I guess I don't personally view myself or my friends I was speaking of as 'neurotic'. I see us as all as functional, very emotionally aware, rather complicated, nuanced people. However, we are prone to some of the things that were called out earlier in this thread.
Does this mean ALL INFJ's experience this?? No. There just might be more of a correlation, that's all. Or, maybe not.
However, other types might view my tendencies, and thoughts, as 'neurotic', simply because they don't experience them themselves, and can't relate to it.
For what it's worth, I think *everyone* out there is neurotic in one way or another -- just in different ways. I guess I take the word with a grain of salt, because if someone points out all of my 'neurotic' tendencies, I'd easily be able to point out their disfunctional tendencies. Theirs would simply be different from mine.
So EVERYONE has things they're trying to work on, or 'issues' -- that's what I'm trying to say. I'm not trying to point fingers at anyone, and I don't think that was the intent of this thread.
This is why I brought up my mom as an example. She doesn't seem to have any of the trains of thought that I have, but one could argue she's much less functional in the world than I, because she's SO worried about nearly everything - things that I wouldn't be worried about. So I think the point is more that we all have our own issues/battles that we're fighting.
My friends and I are all in all quite happy with our lives, and 'successful'. But we also acknowledge that we are prone to depression at times -- just 'sad thoughts'. We don't sit there, but we're more prone to them, for sure, than my friends' husband, who is an ExTP. He can't relate whatsoever to my friend getting down every so often.
It's just something I've come to learn about myself - yes, I get 'down' every now and then. Yes, I am prone to anxiety about myself. But I have learned enough that so far I don't sit in that place indefinitely.
I also personally don't view every personality quirk as having something to do with mbti. I think there's a lot going on, that's outside of mbti.
But there also could be correlations, and I think the initial 'point'/question of the thread was to just explore those possible correlations.