The best and worst of Uber...

[The Ü™]

Oh, I am well aware that I invited honesty and sincere feedback...doesn't mean I'm not going to throw it back, especially when it is an emotionally charged bashing. The Graveyard and Fluff Zone are specifically for pointless threads like my "I'm thinking" blog. Seeing how everybody has good traits and bad traits, I expected both sides of the question to be answered rationally.

Didn't Edahn vote that he would date me in my dating poll a while back?

 

[heart]

To be fair, he didn't say he wouldn't date you here, he just commented on your posting.

 

[disregard]

I wouldn't take the results of that poll too seriously.

 

[The Ü™]

Dammit. I thought people voted because they found me interesting and would date me if distance wasn't a problem. That is if they were women or if I was gay.

 

[Geoff]

Perhaps the question to ask is...

Did you want affirmation of your worth?
Did you want honesty?
Did you just want some attention?

We all need some of those things, you state you want the second, but for most of us, we don't really want that. We are usually looking for the last, with the hope that the first will result.

 

[The Ü™]

Okay, Geoff is right. But I also want the affirmation to be honest.

 

[heart]

So this is your highest wish in life, that you were an interesting person? This is what makes you feel the most valued, when you are interesting?

Different people find different things interesting in people. I like seeing the emotional aspect in people or when people give a clue into why they tick. This makes people the most interesting to me, but others want something different.

 

[disregard]

Has it ever occurred to you that the reason that you are only receiving negative replies in this thread is because you might not possess a rainbow of redeeming qualities in the eyes of the members here?

 

[The Ü™]

Certain people here (I shan't mention whom) have said I was interesting, but they'll never tell me exactly what makes me that way, and the ambiguity is unsettling to me. I'd also like to know what made people turn against me. That's why I created this thing.

 

[Geoff]

They are probably one and the same : your tendency to break social rules, be offensive and argumentative, "different". That will interest a few, and annoy the many.

 

[heart]

Uber, people have told you, very bluntly...even right out on the boards what their issues are with you.

Is there something in you that is filtering the opinions out?

 

[ThatsWhatHeSaid]

I've had some time to think about what I said. Let me try and rephrase.

Lots of people have insecurities. I do too. I get irritated when your insecurities interfere with things that I value. That includes discussion on these threads.

What I see in you in, through your posts, is intense fear. Your fear dominates and suppresses your creativity and intuition, and what ends up coming out on these boards, much like this blog, is desperate attempts to be included, validated, liked, whatever. It's all the same thing.

Do you have redeeming qualities? I'm reluctant to say yes, because in doing so, I'll only feed your insecurities more. Validation is your drug, and every hit you get only makes you crave it more.

I can't blame you for having flaws. That doesn't do anything in the end, and I really dislike shaming others (and I apologize if I did that in my last post). I do hope you address what's going on for your own sake, and not just spin it into another ploy for validation.

 

[The Ü™]

I sometimes get upset by the insults directed towards me, not always, but sometimes. But I'm never moved by or believe the sincerity of the compliments. Why is that?

 

[disregard]

And just because someone does not agree with your behavior does not make them "against you". Edahn, Geoff, Heart, and myself, and others, would love to see you blossom and change.

Change in what way and why? Refer to the above post (Edahn's)

 

[heart]

I sometimes get upset by the insults directed towards me, not always, but sometimes. But I'm never moved by or believe the sincerity of the compliments. Why is that?

Even compliments given by people who have shown they are willing to tell you what they don't like as well?

 

[The Ü™]

I shouldn't have overreacted to Edahn's first post like I did. It didn't bother me that badly. It was a heat of the moment sort of thing. So I'm gonna delete the post I made after his.

 

[ThatsWhatHeSaid]

Why don't compliments sink in? Because it runs into conflict with your self-image which doesn't allow for compliments and is much more stable than the image of an outsider.

How did you come to decide that you don't deserve value?

P.S. I think you should keep all your posts, especially in a psychotherapeutic thread. They're all revealing, especially your angry posts.

 

[The Ü™]

Is there a way for the blog owner to move certain posts into a different blog topic?

Oh, and I think Edahn's next Einstein chalkboard avatar should say:

All work and no play makes Albert a dull boy.
All work and no play makes Albert a dull boy.
All work and no play makes Albert a dull boy.
All work and no play makes Albert a dull boy.
All work and no play makes Albert a dull boy.

 

[disregard]

Why don't you start a new topic and just do this:

Member 1: blah blah blah
Member 2 blah blah blah

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[Your ideas on what was said. A stimulating question.]

 

[Amargith]

Hey, I didn't realize you had a blog

I can relate to feeling insecure, and it does show that you are You do act pretty tough, but your tender heart sometimes shows, which is one of the reasons I did find you very interesting. It is also the reason I like exchanging banter with you

I had no idea you did get hurt by some of the things that are said to you, as you act often like you do not care. I also believe that your cynical view of women shows that you had some bad experiences with women and hope to open your mind just a little bit more in that perspective.

I realize that F isn't your thing in public, but it does feel good sometimes to vent those feelings, and if you want, you can always do that privately with someone you trust.

One last thing I like about you is your dry humor. Sometimes you hit the spot, other times you make a good attempt