This thread makes me laugh a lot more than I should. I don't know why though.
There is no button. It happens once in a blue moon. And yes, when betas try to include me at least (can't speak for other deltas) in their "play", I often don't see the point so I pull out, especially if I don't feel like it which is 99% of the case.
And I'm not sure you really want to know where things go wrong. It just tends to end up with frustration over the amount of misunderstandings on both sides eventually. If you want to find out, I'd suggest to not do it with me because I certainly am in no mood for that.
Yes, that's me being delta-grumpy so take that as an example.
Interesting. I can't say that I view Alphas that way most of the time. I find that I get fairly well with some Alphas, especially of the ENTP variety. Ti dominants in general are another story for another day though. Enneagram and other things would probably play more of a role overall though.
As for grumpiness, turn the frowns upside down, sunshine.

(I will refer to you as sunshine from now on just to piss you off

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Actually, I can do the Fe thing and I have done it. I have to be pretty provoked but there have been times when people have gotten out of hand with the insults and I have intervened. Hasn't happened that much but it's happened.
Also, there have been times where I have been tempted to intervene but experience or something told me to do so would be fruitless. Maybe it's my knowledge of the people- they are are the types that aren't going to care about hurting others' feelings and thus won't be receptive to feedback. Also intervening could make me a potential target for their verbal barbs.
Interesting. I have that attitude towards most things, but rather than drawing from experience I gauge whether or not I will be directly impacted by a situation and if I really cared enough to get involved in the first place.
No words. Just kick their ass. That works....sometimes.
Getting shit done is usually the best way to go about getting results I guess. Necessary evil I suppose.
Remember, you're speaking to someone who's likely Se vulnerable.
Kicking someone's ass isn't exactly in my repertoire of behaviors.
I don't think all Se base and creative types are apt to do so either.
Actually, I don't mind violence as a last resort despite being Se PoLR. I think a good slap in the face can sometimes say more than thousand words but most importantly, there comes to a point where a person gets so stuck up in their current "energy level" that simply trying to argue them out of it is not going to work. Then a kind but physical reminder helps to break our focus. It works on dogs, I know it also works on humans. LOL. It doesn't mean I think someone should beat someone else up senselessly though.
I don't think Se PoLR has to only appear as a feeling of being against violence or people who swear (well, if that's true, no wonder people think I'm an ESI and then I'm probably am one). It's more about an inability to process Se information and when delivered to you it just makes you feel very uncomfortable. As a perfect example, I'm a big fan of violent movies and games almost to the point where the bloodier the better (as long as it's stylish), but if someone tells me that a chair has only one point of use (Se + Ni), I'll immediately go, "no, think of all the other possibilities you can use a chair for!".
Also, it should be noted before someone says anything, that while I may think that stylish violence is entertaining on the big screen, it doesn't mean I think violence for the sake of power is ok. But controlled circumstances? Yes, definitely. As long someone is not hurt for real.
Your "Se hate" is kind of showing here. Albeit subtle.
Alphas: I feel like I should like alphas. They seem cheerful, creative, and generally well meaning, which are all good things, so I'm not really sure about the reasons behind the disconnect that actually exists. One thing that does rub me the wrong way about alpha NTs is their inclination to turn things that I take seriously into a theme of lighthearted speculation or joking. It's awkward and annoying.
Betas: Betas are colorful and exciting. I often find their style aesthetically pleasing, but their shenanigans and histrionics can get a bit too much for me to take. It's not hard to detach from it though. They are irritating but entertaining. The bulk of my experience with betas has been with IEIs. Some of them are lovely, others I want to punch in the face.
I'm tossing up gamma and delta for myself. There are things I identify with in both quadras and other things that I find uncomfortable to deal with.
Gamma: I admire gamma drive and focus, and I think they're capable of tremendous insight. However, it bothers me when they glorify being cruel and vindictive for no apparent reason other than to make a show of strength. They're hard to get to know because they are so self-contained and have a standoffish "I already have all the friends I need" attitude to new people, and those are both traits that I possess myself, so the initial barrier can be hard to breach. However, things proceed very well after that's been accomplished.
Deltas: Deltas seem like the "salt of the earth" quadra to me. I admire their patience, self-reliance, and humility, but honestly, they kinda make me feel bad about myself, like I'm just not as good a person, or like I'm an un-evolved member of their tribe. However, the same things that trigger feelings of inferiority or guilt can irritate me in other respects, because I frequently perceive them as preachy or boring. I get along very well with some of them but the others kind of blur together for me.
What you said about alphas and gamma were very interesting, and shows why I had a hard time placing myself in socionics at first when I looked at the quadra. My demeanor sometimes comes off as what you described as "typical alpha NT behavior" where I make fun of things that other people take seriously, but people who have really gotten to know me like [MENTION=16405]LeaT[/MENTION] would describe me as an overly ambitious and driven gamma to the point where it bores her. Even in reading about the values of the quadra, I find that I relate to both alpha and gamma quadra even though all the quadra are more or less annoying to be quite honest.
I wouldn't consider myself as deliberately vindictive, and I guess I just have a streak of self-preservation that might irk some people. If they can't deal with it, fine. As for friends and meeting new people, I guess I can come off as standoffish to some people. But I don't feel obliged to regard every person that I cross paths with in an "open, loving, kumbaya, fluff, bullshit" manner like some people do. Besides, whenever I do, it's all wrong and comes out weird. I act the way I do with people not because I like someone better or I dislike that person in particular, but I prefer to remain detached from and indifferent to the person.
After reading a lot of the responses and thinking a bit, I do think that a misunderstanding of or a certain attitude towards Se does play into the caricatures that Beta and Gamma quadra are painted with, though. It's like they are more or less somewhere between nature's assholes and drama queens if not both.
Actually, I am not so sure he is based on our interactions on PersC because there are several posts he's made that really reveals a heavy ST bias on his part (especially the way he types people, he thinks I'm an IEI and a cookie cutter one for example which couldn't be further from reality) but I won't argue the point.
Lol are we really talking about him still? Damn.
Why place him as a Beta though? It could work but I'm not sure if he's beta ST.
Fair enough. I haven't spoken to him much. I just know he self-typed that. Comes off sufficiently critical enough (but that doesn't exclude LSI, you're right).
In any case, I don't care that much about either MBTI or socionics. One is enough for me to juggle around in my head. I stick around here to bullshit mostly.
That's why I hang out on most forums too. Plus making fun of people and certain topics is actually kind of funny.
Of course, I think there's a lot to do with what Jung called persona also here. It's rare for people to get my actual gender right based on how I come across on a forum. I don't tend to flaunt with it because I find it to be mostly irrelevant information but I don't hide my preferences either. People just tend to associate certain ways of expressing yourself in text with a specific gender regardless of whether this is correct or not. I tend to come across as rather emotionless I guess and people also tend to make assumptions where they associate my persona with type. A lot of people have asked me if I'm an INTJ or suggest that I should retype to INTJ.
I think though ultimately our personality has little to do with our cognitive functions even though it's common and easy to mistake the two. So I am not sure if it's valid to say that someone can become INTJ-like or not since it's based on some stereotypical idea of what an INTJ is like to begin with which is kind of strange since I don't think there's any inform behavior what is uinque to INTJs. They all just happened to think with a preference towards Ni and T as their auxiliary.
But as we grow older and work more on our shadow integration and start accepting our shadow, I can however see how cognitively there can be more of a blur as the unconcious functions, especially the inferior, takes on less of an immature form.
If you're an INTJ, then ESFP, SEE-Se, CP 6w5 sx/sp is my legitimate typing across the board and my whole life has been a huge lie.
The funny thing is that I thought you were probably a female who probably doesn't express "feminine" personality traits when I first saw your posts on the other forum. Not sure what exactly gave me that impression.
I think it's amusing when people use stereotypes and certain mannerisms to justify why they think you are X type. On the cafe, I often get told that I come off as ENTPish because I like to troll types. On the other hand, people have told me that I can be very critical like an Fi dominant or E1. I'm lazy like a 9 or competency driven like a 3. So I've made it a point to keep trolling types to see what else people come up with as far as their perception of me is concerned.
As for what I think about the quadra specifically:
Alphas- Quite light in every sense of the word. It can be a very good thing, but when it's time to get down to business and come back to Earth a bit, my patience levels drop. Alpha NTs aren't so bad, some ESFj's are fine. ISFp's (MBTI's ISFJ) are people I don't always vibe with so well.
Betas- I find members of this quadra either cute and delightful or just 50 shades of obnoxious. The melodramatics are a bit of a turn-off, as well as the excessive focus on group atmosphere. It seems very draining to invest that much concern for the external environment I guess. SLE's and IEI's tend to be my favorites out of this batch though.
Gammas- I don't like how they are portrayed as cutthroat individuals who need to pull the sticks that are firmly lodged up their asses out, but this quadra is okay on the whole overall. That's probably because I find that they'd be the least bothered by my general attitude towards people I meet for the first time.
Deltas- They're okay too I guess, but I find that some of them trade functionality for style too much for my liking, and are aesthetes to a semi-obnoxious degree. Their brand of aristocracy is just weird to me compared to that of Beta quadra, I am not sure why though. The earthiness is cozy, but meh. They're amusing in their own way I guess, especially when it comes to the things that get them worked up. I attract all the Fi doms from this quadra it would seem.