feel loved (drives me to the store and buys me cake when I'm sad).
-Deeply dislikes inappropriate things and will walk out on movies with sex or excessive bad language.
-Can always find the good in bad situations, always has something to be thankful for.
-Unlike my dad, she does not talk a lot about her past.
-Inventive, knows how to fix or make things out of almost anything (fixed our microwave with Legos, built a door in our basement, etc.).
-Very mathematically and spatially oriented.
-Sometimes has views with very specific evidence from friends rather than findings within the scientific community.
-Selfless, puts up with a lot and still keeps going.
-"Shuts down" in conflict and copes it with by watching Netflix or eating food.
-Avoids debates/arguments and tries to tune out when they happen.
-Simultaneously self-assertive and doesn't mind sending back food, telling people they can't park in visitor spaces, etc.
-Sticks to the rules, even if they're silly.
-Assumes the best about people.
-Trusting and not cynical, unlike my dad.
Types I've considered: ESFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ, 9w8, 9w1, 2, so/sp, sp/so
Brother
-Polite and formal.
-I sometimes can't tell if he's being facetious or serious.
-Stays out of arguments, but has a strong sense of justice and will suddenly speak up on certain things.
-Helpful.
-Deep love of learning, reads science books and does math just for the fun of it.
-Excellent, model student; diligent, straight-A's, highly intelligent.
-Feels sad when people like him only for his intelligence/prodigy STEM skills, wants to be liked as a person.
-Cultured, loves to cook and try new things.
-Rarely brings up personal views and does not discuss feelings.
-Used to spend most of his of time alone in his room when younger, but has become much more open over the years and since he went to college.
-Keeps his cool and rarely, if ever, has displays of temper (but does get annoyed and snippy).
-Laughs at trivial and useless things, such as pointless projects in school, but only in private/with friends and is not vocal about it.
-Extremely respectful and well-mannered.
-Does not say that things are stupid; instead, he subtly mocks/imitates/exaggerates them to bring attention to their stupidity.
-Did not always belong as a kid and was slightly awkward, but has now found a place he belongs and is well-appreciated by everyone.
-Private; I wish I knew more about his views and feelings.
-Exceptionally logical and reasonable.
Types I've considered: INTJ, INFJ, INTP, 9w1, 1w9, 5w6
Sister
-Daring and doesn't mind some danger.
-Very insightful, makes metaphors when explaining tough topics. "It's kind of like a tree..." or "I see it as a swimming pool..." Then goes deeper into the metaphor.
-Hates feeling weak, wants to be strong and tough.
-Not a fan of optimism, silver linings, or rosy idealism.
-Slightly dark sense of humor.
-Says her purpose is to save lives and be a rescuer (interested in being an EMT).
-Needs to feel useful.
-Calls people out and doesn't take bullshit.
-Simultaneously very unassertive, stands up for others and for "justice" but not her own good.
-Nonchalant about much of life. Motto: "None of my affair."
-Exceedingly loyal and feels crushed when loyalty is not returned.
-Loyal to a small few and has trouble making new friends, often doesn't desire new friends.
-Immensely private. Even has separate passwords for each app on her phone, feels that many things are "too intimate."
-Needs to get out and drive/exercise, can't deal with being shut in all day.
-Good and noble person, but not friendly.
-Highly observant and analytical.
-Quiet and often somewhat unapproachable, intimidating.
-Says top values are belonging and impartiality.
-Can be animated or loud among a very close group of friends, then often feels bad afterward, feeling obnoxious.
-Paranoid that close friends hate her.
-Prone to sulking, melancholy, and pessimism.
-Impulsive and often in debt.
Types I've considered: ISTP, ISFP, INTP, ESTP, 6w5, 5w6, 9w8, 8w9, sp/sx, sx/sp
Thanks for reading thus far.
Dad
-Clever, loves puns and jokes
-Personable and genuine. Wants coworkers to feel appreciated, tells jokes and actively listens to them.
-Extremely hardworking and says he is "lazy" when he lets himself take a break.
-Sensitive and worries what others think of him.
-Prone to melancholy and self-defeatism.
-Perfectionistic and way too hard on himself.
-Frugal, hates waste, reuses things until they physically break.
-Can be very self-absorbed when upset.
-Often a great person to talk to because he can relate and not overcomplicate things.
-Good at socializing but doesn't like parties, more likely to be approached than to approach others.
-"If it ain't broke, don't fix it."
-Doesn't cry a lot.
-Cynical.
-Gets upset about whether or not he is good, calls himself "bad" when down on himself.
-Bitter about childhood/past, talks a lot about negative memories.
-Talks a lot about his past.
-Can be shy and not likely to chit-chat with strangers.
Types I've considered: ISTJ, ISFJ, 1w2, 6w5, 6w7, sp/so
Mom
-Extremely friendly and welcomes new neighbors.
-Can talk to anyone including strangers, has a way of finding out stuff about people (had a long conversation with somebody and found the SAT scores of both the stranger and his son).
-Not always great at expressing herself through words, but does other things to make people feel loved (drives me to the store and buys me cake when I'm sad).
-Deeply dislikes inappropriate things and will walk out on movies with sex or excessive bad language.
-Can always find the good in bad situations, always has something to be thankful for.
-Unlike my dad, she does not talk a lot about her past.
-Inventive, knows how to fix or make things out of almost anything (fixed our microwave with Legos, built a door in our basement, etc.).
-Very mathematically and spatially oriented.
-Sometimes has views with very specific evidence from friends rather than findings within the scientific community.
-Selfless, puts up with a lot and still keeps going.
-"Shuts down" in conflict and copes it with by watching Netflix or eating food.
-Avoids debates/arguments and tries to tune out when they happen.
-Simultaneously self-assertive and doesn't mind sending back food, telling people they can't park in visitor spaces, etc.
-Sticks to the rules, even if they're silly.
-Assumes the best about people.
-Trusting and not cynical, unlike my dad.
Types I've considered: ESFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ, 9w8, 9w1, 2, so/sp, sp/so
Brother
-Polite and formal.
-I sometimes can't tell if he's being facetious or serious.
-Stays out of arguments, but has a strong sense of justice and will suddenly speak up on certain things.
-Helpful.
-Deep love of learning, reads science books and does math just for the fun of it.
-Excellent, model student; diligent, straight-A's, highly intelligent.
-Feels sad when people like him only for his intelligence/prodigy STEM skills, wants to be liked as a person.
-Cultured, loves to cook and try new things.
-Rarely brings up personal views and does not discuss feelings.
-Used to spend most of his of time alone in his room when younger, but has become much more open over the years and since he went to college.
-Keeps his cool and rarely, if ever, has displays of temper (but does get annoyed and snippy).
-Laughs at trivial and useless things, such as pointless projects in school, but only in private/with friends and is not vocal about it.
-Extremely respectful and well-mannered.
-Does not say that things are stupid; instead, he subtly mocks/imitates/exaggerates them to bring attention to their stupidity.
-Did not always belong as a kid and was slightly awkward, but has now found a place he belongs and is well-appreciated by everyone.
-Private; I wish I knew more about his views and feelings.
-Exceptionally logical and reasonable.
Types I've considered: INTJ, INFJ, INTP, 9w1, 1w9, 5w6
Sister
-Daring and doesn't mind some danger.
-Very insightful, makes metaphors when explaining tough topics. "It's kind of like a tree..." or "I see it as a swimming pool..." Then goes deeper into the metaphor.
-Hates feeling weak, wants to be strong and tough.
-Not a fan of optimism, silver linings, or rosy idealism.
-Slightly dark sense of humor.
-Says her purpose is to save lives and be a rescuer (interested in being an EMT).
-Needs to feel useful.
-Calls people out and doesn't take bullshit.
-Simultaneously very unassertive, stands up for others and for "justice" but not her own good.
-Nonchalant about much of life. Motto: "None of my affair."
-Exceedingly loyal and feels crushed when loyalty is not returned.
-Loyal to a small few and has trouble making new friends, often doesn't desire new friends.
-Immensely private. Even has separate passwords for each app on her phone, feels that many things are "too intimate."
-Needs to get out and drive/exercise, can't deal with being shut in all day.
-Good and noble person, but not friendly.
-Highly observant and analytical.
-Quiet and often somewhat unapproachable, intimidating.
-Says top values are belonging and impartiality.
-Can be animated or loud among a very close group of friends, then often feels bad afterward, feeling obnoxious.
-Paranoid that close friends hate her.
-Prone to sulking, melancholy, and pessimism.
-Impulsive and often in debt.
Types I've considered: ISTP, ISFP, INTP, ESTP, 6w5, 5w6, 9w8, 8w9, sp/sx, sx/sp
Thanks for reading thus far.
Some of the major differences, I think, are that 1's come across as much more self confident, with an air of correctness; 6w5 on the other hand, walks smaller and has a more fragile hope about them (which can result in cynicism when broken, or loyal friendliness when not).
